Amritsar: Amritsar police have arrested the stepfather of 18-year-old Amrit Pal Kaur, who died under mysterious circumstances, and was cremated by her family members three days ago.
The teenage girl was a Belgium citizen. According to reports, the girl, who had recently returned from Belgium with her stepfather, was in in love with a boy, whom her parents did not approve of.
The police came to know about the incident on Tuesday evening. They are investigating the case on the lines of dishonor killing.
http://www.ndtv.com/article/cities/dishonour-killing-in-amritsar-stepfather-held-34781
May god bless the soul in peace for she did the mistake of coming to india. This place is becoming barbaric. No human values. North is becoming voilent. Look at kashmir.
i dont know what to write also.
Wednesday, June 30, 2010
How Life Can Still Be Calm In Tough Times
Have you recently felt overwhelmed or stressed? Does it seem like we are living in tough times? If you answered "Yes" to either or both, you are not alone. According to a new survey released by the American Psychological Association, 75% of adults have experienced moderate to high levels of stress in the past month, and almost half reported increased stress over the past year.
Often when we are stressed and overwhelmed, we are feeling out of control. Usually this is because we believe something or someone outside of us is in control or making us feel this way. In believing this we give away our personal power. Every time we say things like "I can't ___ because of ___" or "It's not fair." Or "Why is this happening to me? or Why is he/she doing this to me?" We are giving away our power and creating our own 'tough times'.
This brings to mind one of my favorite quotes: "It is not things themselves that trouble us, but our thoughts about those things" by an 1st century Greek philosopher (Epictetus). It is really our thoughts about things, people, situations outside of us (such as "I can't believe he's acting this way", or "I can't believe this is happening to me") that are troubling us. It is our thoughts that are creating the feeling of stress and overwhelm.
The good news is .. we can chose differently! We each are capable of changing how we react to someone or something outside of us. Our personal power lies in our ability to choose our thoughts and our reactions. This is where our control is. Then we can be calm even in tough times. When we become aware of our thoughts and reactions, we take back our power and no longer feel out of control.
The key is to create a new way of handling stress. That is how life can be calm in tough times ... with a new way of behaving and thinking when you are under stress. This can take time, practice and a support system. Often the support of a personal life coach is needed.
These 3 steps will support you to stand in your power. The more you practice these techniques on a regular basis the easier it will be to access them when you are stressed.
- 1. Breathe - Your breath is the best tool to help you relax. Count each inhale and exhale for a count of five. Take five inhales and five exhales. Simply placing your awareness on your breath will slow you down, relax the central nervous system and slow down your thoughts. This is the 1st step to choosing to think and react differently to stressful situations. Use your breath as a tool of support.
- 2. Slow down and check-in - Take a time out from being so busy and rushing around. If you notice you are flustered, take three minutes to slow down and check on yourself. Stop what you are doing. Take a deep breath and ask yourself, "How am I feeling right now?" "What might I do to feel more calm?" Be honest with yourself. Even if you don't feel stressed, you can practice taking a few minutes each day to purposely slow down and check in with yourself.
- 3. Choose calming thoughts - When times feel tough and we feel overwhelmed, we are focusing on what we don't like. We are spending precious time and energy on what we DON'T want. Remember it is our thoughts that cause us to feel stressed. For example, even if our boss, child or spouse says or does something we don't like, we can choose not to react. Then we can empower ourselves by asking "Okay, what do I have control over at this moment?" Often the answer might be: "My feelings, my thoughts, my reaction, my body, etc." If you were feeling calm, what might you be thinking? What is a calming thought for you? It could be something like "It is all okay'" Or "I have everything I need within myself" "I am capable". "Everything is unfolding as it is meant to." "I chose to act from love" "There is sunshine after the storm." Choose a thought that works for you. Practice!
By using the above steps you will be on your way to calm even in tough, challenging times. You will be choosing to think and react differently than before. And in doing so you will be learning about yourself and taking your power back. As Eckhart Tolle says in A New Earth, "How you react to people and situations, especially when challenges arise, is the best indicator of how deeply you know yourself."
Often when we are stressed and overwhelmed, we are feeling out of control. Usually this is because we believe something or someone outside of us is in control or making us feel this way. In believing this we give away our personal power. Every time we say things like "I can't ___ because of ___" or "It's not fair." Or "Why is this happening to me? or Why is he/she doing this to me?" We are giving away our power and creating our own 'tough times'.
This brings to mind one of my favorite quotes: "It is not things themselves that trouble us, but our thoughts about those things" by an 1st century Greek philosopher (Epictetus). It is really our thoughts about things, people, situations outside of us (such as "I can't believe he's acting this way", or "I can't believe this is happening to me") that are troubling us. It is our thoughts that are creating the feeling of stress and overwhelm.
The good news is .. we can chose differently! We each are capable of changing how we react to someone or something outside of us. Our personal power lies in our ability to choose our thoughts and our reactions. This is where our control is. Then we can be calm even in tough times. When we become aware of our thoughts and reactions, we take back our power and no longer feel out of control.
The key is to create a new way of handling stress. That is how life can be calm in tough times ... with a new way of behaving and thinking when you are under stress. This can take time, practice and a support system. Often the support of a personal life coach is needed.
These 3 steps will support you to stand in your power. The more you practice these techniques on a regular basis the easier it will be to access them when you are stressed.
- 1. Breathe - Your breath is the best tool to help you relax. Count each inhale and exhale for a count of five. Take five inhales and five exhales. Simply placing your awareness on your breath will slow you down, relax the central nervous system and slow down your thoughts. This is the 1st step to choosing to think and react differently to stressful situations. Use your breath as a tool of support.
- 2. Slow down and check-in - Take a time out from being so busy and rushing around. If you notice you are flustered, take three minutes to slow down and check on yourself. Stop what you are doing. Take a deep breath and ask yourself, "How am I feeling right now?" "What might I do to feel more calm?" Be honest with yourself. Even if you don't feel stressed, you can practice taking a few minutes each day to purposely slow down and check in with yourself.
- 3. Choose calming thoughts - When times feel tough and we feel overwhelmed, we are focusing on what we don't like. We are spending precious time and energy on what we DON'T want. Remember it is our thoughts that cause us to feel stressed. For example, even if our boss, child or spouse says or does something we don't like, we can choose not to react. Then we can empower ourselves by asking "Okay, what do I have control over at this moment?" Often the answer might be: "My feelings, my thoughts, my reaction, my body, etc." If you were feeling calm, what might you be thinking? What is a calming thought for you? It could be something like "It is all okay'" Or "I have everything I need within myself" "I am capable". "Everything is unfolding as it is meant to." "I chose to act from love" "There is sunshine after the storm." Choose a thought that works for you. Practice!
By using the above steps you will be on your way to calm even in tough, challenging times. You will be choosing to think and react differently than before. And in doing so you will be learning about yourself and taking your power back. As Eckhart Tolle says in A New Earth, "How you react to people and situations, especially when challenges arise, is the best indicator of how deeply you know yourself."
Monday, June 28, 2010
Sanskrit- Friends can we start- not too late.
London: Sanskrit may be resource starved and may find fewer pupils in India, but there are schools and universities in the UK where the language is thriving.
At the St James Junior School in London, the number of students wanting to learn the language has grown by leaps and bounds.
This chain of schools has been teaching Sanskrit since 1975. Over the years, to their surprise, they have found an increasing number of children keen on learning the ancient language, even though the script and pronunciation is difficult for English speakers.
As young students here recite Sanskrit verses from the Upanishads at the Annual Sanskrit Speech Competition, proud parents and teachers applauding their efforts
"It gives them brilliant linguistic training. Sanskrit scriptures are inspiring and full of philosophical concepts, which is why we teach it," said Warwick Jessop, the head of the school's Sanskrit department.
When asked if they find learning the language hard, most students said Sanskrit was their favourite as they enjoy the classes.
"Learning Sanskrit is unique. As not many people speak it now, it is special that we get to learn such a language. I enjoy learning Sanskrit because I suppose we are one of the few schools that study it and I feel that it benefits you in lots of different ways. As you saw, it helps in improving pronunciation and diction. I would say the spiritual benefits are also quite high. There are lots of different stories like the Ramayana and Mahabharata and there are lots of different ways of describing what was happening in the world ages ago," said a student of the school.
The curriculum at the James Junior School is set for student aged between four and 18. After completing their levels here, students can go for courses at prestigious universities like Oxford, Cambridge and Edinburgh.
Read more at: http://www.ndtv.com/article/world/sanskrit-thriving-in-schools-in-uk-34267
At the St James Junior School in London, the number of students wanting to learn the language has grown by leaps and bounds.
This chain of schools has been teaching Sanskrit since 1975. Over the years, to their surprise, they have found an increasing number of children keen on learning the ancient language, even though the script and pronunciation is difficult for English speakers.
As young students here recite Sanskrit verses from the Upanishads at the Annual Sanskrit Speech Competition, proud parents and teachers applauding their efforts
"It gives them brilliant linguistic training. Sanskrit scriptures are inspiring and full of philosophical concepts, which is why we teach it," said Warwick Jessop, the head of the school's Sanskrit department.
When asked if they find learning the language hard, most students said Sanskrit was their favourite as they enjoy the classes.
"Learning Sanskrit is unique. As not many people speak it now, it is special that we get to learn such a language. I enjoy learning Sanskrit because I suppose we are one of the few schools that study it and I feel that it benefits you in lots of different ways. As you saw, it helps in improving pronunciation and diction. I would say the spiritual benefits are also quite high. There are lots of different stories like the Ramayana and Mahabharata and there are lots of different ways of describing what was happening in the world ages ago," said a student of the school.
The curriculum at the James Junior School is set for student aged between four and 18. After completing their levels here, students can go for courses at prestigious universities like Oxford, Cambridge and Edinburgh.
Read more at: http://www.ndtv.com/article/world/sanskrit-thriving-in-schools-in-uk-34267
One of the best question with a good answer i found on net by Rob McPhillips
Question
I have been dating a man for 2 years. He is still married on paper to a woman but has not been living with her for 15 years.
He wants to move in with me. And I want him to get divorced first but, he says he can’t do it now – he doesn’t know why (guilt, money family?).
His kids are all grown in their 30’s.
He says he feels nothing for his wife at all, but they are still friends, and he does see her on some holidays, etc (without me).
He says we should move in together and go from there. He says he truly loves me but to me if he loved me he would get divorced first.
I do love him and he says he would always take care of me. But it bothers me that he is still married and I would be living with a married man. He says that if we lived together that that might give him the push that he needs to get divorced.
What are the chances of this?
Would it be a big mistake?
He has told me he would do it but he just can’t right now. I know we could be very happy together – this is the only thing we fight about, and I guess it is to a point where he might feel that I am pushing him because he said he would do it – and I guess I am afraid that if we live together that he won’t.
My View (Answer by english author not mine)
The way I’m understanding your question is… can you allow yourself to love this man as he is or do you have to protect yourself from getting hurt or play by certain rules.
I spend a lot of time observing people and this is what I notice a lot. We make these ridiculous rules up that don’t really exist anywhere outside of our heads. And then we make our life a battle of trying to fit into these.
Do you know those kid’s toys that have a maze encased with glass? The ones with a little ball that you have to get into a hole. This is just like we often make our lives.
Essentially we all want to love and be loved. But we make loving us an assault course. And when someone fails in jumping through every hoop, we decide they don’t love us enough. Then we have to go out and make animals into pets because so few people get the unconditional love and affection we crave.
Throughout history every culture has set out rules and laws. Legal laws, the 10 Commandments, the Bible, the Upanishads, the Torah, the Talmud and so on.
These are all just different slants on the same information. None are definitive. If they were, after thousands of years, surely the world would have all fallen in to line by now. Yet today there are more interpretations, sects and schisms than ever before.
I like what Jesus said about this…
“The Law is a living thing. It is alive in a Man’s heart. Not set in stone”.
Each law creates a problem. Life is vast and varied enough – and the law incomplete enough in it’s wisdom – that there is a circumstance where it doesn’t apply. So there is a loophole or some problem that that law creates.
And what do problems lead to… Yes, you guessed it more laws. So there are always more laws, just to patch up the errors of past laws.
But when one group says my slant is the only true one. And another disagrees, this is where barriers arise between groups. As each tries to convince the other group, the differences become more and more important. They become more important because each side makes them more important. And the dynamics are exactly the same between individuals.
In religious differences, the issue becomes one of salvation. My way is right and so you must agree or salvation isn’t possible.
In relationships, the issue becomes one of love. My way is right or you mustn’t love me enough.
So my response to your question is…
Live with him or don’t live with him.
It’s up to you. But whatever you decide, if you try to force anyone into loving you in the way you feel you should be loved… you’ll end up feeling unloved. That’s just setting yourself up for torture about how unfair life is.
You see love comes in the form that we are able to give it. None of us are perfect. Sometimes we feel better than other times. And so we can give more. We can only love as much as we have to give. And we do that in our own way.
Now when someone tries to love you in the way that they can best – at that moment – and you reject that as not being good enough. They take that as rejection. They feel like a failure. Sooner or later they give up loving you. ‘It’s just too hard. I can’t do it anymore’, they’ll say.
Love is like water. Water flows to the easiest path. Block off one route and it will go to another, perhaps in less quantity. Block it off well enough and the water will go around it.
Same with love. Let people love you in the way they are capable of and you’ll have love flowing all over you. Block it out and you’ll feel less loved. Block it out well enough and you’ll feel completely unloved.
And why do people block it out… because they are afraid if they don’t protect themselves, they’ll get hurt. So they end up hurt by protecting themselves.
Aren’t we all such strange creatures?
You just can’t control life. But you can control how you experience life.
I have been dating a man for 2 years. He is still married on paper to a woman but has not been living with her for 15 years.
He wants to move in with me. And I want him to get divorced first but, he says he can’t do it now – he doesn’t know why (guilt, money family?).
His kids are all grown in their 30’s.
He says he feels nothing for his wife at all, but they are still friends, and he does see her on some holidays, etc (without me).
He says we should move in together and go from there. He says he truly loves me but to me if he loved me he would get divorced first.
I do love him and he says he would always take care of me. But it bothers me that he is still married and I would be living with a married man. He says that if we lived together that that might give him the push that he needs to get divorced.
What are the chances of this?
Would it be a big mistake?
He has told me he would do it but he just can’t right now. I know we could be very happy together – this is the only thing we fight about, and I guess it is to a point where he might feel that I am pushing him because he said he would do it – and I guess I am afraid that if we live together that he won’t.
My View (Answer by english author not mine)
The way I’m understanding your question is… can you allow yourself to love this man as he is or do you have to protect yourself from getting hurt or play by certain rules.
I spend a lot of time observing people and this is what I notice a lot. We make these ridiculous rules up that don’t really exist anywhere outside of our heads. And then we make our life a battle of trying to fit into these.
Do you know those kid’s toys that have a maze encased with glass? The ones with a little ball that you have to get into a hole. This is just like we often make our lives.
Essentially we all want to love and be loved. But we make loving us an assault course. And when someone fails in jumping through every hoop, we decide they don’t love us enough. Then we have to go out and make animals into pets because so few people get the unconditional love and affection we crave.
Throughout history every culture has set out rules and laws. Legal laws, the 10 Commandments, the Bible, the Upanishads, the Torah, the Talmud and so on.
These are all just different slants on the same information. None are definitive. If they were, after thousands of years, surely the world would have all fallen in to line by now. Yet today there are more interpretations, sects and schisms than ever before.
I like what Jesus said about this…
“The Law is a living thing. It is alive in a Man’s heart. Not set in stone”.
Each law creates a problem. Life is vast and varied enough – and the law incomplete enough in it’s wisdom – that there is a circumstance where it doesn’t apply. So there is a loophole or some problem that that law creates.
And what do problems lead to… Yes, you guessed it more laws. So there are always more laws, just to patch up the errors of past laws.
But when one group says my slant is the only true one. And another disagrees, this is where barriers arise between groups. As each tries to convince the other group, the differences become more and more important. They become more important because each side makes them more important. And the dynamics are exactly the same between individuals.
In religious differences, the issue becomes one of salvation. My way is right and so you must agree or salvation isn’t possible.
In relationships, the issue becomes one of love. My way is right or you mustn’t love me enough.
So my response to your question is…
Live with him or don’t live with him.
It’s up to you. But whatever you decide, if you try to force anyone into loving you in the way you feel you should be loved… you’ll end up feeling unloved. That’s just setting yourself up for torture about how unfair life is.
You see love comes in the form that we are able to give it. None of us are perfect. Sometimes we feel better than other times. And so we can give more. We can only love as much as we have to give. And we do that in our own way.
Now when someone tries to love you in the way that they can best – at that moment – and you reject that as not being good enough. They take that as rejection. They feel like a failure. Sooner or later they give up loving you. ‘It’s just too hard. I can’t do it anymore’, they’ll say.
Love is like water. Water flows to the easiest path. Block off one route and it will go to another, perhaps in less quantity. Block it off well enough and the water will go around it.
Same with love. Let people love you in the way they are capable of and you’ll have love flowing all over you. Block it out and you’ll feel less loved. Block it out well enough and you’ll feel completely unloved.
And why do people block it out… because they are afraid if they don’t protect themselves, they’ll get hurt. So they end up hurt by protecting themselves.
Aren’t we all such strange creatures?
You just can’t control life. But you can control how you experience life.
Happiness
Happiness is Easy and Natural. Here’s The Formula…
Since our earliest days Philosophers have often queried and theorised on what it takes to be happy. Wars have been fought, lives lost and much sufferring caused in the quest for happiness. Over the past few decades there has sprung up a whole industry focused on helping to be happier ranging from travelling across the world to visit some mystic to aromatherapy. It’s become a fashionable trend in Psychology, where Psychologists avidly study whether being nice to your neighbour will make you happier than coveting his wife… or car.
Yet despite all this attention and the rainforests full of tips from self help Guru’s that are published every year, as a society, according to Psychologist’s, we’re failing in our happiness project. And so people get led into thinking that there must be some great truth or formula that they have to understand to unlock the holy grail of happiness.
The Real Truth About Happiness
The real truth is that we are so stuck in our social and mental patterns of behaviour that we’ve actually got it so back to front that we can’t see what we need to be happy. It’s not that we need to learn how to be happy, we just have to learn to stop doing the things that make us unhappy.
Look at any young child or pet. Unless they are, or have been, in some unnatural situation that is causing them to be unhappy they will naturally be playful, curious, interested to learn and… happy. It’s only when they start to get to get closer to the teenage years of learning the rules and behaviour that fit in to the world that they start to lose that natural zest and love of life.
It’s the losing of themselves in trying to conform that causes them to become unhappy. And so to fix that basic error we go searching for some other code of conduct that we think can make us happy.
It’s not that you are missing or lacking anything… only that you are suppressing what would make you truly happy…
Yourself. Your true self.
Your natural spontaneity. Your natural and uninhibited sense of fun.
The Two Keys To Happiness
There are only two things that we need to be happy and love our life.
One is to live passionately. To have someone or sonme thing that we love and care about. To have a dream that excites you to strive and grow towards.
The other is to deal effectively with fear. If passionate living is the accelerator on our journey, fear is the brake. All evil ever committed at it’s root is caused by fear. Consider this. Every country has a Department of Defence. Yet none have a Department of Attack. Yet if none are attacking, how come we keep having wars?
It’s fear that causes us to attack in all it’s forms. From World Wars to personal conflict. Yet we don’t typically think of ourselves being afraid. Instead we recognise fear more commonly as stress. And so it is stress that causes much unhappiness. This can be the stress of fitting into ‘the rules’ or trying to do more that we can fit into our day or caring too much about what other people think. Whatever the form it takes, it’s stress and fear that hold us back from a happier life.
Which leads us to the big question. What is happiness?
It’s as simple as the pure and unadulterated love of life. As it is, without needing to change it, flavour it or sweeten it. And to reach such a state of mind requires authenticity. In short, happiness is about one simple thing.
Allowing the natural DNA that is you to express itself, without any self consciouness, in whatever environment or context you find yourself in. In simpler terms, forget about ‘what you should do ‘ and do what comes naturally.
Unfortunately though, while this concept should be simple, it is so different from our cultural training that we misunderstand it.
Since our earliest days Philosophers have often queried and theorised on what it takes to be happy. Wars have been fought, lives lost and much sufferring caused in the quest for happiness. Over the past few decades there has sprung up a whole industry focused on helping to be happier ranging from travelling across the world to visit some mystic to aromatherapy. It’s become a fashionable trend in Psychology, where Psychologists avidly study whether being nice to your neighbour will make you happier than coveting his wife… or car.
Yet despite all this attention and the rainforests full of tips from self help Guru’s that are published every year, as a society, according to Psychologist’s, we’re failing in our happiness project. And so people get led into thinking that there must be some great truth or formula that they have to understand to unlock the holy grail of happiness.
The Real Truth About Happiness
The real truth is that we are so stuck in our social and mental patterns of behaviour that we’ve actually got it so back to front that we can’t see what we need to be happy. It’s not that we need to learn how to be happy, we just have to learn to stop doing the things that make us unhappy.
Look at any young child or pet. Unless they are, or have been, in some unnatural situation that is causing them to be unhappy they will naturally be playful, curious, interested to learn and… happy. It’s only when they start to get to get closer to the teenage years of learning the rules and behaviour that fit in to the world that they start to lose that natural zest and love of life.
It’s the losing of themselves in trying to conform that causes them to become unhappy. And so to fix that basic error we go searching for some other code of conduct that we think can make us happy.
It’s not that you are missing or lacking anything… only that you are suppressing what would make you truly happy…
Yourself. Your true self.
Your natural spontaneity. Your natural and uninhibited sense of fun.
The Two Keys To Happiness
There are only two things that we need to be happy and love our life.
One is to live passionately. To have someone or sonme thing that we love and care about. To have a dream that excites you to strive and grow towards.
The other is to deal effectively with fear. If passionate living is the accelerator on our journey, fear is the brake. All evil ever committed at it’s root is caused by fear. Consider this. Every country has a Department of Defence. Yet none have a Department of Attack. Yet if none are attacking, how come we keep having wars?
It’s fear that causes us to attack in all it’s forms. From World Wars to personal conflict. Yet we don’t typically think of ourselves being afraid. Instead we recognise fear more commonly as stress. And so it is stress that causes much unhappiness. This can be the stress of fitting into ‘the rules’ or trying to do more that we can fit into our day or caring too much about what other people think. Whatever the form it takes, it’s stress and fear that hold us back from a happier life.
Which leads us to the big question. What is happiness?
It’s as simple as the pure and unadulterated love of life. As it is, without needing to change it, flavour it or sweeten it. And to reach such a state of mind requires authenticity. In short, happiness is about one simple thing.
Allowing the natural DNA that is you to express itself, without any self consciouness, in whatever environment or context you find yourself in. In simpler terms, forget about ‘what you should do ‘ and do what comes naturally.
Unfortunately though, while this concept should be simple, it is so different from our cultural training that we misunderstand it.
Saturday, June 26, 2010
Dedicated to my friends entering married life- visu, sachin and ramakrishna
| TEN WAYS TO STAY HAPPY MARRIED LIFE | |
I am reproducing an artcle on the above subject and hope the tips will be benificial to the couples ,viewers and readers.in happy living. | |
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Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Politicians Lie To Make People Feel Happy. There’s No Other Reason
I had read this article and found good. Basically it was giving normal view and birds eye view. Depends on person to person, but atleast it was saying good side of life even if it comes with lie.
People get it all wrong when they complain that their politicians never tell the truth. Of course they always lie – what else do you expect them to do? But so that you know, politicians have a perfectly good reason for lying. They do it because they care about you, people. They want to make you feel happy and content.
Imagine, for a moment, that politicians would start telling the truth. Take the current economic crisis that has been lovingly downgraded to a ‘recession’. Do you really want your political leaders to tell you that they have squandered all your money and now you and your children and your children’s children are going to pay off massive national debts, and live in ghettos, because your homes would be taken away from you and sold to rich foreigners to raise some money to pay huge salaries to government officials and their advisors? Are you sure you want to hear that sort of depressing stuff? Wouldn’t you rather be told that things are getting better, even if they aren’t?
Come on. Give some credit to politicians who only want you to enjoy the big occasion.
And who on earth would want to hear politicians admitting that they have absolutely no idea what they’re doing? Now how could that sort of truth make your life easier? It’s like a train driver announcing on the loudspeaker: ‘Ladies and gents, just to let you know that I’m not actually a train driver but a drunkard who’s just happened to be passing by and was asked to steer the train. I have no idea what the hell I’m doing and where I’m going.’
Imagine what panic would break out on the train. And imagine what would happen on a plane if the pilot would announce that he’s not exactly a pilot, per say, and that he’s just trusting his instincts for survival and pushing the buttons at random. It would be chaos, panic, mayhem. Men would be screaming with terror and women would be trying to calm them down. ‘There, there, dear, get yourself together,’ they’d be saying to their husbands and boyfriends, who’d be shaking hysterically.
And imagine what would happen if our politicians start telling us that they are useless. Would we have had such great leaders as George W. Bush, Tony Blair, Bill Clinton and many, many others? And would we have such giants of politics as Silvio Berlusconi, Nicholas, Sarkozy, Gordon Brown or Angela Merkel? Or that bloke in Japan whose name escapes me? Not to mention the new European President Herman Van Rompuy and his sidekick, the stunning Baroness Ashton?
All these great politicians have absolutely no idea what they’re doing, but they’re coping. OK, so they haven’t been doing a very good job. In fact, they’re crap at what they do. But as long as no one notices it sort of works out. Could have been much worse, you know, if they’d started telling the truth.
And how about Iraq? Would you really want to know that it’s in total mess now and that things are not much better than under Saddam Hussein? Or that its oil revenues are being stolen and that Al-Qaeda, that has not had any presence there before, is now waging a full blown war for power? Not to mention that the whole region is a hotbed of instability and could explode at any moment?
You wouldn’t want to know such horrors. So you settle for the nice story about American troops getting ready to pull out, in an orderly way, and Iraqis being busy building a new prosperous life for themselves. Just like it is with Afghanistan, where the end of the war is not in sight and people are still dying in their thousands for nothing, but everyone is told that democracy is strengthening by the day and that the Afghans spontaneously hug NATO soldiers on the streets and sing songs about how happy they are that the West is helping them to harvest more poppies that bring so much joy to everyone.
The list is endless. Who wants to know that the Israelis and Palestinians hate each other’s guts and would love to wipe out each other? So it’s much better to hear that there is an ongoing peace process that is bound to bring a resolution to the conflict at some point in the very distant future. And how about being told the truth that China is run by mad communists, ready to start the next world war at any time? That would not be music to your years, now would it? So you are told that the Chinese leaders are actually pragmatic and are seriously into world peace and the free market.
And how about climate change supposedly brought on by mankind? It sounds exciting and enticing. It makes you want to recycle things and turn off your heater in the winter. But would it have been better if you were told that the idea of climate change is used to make money and cover up the many problems that politicians are failing to tackle? Of course not.
So think twice next time you accuse your politicians of lying. They are doing it for your sake. To keep you happy
People get it all wrong when they complain that their politicians never tell the truth. Of course they always lie – what else do you expect them to do? But so that you know, politicians have a perfectly good reason for lying. They do it because they care about you, people. They want to make you feel happy and content.
Imagine, for a moment, that politicians would start telling the truth. Take the current economic crisis that has been lovingly downgraded to a ‘recession’. Do you really want your political leaders to tell you that they have squandered all your money and now you and your children and your children’s children are going to pay off massive national debts, and live in ghettos, because your homes would be taken away from you and sold to rich foreigners to raise some money to pay huge salaries to government officials and their advisors? Are you sure you want to hear that sort of depressing stuff? Wouldn’t you rather be told that things are getting better, even if they aren’t?
Come on. Give some credit to politicians who only want you to enjoy the big occasion.
And who on earth would want to hear politicians admitting that they have absolutely no idea what they’re doing? Now how could that sort of truth make your life easier? It’s like a train driver announcing on the loudspeaker: ‘Ladies and gents, just to let you know that I’m not actually a train driver but a drunkard who’s just happened to be passing by and was asked to steer the train. I have no idea what the hell I’m doing and where I’m going.’
Imagine what panic would break out on the train. And imagine what would happen on a plane if the pilot would announce that he’s not exactly a pilot, per say, and that he’s just trusting his instincts for survival and pushing the buttons at random. It would be chaos, panic, mayhem. Men would be screaming with terror and women would be trying to calm them down. ‘There, there, dear, get yourself together,’ they’d be saying to their husbands and boyfriends, who’d be shaking hysterically.
And imagine what would happen if our politicians start telling us that they are useless. Would we have had such great leaders as George W. Bush, Tony Blair, Bill Clinton and many, many others? And would we have such giants of politics as Silvio Berlusconi, Nicholas, Sarkozy, Gordon Brown or Angela Merkel? Or that bloke in Japan whose name escapes me? Not to mention the new European President Herman Van Rompuy and his sidekick, the stunning Baroness Ashton?
All these great politicians have absolutely no idea what they’re doing, but they’re coping. OK, so they haven’t been doing a very good job. In fact, they’re crap at what they do. But as long as no one notices it sort of works out. Could have been much worse, you know, if they’d started telling the truth.
And how about Iraq? Would you really want to know that it’s in total mess now and that things are not much better than under Saddam Hussein? Or that its oil revenues are being stolen and that Al-Qaeda, that has not had any presence there before, is now waging a full blown war for power? Not to mention that the whole region is a hotbed of instability and could explode at any moment?
You wouldn’t want to know such horrors. So you settle for the nice story about American troops getting ready to pull out, in an orderly way, and Iraqis being busy building a new prosperous life for themselves. Just like it is with Afghanistan, where the end of the war is not in sight and people are still dying in their thousands for nothing, but everyone is told that democracy is strengthening by the day and that the Afghans spontaneously hug NATO soldiers on the streets and sing songs about how happy they are that the West is helping them to harvest more poppies that bring so much joy to everyone.
The list is endless. Who wants to know that the Israelis and Palestinians hate each other’s guts and would love to wipe out each other? So it’s much better to hear that there is an ongoing peace process that is bound to bring a resolution to the conflict at some point in the very distant future. And how about being told the truth that China is run by mad communists, ready to start the next world war at any time? That would not be music to your years, now would it? So you are told that the Chinese leaders are actually pragmatic and are seriously into world peace and the free market.
And how about climate change supposedly brought on by mankind? It sounds exciting and enticing. It makes you want to recycle things and turn off your heater in the winter. But would it have been better if you were told that the idea of climate change is used to make money and cover up the many problems that politicians are failing to tackle? Of course not.
So think twice next time you accuse your politicians of lying. They are doing it for your sake. To keep you happy
Why Men Lie - Top 5 Good Reasons Why Men Lie to Their Women
A very good article shared by my friend from Germany during the chat today. Found it worth to share. Link available on personal request.
Have you ever wondered how much of the things your man says are the real truth? It is interesting that a lot of time, in order to keep the relationship working smoothly, the best thing a man should do is to tell a lie. Strangely, women often know that what their men say are pure lies and yet they prefer to hear it. So why do men lie, what are the reasons they have to lie to their women?
1. To make their woman happy. Let's take an example. Majority of women are not happy with their body sizes. What is a man suppose to answer when asked "how do I look?"? What do you think would happen if he is being honest and says "You look okay, even though I prefer flatter tummy and bigger boobs. And I don't see why you need to spend a fortune on a dress like that." You see, a little innocent lie such as "You look beautiful, just like always." will save his life. Interestingly, women know that is a lie, but yet they like to hear it and happily take it as the truth.
2. To avoid arguments. Everybody has different opinions. It is not easy to agree on the same thing all the times with your partner. When people insist on their own opinion, arguments happen. Too many arguments in a relationship is exhausting, and often the best way for him to avoid it on not so important matters is by pretending that he agrees with you.
3. To justify himself. Men make mistakes too and they hate to admit it and look bad in front of you. Little harmless lies here and there will get him out of trouble and keep his good image in your eyes.
4. To make himself seem better. Men value their pride high. They want to be the hero and their women to be proud of them. With a little lie, their women will appreciate them more and feel better for having them as their partners.
5. To get or avoid something. Men may lie to get something out of you, or to get you do something for them. It can also be to avoid something they don't want to do. A lie is a lot easier to say than to explain the real reasons and usually is a lot more acceptable too. If you are a man and reading this, understand that women do know about your lies a lot of the time but they either enjoy it or cannot be bothered to get you fess up. Don't lie excessively or you may get in trouble one day.
If you are a woman, realize that your man doesn't mean harm when he tells you those little lies. Appreciate the fact that he often does it to make you happy which shows his affection for you. Don't bother too much about little things, but do have good communication and honest talk when you are discussing serious matters.
Learn more about what men and women crave the most, how to be irresistible to the opposite sex and get your love back even after a break up. No matter how impossible your situation seems to be, there is always hope that you can get your love back. Follow the exact step by step method that works like magic in restoring your relationship. Watch the no obligation FREE VIDEO and see it for yourself. Everybody deserves a second chance and it is never too late. Take control of your life, get your Second Chance Together.
Have you ever wondered how much of the things your man says are the real truth? It is interesting that a lot of time, in order to keep the relationship working smoothly, the best thing a man should do is to tell a lie. Strangely, women often know that what their men say are pure lies and yet they prefer to hear it. So why do men lie, what are the reasons they have to lie to their women?
1. To make their woman happy. Let's take an example. Majority of women are not happy with their body sizes. What is a man suppose to answer when asked "how do I look?"? What do you think would happen if he is being honest and says "You look okay, even though I prefer flatter tummy and bigger boobs. And I don't see why you need to spend a fortune on a dress like that." You see, a little innocent lie such as "You look beautiful, just like always." will save his life. Interestingly, women know that is a lie, but yet they like to hear it and happily take it as the truth.
2. To avoid arguments. Everybody has different opinions. It is not easy to agree on the same thing all the times with your partner. When people insist on their own opinion, arguments happen. Too many arguments in a relationship is exhausting, and often the best way for him to avoid it on not so important matters is by pretending that he agrees with you.
3. To justify himself. Men make mistakes too and they hate to admit it and look bad in front of you. Little harmless lies here and there will get him out of trouble and keep his good image in your eyes.
4. To make himself seem better. Men value their pride high. They want to be the hero and their women to be proud of them. With a little lie, their women will appreciate them more and feel better for having them as their partners.
5. To get or avoid something. Men may lie to get something out of you, or to get you do something for them. It can also be to avoid something they don't want to do. A lie is a lot easier to say than to explain the real reasons and usually is a lot more acceptable too. If you are a man and reading this, understand that women do know about your lies a lot of the time but they either enjoy it or cannot be bothered to get you fess up. Don't lie excessively or you may get in trouble one day.
If you are a woman, realize that your man doesn't mean harm when he tells you those little lies. Appreciate the fact that he often does it to make you happy which shows his affection for you. Don't bother too much about little things, but do have good communication and honest talk when you are discussing serious matters.
Learn more about what men and women crave the most, how to be irresistible to the opposite sex and get your love back even after a break up. No matter how impossible your situation seems to be, there is always hope that you can get your love back. Follow the exact step by step method that works like magic in restoring your relationship. Watch the no obligation FREE VIDEO and see it for yourself. Everybody deserves a second chance and it is never too late. Take control of your life, get your Second Chance Together.
Good job Jodie. I pick a lesson from you.
Shimla: The 'garbage girl' of the mountains will get a 'green' award at an environment film festival to be held in Shimla next month.
"I'm so happy and honoured. The award will be dedicated to Himachal Pradesh and all the volunteers who have helped to make the mountain cleaning dream a reality," said Jodie Underhill, a British national.
Jodie came to Dharamsala in January on a tourist visa to sponsor the education of some Tibetan children but soon got involved in cleaning the mountains after seeing piles of garbage.
"Every Monday and Tuesday we visit Triund (the popular trekking route overlooking this town) to collect waste like polythene and paper bags, empty beer and liquor bottles, old tents, food item sachets and clothes. On an average, we are collecting 35 sacks of garbage from the nine-km stretch every week," she said.
Underhill said 70 per cent of what they collect at Triund is plastic bottles.
"During the garbage collection drive, we also educate the local people and vendors about the scientific disposal of biodegradable and non-biodegradable waste," the 34-year-old Briton said.
The film festival is sponsored by the Ministry of Environment and Forests. The WWF-India is its organising partner.
"We will honour Jodie with 'Green Hero' award at the inauguration of a three-day Shimla CMS Vatavaran-Environment and Wildlife Travelling Film Festival and Forum 2010 beginning July 2. Chief Minister Prem Kumar Dhumal will present the award to her," said Vishwajeet Ghoshal, Assistant Project Manager with New Delhi-based Centre for Media Studies
"I'm so happy and honoured. The award will be dedicated to Himachal Pradesh and all the volunteers who have helped to make the mountain cleaning dream a reality," said Jodie Underhill, a British national.
Jodie came to Dharamsala in January on a tourist visa to sponsor the education of some Tibetan children but soon got involved in cleaning the mountains after seeing piles of garbage.
"Every Monday and Tuesday we visit Triund (the popular trekking route overlooking this town) to collect waste like polythene and paper bags, empty beer and liquor bottles, old tents, food item sachets and clothes. On an average, we are collecting 35 sacks of garbage from the nine-km stretch every week," she said.
Underhill said 70 per cent of what they collect at Triund is plastic bottles.
"During the garbage collection drive, we also educate the local people and vendors about the scientific disposal of biodegradable and non-biodegradable waste," the 34-year-old Briton said.
The film festival is sponsored by the Ministry of Environment and Forests. The WWF-India is its organising partner.
"We will honour Jodie with 'Green Hero' award at the inauguration of a three-day Shimla CMS Vatavaran-Environment and Wildlife Travelling Film Festival and Forum 2010 beginning July 2. Chief Minister Prem Kumar Dhumal will present the award to her," said Vishwajeet Ghoshal, Assistant Project Manager with New Delhi-based Centre for Media Studies
Bad that people dont know the value of life.
Bangalore: A 16-year-old girl in Bangalore killed herself by consuming poison on Tuesday night after she failed to get admission in the college of her choice.
M Yashaswini had passed her SSLC with distinction and wanted to join the Jyoti Nivas College at Koramangala, a college many of her friends attended.
She had an argument with her parents who said they could not afford an education at the college due to financial constraints. They got her admitted to the Adugodi Government College instead. The girl's father works as a chef in a small hotel and her mother is an employee at a garment factory.
Yashaswini was speaking to her friend over phone at an STD booth, which her mother didn't approve of. She scolded her and said she would deal with her after returning from work in the evening.
But that was not to be. Yashaswini consumed Metacid the same evening and was rushed to the Bowring hospital by her brother with help from the neighbours. She died at 2:00 am on Wednesday morning.
"We had only one daughter and loved her very much. We are poor but provided her with all that she needed. She wanted to join Jyoti Nivas College but we couldn't afford it. The greatest tragedy in my life is that she died before me," said the girl's father, Manjunath
http://www.ndtv.com/article/cities/bangalore-teen-kills-self-after-argument-over-admission-33377
M Yashaswini had passed her SSLC with distinction and wanted to join the Jyoti Nivas College at Koramangala, a college many of her friends attended.
She had an argument with her parents who said they could not afford an education at the college due to financial constraints. They got her admitted to the Adugodi Government College instead. The girl's father works as a chef in a small hotel and her mother is an employee at a garment factory.
Yashaswini was speaking to her friend over phone at an STD booth, which her mother didn't approve of. She scolded her and said she would deal with her after returning from work in the evening.
But that was not to be. Yashaswini consumed Metacid the same evening and was rushed to the Bowring hospital by her brother with help from the neighbours. She died at 2:00 am on Wednesday morning.
"We had only one daughter and loved her very much. We are poor but provided her with all that she needed. She wanted to join Jyoti Nivas College but we couldn't afford it. The greatest tragedy in my life is that she died before me," said the girl's father, Manjunath
http://www.ndtv.com/article/cities/bangalore-teen-kills-self-after-argument-over-admission-33377
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
If you have ever planned a vacation, wedding, surprise party, or special event, you know how much work is involved. Planning, checking, adjusting and planning again is all part of the process of creating the result that you want.
Many people understand the importance of planning events in their life but very few understand the importance of actually planning their life.
It is said that people don’t plan to fail, they just fail to plan. It is pretty obvious that a wedding would be a disaster without a plan. Well, what about your life?
You have a choice to either make things happen, watch things happen or wonder “What happened?” Which will it be?
If you are serious about living in tune with your deepest dreams and desires you need to become a “makes things happen” person. Success will not attack you! The way you get what you want is to plan it!
Below is a list of top 10 reasons why planning your life is vital. This list has been prepared to sell you on the fact that you need a plan to get what you want. If you are not yet “sold,” read on.
1) A planned life gives you direction. Planning allows you to know where you are going and how you are going to get there. Without a plan, you lack direction and focus and run the risk of spending your time doing things that fail to benefit your future.
2) A planned life puts your dreams within reach. If your dreams have ever felt a little “pie in the sky-ish” it is probably because they were not grounded in a plan. A plan provides action steps necessary to achieve your dreams. Apply the action steps and you are on your way to making your dreams happen.
3) A planned life puts you in control. If you leave your life up to chance or let others control it for you, you are sure to be disappointed. Taking control of your own life is the only way to get what YOU truly want.
4) A planned life gives you peace. Just knowing that you are taking steps to create the life you want gives you a sense of peace. Without a plan, it is easy to get into confusion and despair about which way to go and how to spend your days.
5) A planned life gives you purpose. When you take the time to plan your life you choose to live life “on purpose.” You no longer just “exist.” You embrace the purpose you were created to fulfill and make it happen through action.
6) A planned life gives you passion. Success is the progressive realization of a worthwhile goal. It is not a destination. It is a journey. When you are headed towards a goal, it makes your “present” more fulfilling, more passionate and exciting.
7) A planned life empowers you. Planning puts YOU on YOUR side. When you are single-minded about where you are going, you have power to live your life your way.
8) A planned life honors God. You are to be a steward of all God has given you. To manage your life shows that you respect the gift of life that you have been given.
9) A planned life puts your subconscious mind to work for you. When you plan, you plant a vision on your subconscious mind. That vision creates the opportunities for you to succeed at your plan.
10) A planned life gives you freedom. Freedom exists in one place, inside of you. When you claim the freedom you have to shape your destiny, you are truly free.
So friends it is important to plan in life.
Many people understand the importance of planning events in their life but very few understand the importance of actually planning their life.
It is said that people don’t plan to fail, they just fail to plan. It is pretty obvious that a wedding would be a disaster without a plan. Well, what about your life?
You have a choice to either make things happen, watch things happen or wonder “What happened?” Which will it be?
If you are serious about living in tune with your deepest dreams and desires you need to become a “makes things happen” person. Success will not attack you! The way you get what you want is to plan it!
Below is a list of top 10 reasons why planning your life is vital. This list has been prepared to sell you on the fact that you need a plan to get what you want. If you are not yet “sold,” read on.
1) A planned life gives you direction. Planning allows you to know where you are going and how you are going to get there. Without a plan, you lack direction and focus and run the risk of spending your time doing things that fail to benefit your future.
2) A planned life puts your dreams within reach. If your dreams have ever felt a little “pie in the sky-ish” it is probably because they were not grounded in a plan. A plan provides action steps necessary to achieve your dreams. Apply the action steps and you are on your way to making your dreams happen.
3) A planned life puts you in control. If you leave your life up to chance or let others control it for you, you are sure to be disappointed. Taking control of your own life is the only way to get what YOU truly want.
4) A planned life gives you peace. Just knowing that you are taking steps to create the life you want gives you a sense of peace. Without a plan, it is easy to get into confusion and despair about which way to go and how to spend your days.
5) A planned life gives you purpose. When you take the time to plan your life you choose to live life “on purpose.” You no longer just “exist.” You embrace the purpose you were created to fulfill and make it happen through action.
6) A planned life gives you passion. Success is the progressive realization of a worthwhile goal. It is not a destination. It is a journey. When you are headed towards a goal, it makes your “present” more fulfilling, more passionate and exciting.
7) A planned life empowers you. Planning puts YOU on YOUR side. When you are single-minded about where you are going, you have power to live your life your way.
8) A planned life honors God. You are to be a steward of all God has given you. To manage your life shows that you respect the gift of life that you have been given.
9) A planned life puts your subconscious mind to work for you. When you plan, you plant a vision on your subconscious mind. That vision creates the opportunities for you to succeed at your plan.
10) A planned life gives you freedom. Freedom exists in one place, inside of you. When you claim the freedom you have to shape your destiny, you are truly free.
So friends it is important to plan in life.
Responsibility - first step to success
This particular article in the blog is for one of my employee Ms.PV. I was touched by her words yesterday. This particular article is a grooming article for any person.
The majority of us want to be successful in life, but few take the necessary steps to be one. It's not the question whether you can; it is rather a question of whether you will. This article is written for those who will.
"Success is not something you pursue, but something you attract by becoming an attractive person". So focusing your attention on becoming attractive is the first step to success. Now the big question, how to become an attractive person? The answer is quite simple; become better than you currently are mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally and financially. It's a never-ending process. Step-by-step you add the necessary knowledge and skills needed to make you more attractive. You become a life-long learner. Then why don't most people do it? Because they think becoming a life-long learner is a daunting task. But they don't realize that it's the start that's the most important. Once you get the wheels rolling it gathers momentum with time and before you realize it you are cruising.
So the next big question; where do you start? The answer is simple; you start with taking personal responsibility for where you are today, mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally and financially. In the Bhagvadgita there is a very important statement ‘As you sow, so shall you reap'. This is one of the most important lessons in life. You can also rephrase it like this: ‘Whatever you have reaped, is what you have sown'. Correct? So, you are exactly where you are because what actions and choices you have made in the past. There is no denying that fact. There is no point in blaming your parents, country, skin color, luck, friends, etc. for where you are today. It's only because of you and your choices. Earl Shoaff once said, "If you change, everything will change for you". One of the best quotes of all time has come from none other than the great Mahatma Gandhi. He said, "Be the change you wish to see in the world". As you can tell the focus is always on you, and not others.
Once you have realized and are humble enough to accept it, then you can start to change yourselves. Till then, you will put up a wall between yourself and personal development. So the first step to becoming a more attractive person is to take responsibility for your current situation and to accept that the buck stops with you.
The majority of us want to be successful in life, but few take the necessary steps to be one. It's not the question whether you can; it is rather a question of whether you will. This article is written for those who will.
"Success is not something you pursue, but something you attract by becoming an attractive person". So focusing your attention on becoming attractive is the first step to success. Now the big question, how to become an attractive person? The answer is quite simple; become better than you currently are mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally and financially. It's a never-ending process. Step-by-step you add the necessary knowledge and skills needed to make you more attractive. You become a life-long learner. Then why don't most people do it? Because they think becoming a life-long learner is a daunting task. But they don't realize that it's the start that's the most important. Once you get the wheels rolling it gathers momentum with time and before you realize it you are cruising.
So the next big question; where do you start? The answer is simple; you start with taking personal responsibility for where you are today, mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally and financially. In the Bhagvadgita there is a very important statement ‘As you sow, so shall you reap'. This is one of the most important lessons in life. You can also rephrase it like this: ‘Whatever you have reaped, is what you have sown'. Correct? So, you are exactly where you are because what actions and choices you have made in the past. There is no denying that fact. There is no point in blaming your parents, country, skin color, luck, friends, etc. for where you are today. It's only because of you and your choices. Earl Shoaff once said, "If you change, everything will change for you". One of the best quotes of all time has come from none other than the great Mahatma Gandhi. He said, "Be the change you wish to see in the world". As you can tell the focus is always on you, and not others.
Once you have realized and are humble enough to accept it, then you can start to change yourselves. Till then, you will put up a wall between yourself and personal development. So the first step to becoming a more attractive person is to take responsibility for your current situation and to accept that the buck stops with you.
Monday, June 21, 2010
Bad father's day for a good person & actor Kota srinivasa Rao
he was the only son of kota. This is what is called fate. A very very nice person in personal life. Wife seeing in front husband getting hit and dying in her lap. I am moved. No wife and father should get this.
http://www.deccanchronicle.com/hyderabad/kota%E2%80%99s-son-killed-bike-lorry-collision-367
Hyderabad, June 20: It might have been a happy Father’s Day for the rest of the world but for Tollywood’s most venerable actor, Kota Srinivasa Rao, it was surely the worst.
The 60-year-old actor wept bitterly after seeing the body of his only son Kota Prasad, who died in a road accident in the city on Sunday. According to Rajendranagar police, Prasad was travelling on his 600 CC sports bike while his and his friend’s family members were following him in a car when the mishap occurred. They were going to Novotel hotel near Rajiv Gandhi International Airport to attend a party.
“At about 2.15 pm, as Prasad reached a dargah near the outer ring road he collided head on with a mini lorry. He fell from the bike and suffered injuries to his head,” said the ACP Rajendranagar, Mr M. Sarveshwar Reddy. “His family members took him to a nearby hospital. Later, he was taken to a private hospital in Tolichowki where he was declared brought dead,” said the Rajendranagar inspector, Mr K. Ramboopal Rao. The police seized the vehicle and have registered a case under Section 304 A (causing death by negligence) of IPC against the driver of the mini lorry who is said to be absconding.
http://www.deccanchronicle.com/hyderabad/kota%E2%80%99s-son-killed-bike-lorry-collision-367
Hyderabad, June 20: It might have been a happy Father’s Day for the rest of the world but for Tollywood’s most venerable actor, Kota Srinivasa Rao, it was surely the worst.
The 60-year-old actor wept bitterly after seeing the body of his only son Kota Prasad, who died in a road accident in the city on Sunday. According to Rajendranagar police, Prasad was travelling on his 600 CC sports bike while his and his friend’s family members were following him in a car when the mishap occurred. They were going to Novotel hotel near Rajiv Gandhi International Airport to attend a party.
“At about 2.15 pm, as Prasad reached a dargah near the outer ring road he collided head on with a mini lorry. He fell from the bike and suffered injuries to his head,” said the ACP Rajendranagar, Mr M. Sarveshwar Reddy. “His family members took him to a nearby hospital. Later, he was taken to a private hospital in Tolichowki where he was declared brought dead,” said the Rajendranagar inspector, Mr K. Ramboopal Rao. The police seized the vehicle and have registered a case under Section 304 A (causing death by negligence) of IPC against the driver of the mini lorry who is said to be absconding.
Thanks to shinde and dhuml
A sincere thanks to shinde and dhumal for being with me at time which counted. The new day surgery is far simple.
After an anesthetic has been administered, your surgeon and the operating room staff will then make sure that you are correctly position on the operating table. For some shoulder surgeries you will be placed in the "beach chair" position, as if you are reclining on a beach chair. Other types of shoulder surgery require that you lie on your side and have your arm in traction. This position is becoming more popular and is now quite common for arthroscopic rotator cuff repairs.
Once you are in the correct position on the operating table your arm will be cleaned with special surgical soaps and the draped off from the rest of your body with sterile surgical drapes. Some of the surgical soaps that are used today create a film that adheres to the skin very well and does not wash off easily. It can often take days for this type of soap to wash off completely, but don't worry, it does not stain the skin permanently. After the shoulder has been "prepped and draped", the surgeon is then ready to begin the procedure.
Shoulder arthroscopy is performed through "portals". These are small incisions, generally about ½ of an inch to an inch long in the skin, are located over particular areas of the joint that the orthopedic surgeon will need to operate upon. Small plastic tubes, called "cannulas" are then inserted into the portals so that instruments can easily be placed in the shoulder joint. Shoulder arthroscopy itself involves inserting a specially designed video camera with a very bright fiber optic light source into the shoulder joint so that the important parts of the joint can be seen. Instruments that have been specially designed to remove inflamed tissue, attach sutures to bone, and repair tears and damaged tendons are then used to operate inside the shoulder.
Once the procedure is finished, the instruments, camera, and cannulas are removed, the wounds are closed with either suture or staples, and a sterile dressing is applied to the shoulder. The shoulder is then placed in a sling or immobilizer, the patient is moved from the operating table to a hospital bed, and then wheeled back to the recovery room. Depending upon what is involved with the shoulder surgery, the patient is either admitted to the hospital, or allowed to go home on the same day.
Pictures available at http://www.shouldersolutions.com/surgery_2.php
There were few allegations if they want the doctor phone can be shared so that they can cross check. Putting doctor phone on blog is sensitive.
After an anesthetic has been administered, your surgeon and the operating room staff will then make sure that you are correctly position on the operating table. For some shoulder surgeries you will be placed in the "beach chair" position, as if you are reclining on a beach chair. Other types of shoulder surgery require that you lie on your side and have your arm in traction. This position is becoming more popular and is now quite common for arthroscopic rotator cuff repairs.
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| In this series of pictures, a patient with a torn rotator cuff is positioned on the operating table, the left arm is isolated from the rest of the body with surgical drapes, and then cleaned with a special surgical soap. This shoulder arthroscopy procedure is being performed under a general anesthetic and in the "beach chair" position. | ||
Once you are in the correct position on the operating table your arm will be cleaned with special surgical soaps and the draped off from the rest of your body with sterile surgical drapes. Some of the surgical soaps that are used today create a film that adheres to the skin very well and does not wash off easily. It can often take days for this type of soap to wash off completely, but don't worry, it does not stain the skin permanently. After the shoulder has been "prepped and draped", the surgeon is then ready to begin the procedure.
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| After the arm has been properly cleaned and draped, the anatomic landmarks are drawn on the skin with a marker, and small incisions are created in order to insert the arthroscope and arthroscopic instruments. | ||
Shoulder arthroscopy is performed through "portals". These are small incisions, generally about ½ of an inch to an inch long in the skin, are located over particular areas of the joint that the orthopedic surgeon will need to operate upon. Small plastic tubes, called "cannulas" are then inserted into the portals so that instruments can easily be placed in the shoulder joint. Shoulder arthroscopy itself involves inserting a specially designed video camera with a very bright fiber optic light source into the shoulder joint so that the important parts of the joint can be seen. Instruments that have been specially designed to remove inflamed tissue, attach sutures to bone, and repair tears and damaged tendons are then used to operate inside the shoulder.
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| Once the arthroscope is inserted into the shoulder joint, the surgeons are able to view the shoulder arthroscopy procedure on a television that shows an image of what is happening inside the shoulder joint. | |
Once the procedure is finished, the instruments, camera, and cannulas are removed, the wounds are closed with either suture or staples, and a sterile dressing is applied to the shoulder. The shoulder is then placed in a sling or immobilizer, the patient is moved from the operating table to a hospital bed, and then wheeled back to the recovery room. Depending upon what is involved with the shoulder surgery, the patient is either admitted to the hospital, or allowed to go home on the same day.
Pictures available at http://www.shouldersolutions.com/surgery_2.php
There were few allegations if they want the doctor phone can be shared so that they can cross check. Putting doctor phone on blog is sensitive.
Thanks to all
A sincere thanks to all of you who have wished on my official birthday. May god bless your families with happiness and joy.
Friday, June 18, 2010
Reasons versus results.
#Quote: Successful people don’t have reasons, they have results. ~ Greg Secker
Are you successful in your life right now? If you are successful right now, this means that you focuses your mind on the results more than the reasons. Recently, I have realized that one of the reasons why I’m not successful is because I keep on coming out with plenty of reasons why I can’t achieve what I want in life. Example of not having enough money to perform certain things, not having the right opportunities, not motivated to complete my task on time and so on. I realized I really focus most of my energy on the reasons why instead of my end results of what I want to achieve in my life.
Recently, through one of the audio books I listen, I found the concept once again and therefore I decided to write a post on this. Did you feel procrastination whenever you gave yourself a reason as you start to worry about what will happen if something happen? Whenever we start giving ourselves reasons to our mind, we focus our mind on the problems and thus more problems tend to be attracted to us .Once we realize there are too many problems for us to handle, we tend to become immobile in our actions and instead of taking massive actions to reach our goals, we tend to take easy steps or make no big improvement to improve our situations.
I realized that our mind plays a very important role to help us succeed in our life and we have to choose our thoughts wisely so that it will not sabotage our performance to reach our goals. Successful and well known sportsman (like Michael Jordon or Tiger Woods) usually will focus their mind on the end results of seeing themselves winning the title and visualizing the end results in their mind while they are in or outside their game. Therefore, I believe it is very important that we should all start training our mind to focus on the solutions (results) instead of problems (reasons) whenever we meet any difficulties or challenges in life.
Always ask yourselves what will those well known sportsman be thinking in their mind right now if they are facing the situation as you are right now. This will probably reminds us that we need to focus our mind on the end results instead of pondering on the reasons “WHY”.
North indian honour killings - where are we heading as society.
In the dingy lanes of a rural suburb, where a family allegedly murdered its own daughter and her boyfriend in the name of 'honour killing', a cold silence greets outsiders. Anisha Ralhan travels to the 'other' Delhi, to probe some unanswered questions about the cold-blooded and remorseless murder that has shaken the nation.
Two dramatically different versions of Delhi co-exist in the heart of the city. Right now, the first one is being spruced up like a soon-to-be bride, under the facade of modernisation for the upcoming Commonwealth Games.
And voila! Meet her diabolic twin that perpetrated the brutal murder of an innocent couple in love under the infernal shadow of honour killing.
Here, in the mosquito infested lanes of Swarup Nagar in north-east Delhi, Asha Saini, 19, and her boyfriend Yogesh, 20, met a gory end allegedly at the hands of her family. On Sunday night, the girl's family is said to have beaten up the couple and electrocuted them at her uncle Omprakash's flat in the sparsely populated colony.
The girl's family had disapproved of Asha's relationship with Yogesh, a driver, and had asked the boy to back off.
According to Omprakash's next-door neighbour and eye-witness Umesh, Yogesh had been summoned to the Swarup Nagar flat, where the girl had been detained by her uncle and aunt since the last 20 days.
A few minutes later, says Umesh, the girl's aunt was heard screaming in the balcony about Yogesh's arrival. An infuriated Omprakash then attacked the boy with a stick, says Umesh.
The neighbours tried to intervene but were curtly asked to mind their own business. Asha's cousin, Sanjeev, dispersed the curious onlookers.
The girl's parents also reached the flat soon and the enraged family allegedly tortured the couple for hours.
"From 2 am onwards I could hear the boy wailing. The girl was pleading for his life. I could sense something was fishy but couldn't communicate with anyone as I had no access to a telephone at that hour," said Umesh.
At approximately 4 am, Umesh saw the girl's family scurrying out of the house, but the couple was missing.
He told rediff.com that had he not witnessed the whole drama in his adjacent verandah, the murder would never have been accounted for.
"It seemed the family intended to dispose of the two dead bodies in the Maruti car the boy had arrived in. They brought the car very close to the gate. But sensing my presence, they took the car back to its original spot and rode away on three motorbikes," he says.
The three other neighbouring families had left before sunrise, said Kalpana, another neighbour, possibly due to Sanjeev's threats and a fear of police investigation.
The police found the dead bodies with multiple bruises and burns at 8 am on Monday. They nabbed the girl's uncle and her father Suresh Kumar Saini, who admitted to the barbaric crime.
According to the police, the girl's family had taken the extreme step as the boy hailed from a lower caste.
"This part of Delhi is deeply enmeshed in rural culture -- of judging a person by his caste. In this case, Asha's family was wealthier than Yogesh's and it would have been a matter of shame for them to have consented to a marriage between unequal partners," explained a senior officer at the district police station.
Asha was reportedly engaged to a man from Sonepat who had been chosen by her family.
There are many questions that remain unanswered about the official version of the murder.
Firstly, was the boy summoned by the family to Omprakash's house, indicating a preplanned murder, or did he come there to meet his girlfriend and was caught by the family?
The alleged murderers -- Asha's father Suresh Kumar Saini and uncle Omprakash -- say they attacked the couple in a fit of rage after finding them in a compromising position on the terrace.
Saini reportedly told the police that it was natural for a father to react so vehemently after seeing his daughter thus.
But Yogesh's sister Renu claims, "It was a planned conspiracy to kill my brother. I saw the girl's mother waiting for my brother outside our Gokulpur apartment. Before that, I heard Asha pestering him to meet her."
According to ey-ewitnesses, the couple spent barely two minutes together before they were attacked with sticks and metal rods. They believe that the girl's uncle might have convinced Asha to call Yogesh over.
What was the role of Asha's mother and her aunt in this brutal episode?
The girl's relatives say the mother and another female relative were asked to leave the crime spot by the men, as they were sobbing at Asha's plight.
"They are completely innocent as they had been sent away before the murders happened. Which mother can possibly bear the pain of her only daughter, leave alone murder," they claimed.
But Umesh, an eye-witness, is confident about having spotted the entire family leaving the house in the wee hours of Monday, without an iota of remorse on their faces.
The news of this honour killing may have sent tremors across the country but such cases are not entirely alien to one of the most developed cities in Asia.
In May, a Delhi girl was smothered to death in her Jharkhand house for her relationship with a journalist from a lower caste.
According to a senior police officer, "Cases of elopement and couples being harassed by parents are reported on a daily basis. Honour killing seems to have become a trend among the rural population of the city."
The absence of a separate law to punish the perpetrators is cited as the prime factor for the proliferation of honour killings.
"The Indian Penal Code has no separate law for the exterminators of their own kin. Our government treats the crime as an ordinary murder and imposes life imprisonment or the death penalty only in the rarest of rare cases," say the police.
Enforcing strict separate laws for honour killings, empowering women to assert their rights to choose a bridegroom, and educating the rural population about the redundancy of thte caste system could perhaps curb the rising trend, they say.
Two dramatically different versions of Delhi co-exist in the heart of the city. Right now, the first one is being spruced up like a soon-to-be bride, under the facade of modernisation for the upcoming Commonwealth Games.
And voila! Meet her diabolic twin that perpetrated the brutal murder of an innocent couple in love under the infernal shadow of honour killing.
Here, in the mosquito infested lanes of Swarup Nagar in north-east Delhi, Asha Saini, 19, and her boyfriend Yogesh, 20, met a gory end allegedly at the hands of her family. On Sunday night, the girl's family is said to have beaten up the couple and electrocuted them at her uncle Omprakash's flat in the sparsely populated colony.
The girl's family had disapproved of Asha's relationship with Yogesh, a driver, and had asked the boy to back off.
According to Omprakash's next-door neighbour and eye-witness Umesh, Yogesh had been summoned to the Swarup Nagar flat, where the girl had been detained by her uncle and aunt since the last 20 days.
A few minutes later, says Umesh, the girl's aunt was heard screaming in the balcony about Yogesh's arrival. An infuriated Omprakash then attacked the boy with a stick, says Umesh.
The neighbours tried to intervene but were curtly asked to mind their own business. Asha's cousin, Sanjeev, dispersed the curious onlookers.
The girl's parents also reached the flat soon and the enraged family allegedly tortured the couple for hours.
"From 2 am onwards I could hear the boy wailing. The girl was pleading for his life. I could sense something was fishy but couldn't communicate with anyone as I had no access to a telephone at that hour," said Umesh.
At approximately 4 am, Umesh saw the girl's family scurrying out of the house, but the couple was missing.
He told rediff.com that had he not witnessed the whole drama in his adjacent verandah, the murder would never have been accounted for.
"It seemed the family intended to dispose of the two dead bodies in the Maruti car the boy had arrived in. They brought the car very close to the gate. But sensing my presence, they took the car back to its original spot and rode away on three motorbikes," he says.
The three other neighbouring families had left before sunrise, said Kalpana, another neighbour, possibly due to Sanjeev's threats and a fear of police investigation.
The police found the dead bodies with multiple bruises and burns at 8 am on Monday. They nabbed the girl's uncle and her father Suresh Kumar Saini, who admitted to the barbaric crime.
According to the police, the girl's family had taken the extreme step as the boy hailed from a lower caste.
"This part of Delhi is deeply enmeshed in rural culture -- of judging a person by his caste. In this case, Asha's family was wealthier than Yogesh's and it would have been a matter of shame for them to have consented to a marriage between unequal partners," explained a senior officer at the district police station.
Asha was reportedly engaged to a man from Sonepat who had been chosen by her family.
There are many questions that remain unanswered about the official version of the murder.
Firstly, was the boy summoned by the family to Omprakash's house, indicating a preplanned murder, or did he come there to meet his girlfriend and was caught by the family?
The alleged murderers -- Asha's father Suresh Kumar Saini and uncle Omprakash -- say they attacked the couple in a fit of rage after finding them in a compromising position on the terrace.
Saini reportedly told the police that it was natural for a father to react so vehemently after seeing his daughter thus.
But Yogesh's sister Renu claims, "It was a planned conspiracy to kill my brother. I saw the girl's mother waiting for my brother outside our Gokulpur apartment. Before that, I heard Asha pestering him to meet her."
According to ey-ewitnesses, the couple spent barely two minutes together before they were attacked with sticks and metal rods. They believe that the girl's uncle might have convinced Asha to call Yogesh over.
What was the role of Asha's mother and her aunt in this brutal episode?
The girl's relatives say the mother and another female relative were asked to leave the crime spot by the men, as they were sobbing at Asha's plight.
"They are completely innocent as they had been sent away before the murders happened. Which mother can possibly bear the pain of her only daughter, leave alone murder," they claimed.
But Umesh, an eye-witness, is confident about having spotted the entire family leaving the house in the wee hours of Monday, without an iota of remorse on their faces.
The news of this honour killing may have sent tremors across the country but such cases are not entirely alien to one of the most developed cities in Asia.
In May, a Delhi girl was smothered to death in her Jharkhand house for her relationship with a journalist from a lower caste.
According to a senior police officer, "Cases of elopement and couples being harassed by parents are reported on a daily basis. Honour killing seems to have become a trend among the rural population of the city."
The absence of a separate law to punish the perpetrators is cited as the prime factor for the proliferation of honour killings.
"The Indian Penal Code has no separate law for the exterminators of their own kin. Our government treats the crime as an ordinary murder and imposes life imprisonment or the death penalty only in the rarest of rare cases," say the police.
Enforcing strict separate laws for honour killings, empowering women to assert their rights to choose a bridegroom, and educating the rural population about the redundancy of thte caste system could perhaps curb the rising trend, they say.
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
Time for Team reorientation.
Hello friends,
I think the time for team reorientation is on cards. Though the thought process was there from long time pending it has pressed itself few days back. Saturday i went to my friend sachin's office. sachin was just going out and said i will be back in 10 minutes. I went to office and was there for sometime. Informed the person there to tell sachin give me a call back once he is back. I thought I will complete some washing etc and come back. Came to house and 4pm i decided to go back. Got up from my laptop and came into hall. Suddenly i felt everything around me revolving thats is. Fell down unconscious. Early morning 3 am of sunday i got conscious. Almost 12 hours lying unconscious in the hall. Seems backside of head has hit ground first as there was pain there when i got up. Luckily there was no damage to shoulder which i am trying to get back. when i got up and saw there were almost 40 missed calls. Sachin has done lot of calls. But i had no idea of the same. After i got up a shiver went down the the spine. I know chakri of wipro who died without getting noticed. The door was wide open. Unfortunately the maid who comes to clean the house at night also didnot came.
Coming to teamside, there have been lot of changes which have took place and which needs to be addressed to keep psycological balance in place. The watchman's both of them have got changed. Good , bad ugly whatever it is they used to keep speaking about village, food, their living etc which used to take off professional pressure when i am back. Suddenly it is loss of both watchman's. Driver Kamlesh used to be the morning friend who used to talk something in the morning having a cup of tea. Something what is in newspaper etc and it used to be a talk of atleat 20 min. Ramakrishna Prasad who used to be at mumbai was a night dinner friend. Everyday night for dinner it was religious. Sachin used to say wah dada. ekdam time pe khana khate ho. He got transffered to Hyderabad and left. Had he been there, i would have been atleast pushed to hospital when fell down unconscious. His transfer to hyderabad has made big dent. He was one person who used to make me laugh telling movie jokes. Ram Prasad is getting married took house at Thane and moved out. Nagaprasad is getting married this month and has taken house at Seawoods and moved there. the tea batch of visu, suman etc. Visu is getting married on 18th and is moving to different place. 20 days from now sachin will be going to patna for his marriage. Even this bond will get diluted after he comes back as he has to give time to family which is very very important. Microsoft days used to have drivers like dhumal, reddy, shinde with whom i used to speak out about dreams of vishnu etc. The more up you go in professional ladder the less are the number of friends.
Personal pressures anyway exist as they are not going to come down. Time to get some new friends in and get relived from professional pressure once back. Introduced a second maid into home in the morning from today so that somebody will be at home though there is very little of work availble at home. The maid is a telugu speaking person so atleast sometime mind gets diverted. Asked her to read newspaper loud looks funny but it basically keeps dialogue as it poses questions oh is it, it should not have been done, is this village near to your village etc. Need to bring more customer meetings rather than team meetings so that freshness can start come in.
The 12 hours fall is a serious lesson from god. Do help me to build new bridges with positive mindsets which will be mutually beneficial. I expect all of your cooperation.
May lord vishnu bless all of us.
I think the time for team reorientation is on cards. Though the thought process was there from long time pending it has pressed itself few days back. Saturday i went to my friend sachin's office. sachin was just going out and said i will be back in 10 minutes. I went to office and was there for sometime. Informed the person there to tell sachin give me a call back once he is back. I thought I will complete some washing etc and come back. Came to house and 4pm i decided to go back. Got up from my laptop and came into hall. Suddenly i felt everything around me revolving thats is. Fell down unconscious. Early morning 3 am of sunday i got conscious. Almost 12 hours lying unconscious in the hall. Seems backside of head has hit ground first as there was pain there when i got up. Luckily there was no damage to shoulder which i am trying to get back. when i got up and saw there were almost 40 missed calls. Sachin has done lot of calls. But i had no idea of the same. After i got up a shiver went down the the spine. I know chakri of wipro who died without getting noticed. The door was wide open. Unfortunately the maid who comes to clean the house at night also didnot came.
Coming to teamside, there have been lot of changes which have took place and which needs to be addressed to keep psycological balance in place. The watchman's both of them have got changed. Good , bad ugly whatever it is they used to keep speaking about village, food, their living etc which used to take off professional pressure when i am back. Suddenly it is loss of both watchman's. Driver Kamlesh used to be the morning friend who used to talk something in the morning having a cup of tea. Something what is in newspaper etc and it used to be a talk of atleat 20 min. Ramakrishna Prasad who used to be at mumbai was a night dinner friend. Everyday night for dinner it was religious. Sachin used to say wah dada. ekdam time pe khana khate ho. He got transffered to Hyderabad and left. Had he been there, i would have been atleast pushed to hospital when fell down unconscious. His transfer to hyderabad has made big dent. He was one person who used to make me laugh telling movie jokes. Ram Prasad is getting married took house at Thane and moved out. Nagaprasad is getting married this month and has taken house at Seawoods and moved there. the tea batch of visu, suman etc. Visu is getting married on 18th and is moving to different place. 20 days from now sachin will be going to patna for his marriage. Even this bond will get diluted after he comes back as he has to give time to family which is very very important. Microsoft days used to have drivers like dhumal, reddy, shinde with whom i used to speak out about dreams of vishnu etc. The more up you go in professional ladder the less are the number of friends.
Personal pressures anyway exist as they are not going to come down. Time to get some new friends in and get relived from professional pressure once back. Introduced a second maid into home in the morning from today so that somebody will be at home though there is very little of work availble at home. The maid is a telugu speaking person so atleast sometime mind gets diverted. Asked her to read newspaper loud looks funny but it basically keeps dialogue as it poses questions oh is it, it should not have been done, is this village near to your village etc. Need to bring more customer meetings rather than team meetings so that freshness can start come in.
The 12 hours fall is a serious lesson from god. Do help me to build new bridges with positive mindsets which will be mutually beneficial. I expect all of your cooperation.
May lord vishnu bless all of us.
Monday, June 14, 2010
IGNOU MBA Entrance is back.
Hello Friends,
The IGNOU MBA entrance notification has come. I am going to try this. I dont feel shy to give it one more try because last year i could not get hall ticket in time. I would like to go and do this again. This is going to give me a chance to add MBA to my skills. MBA is usually a multi oriented programme where it can help people from different walks to take it up. A hotelier can do it to raise to management side of the hotel. A engineer can add it to enhance his skills for taking up managerial roles in organization. A Lawyer can get management angle when he argues the cases. A Hr can get different roles and their perspective from organization way. The list can go on. In a nut shell it is a good if you can try. I would urge my friends sachin, visu, kalyan, sridhar, ramakrishna, ramakrishna prasad, naga prasad, ram prasad and others to give a thought on the same.
Hope to see myself as MBA at the end of tags.
Hope lord vishnu makes this dream come true this year atleast.
The IGNOU MBA entrance notification has come. I am going to try this. I dont feel shy to give it one more try because last year i could not get hall ticket in time. I would like to go and do this again. This is going to give me a chance to add MBA to my skills. MBA is usually a multi oriented programme where it can help people from different walks to take it up. A hotelier can do it to raise to management side of the hotel. A engineer can add it to enhance his skills for taking up managerial roles in organization. A Lawyer can get management angle when he argues the cases. A Hr can get different roles and their perspective from organization way. The list can go on. In a nut shell it is a good if you can try. I would urge my friends sachin, visu, kalyan, sridhar, ramakrishna, ramakrishna prasad, naga prasad, ram prasad and others to give a thought on the same.
Hope to see myself as MBA at the end of tags.
Hope lord vishnu makes this dream come true this year atleast.
Lucky Nagarjuna.
What a photo. Nagarjuna lifting his son akhil. What a display of father son relationship. My goodness. God has kept me alive to show such a love and affection . Akhil has single handedly won the trophy for his father. Tollywood T20 which was played with Chiranjeevi , Balakrishna, Venkatesh and Nagarjuna as captains. 
When I see this heart was saying will a day come when vishnu and kumar will be like this. Father and son should be like friends.Nagarjuna has given complete freedom. How much time i see still looks fresh of this photo.Few photos which shows how father and son relation should exist.
Sunday, June 13, 2010
Thank you Balaji.
All along the life if someone is with me its you Balaji. When i was kid you were with me. A govt school student, you were with me. When exam was tough and said balaji help me out, you were with me. All through my education you helped me with merit. Never made me bend my head before anybody for a seat in college/institution. You have given me good health at exam times so that I never had to complain . You had given me good memory so that I could write answers well in exam. You had given me good friends in school who were helpful in school days. College days you have taken them all out and given me a new set of friends. You taught me different lessons of life through them. You had given me a job to start as soon as my education is over. You gave me the chance to serve people. What more can I ask.
I am thankful to you balaji for you had taken out the dowry harassment case from my head. With your guidance and blessings i had always tried to do good to every person whom i had met or came across. This false attribution was haunting me for I know I have never harassed anybody in my life. Thanks for taking out this false attribution from my head. Nerul temple this time when i was in front of you, i was feeling submitting myself. My only request balaji is take me to you as soon as possible. I am all alone here. I want to come back to you and be in your shade. Please think of my only request to you.
I am thankful to you balaji for you had taken out the dowry harassment case from my head. With your guidance and blessings i had always tried to do good to every person whom i had met or came across. This false attribution was haunting me for I know I have never harassed anybody in my life. Thanks for taking out this false attribution from my head. Nerul temple this time when i was in front of you, i was feeling submitting myself. My only request balaji is take me to you as soon as possible. I am all alone here. I want to come back to you and be in your shade. Please think of my only request to you.
Thursday, June 10, 2010
Networking sites some guidance.
Are you a fan of networking sites like Facebook, MySpace, Linked In? While you enjoy interacting and sharing information with people across the world, make sure you are safe in the virtual world.
Here's how you can protect your personal information as well as privacy of your family and friends when you are hooked to these 'social' sites.
Set your privacy controls to restrict public access
Make sure your privacy levels are set so that only your friends and family can see anything that is private. Some sites let you segment your contacts or friends list so you can control what co-workers, family, or your buddies are allowed to see
Don't include identifying information
Keep personal details private, such as your phone number, address, place of work, or your birthday. Don't even share the state where you born since this can be used to obtain your social security number. Even with your privacy controls set, err on the safe side and don't post information that could enable someone to steal your identity or stalk you.
Respect the privacy of friends and family
Avoid identifying people by name in public profiles and pictures. And ask your friends not to identify you in their photos or post pictures of you that are available to the public.
Be wary of phishing attempts
Sophisticated cyber criminals are taking advantage of the popularity of social networking sites. It can be hard to tell if an e-mail supposedly from a social networking site you belong to is an attempt to steal your login information. So to be safe, never click on a link from an e-mail that looks like it came from a social networking site- type in the site's URL manually.
Don't put your entire work history online
A full history of everywhere you've ever worked can help an identity thief fill out a loan application. So on sites like LinkedIn, limit your work history details and/or restrict access to your information to just those in your network.
Beware of scams
Scammers can gain access to one of your friend's accounts (through a phishing attempt for instance) and then solicit all the friends linked to the account for money. Never respond with a credit card number or online payment, even if it looks like it is from a friend. Call your friend and ask if it's a legitimate request.
Be careful about giving about your location
With Twitter and similar tools, you may be broadcasting to lurkers, stalkers, and thieves where you are and how long you'll be there. Just as you wouldn't put a note on your door saying you're out of town, be mindful of disclosing similar information online.
Choose your password carefully
Make it at least eight characters and include a number and a symbol in it. This way it's very difficult for someone to guess your password and hijack your account.
Here's how you can protect your personal information as well as privacy of your family and friends when you are hooked to these 'social' sites.
Set your privacy controls to restrict public access
Make sure your privacy levels are set so that only your friends and family can see anything that is private. Some sites let you segment your contacts or friends list so you can control what co-workers, family, or your buddies are allowed to see
Don't include identifying information
Keep personal details private, such as your phone number, address, place of work, or your birthday. Don't even share the state where you born since this can be used to obtain your social security number. Even with your privacy controls set, err on the safe side and don't post information that could enable someone to steal your identity or stalk you.
Respect the privacy of friends and family
Avoid identifying people by name in public profiles and pictures. And ask your friends not to identify you in their photos or post pictures of you that are available to the public.
Be wary of phishing attempts
Sophisticated cyber criminals are taking advantage of the popularity of social networking sites. It can be hard to tell if an e-mail supposedly from a social networking site you belong to is an attempt to steal your login information. So to be safe, never click on a link from an e-mail that looks like it came from a social networking site- type in the site's URL manually.
Don't put your entire work history online
A full history of everywhere you've ever worked can help an identity thief fill out a loan application. So on sites like LinkedIn, limit your work history details and/or restrict access to your information to just those in your network.
Beware of scams
Scammers can gain access to one of your friend's accounts (through a phishing attempt for instance) and then solicit all the friends linked to the account for money. Never respond with a credit card number or online payment, even if it looks like it is from a friend. Call your friend and ask if it's a legitimate request.
Be careful about giving about your location
With Twitter and similar tools, you may be broadcasting to lurkers, stalkers, and thieves where you are and how long you'll be there. Just as you wouldn't put a note on your door saying you're out of town, be mindful of disclosing similar information online.
Choose your password carefully
Make it at least eight characters and include a number and a symbol in it. This way it's very difficult for someone to guess your password and hijack your account.
Safe Internet for Kids.
Staying safe while using the Internet can be a daunting task for children who are unaware of many risks. Here's how you can protect your kids:
• Create a list of rules for Web usage, and post it near your computer.
• Keep your home computer in an open area of your home, not behind closed doors of your child's bedroom.
• Set parental restrictions in your Web browser.
• With many free email accounts, you can also set parental controls that allow you to block messages that contain offensive language or come from specific people
• Know which sites your kids visit. Check your browser's history once a week to mitigate any unpleasant surprises.
• Establish clear rules about making purchases, and monitor your credit card activity.
• Help your kids create their screen names and passwords. Make sure the screen names are nondescript and don't identify your kids as young children. Explain the importance of keeping passwords confidential.
• f your children visit social networking sites, monitor their profiles and contacts list for inappropriate material. Talk to them about whom they are connecting with online - particularly new friends.
• Speak to them about what is not acceptable to post, including personal information like your phone number or address. Some parents take this a step further and restrict their kids from posting their last name.
• Don't allow your child to set up a face-to-face meeting with an online friend unless you're present - even if it's with a friend from school.
• Create a list of rules for Web usage, and post it near your computer.
• Keep your home computer in an open area of your home, not behind closed doors of your child's bedroom.
• Set parental restrictions in your Web browser.
• With many free email accounts, you can also set parental controls that allow you to block messages that contain offensive language or come from specific people
• Know which sites your kids visit. Check your browser's history once a week to mitigate any unpleasant surprises.
• Establish clear rules about making purchases, and monitor your credit card activity.
• Help your kids create their screen names and passwords. Make sure the screen names are nondescript and don't identify your kids as young children. Explain the importance of keeping passwords confidential.
• f your children visit social networking sites, monitor their profiles and contacts list for inappropriate material. Talk to them about whom they are connecting with online - particularly new friends.
• Speak to them about what is not acceptable to post, including personal information like your phone number or address. Some parents take this a step further and restrict their kids from posting their last name.
• Don't allow your child to set up a face-to-face meeting with an online friend unless you're present - even if it's with a friend from school.
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
Some definite stock market rules.
Investors get perturbed when the markets are not moving up in a sustained manner. And rightly so, because most investors have a mindset of buy and hold. And when the markets frequently change their direction, investors find it difficult to cope with such volatility.
Changed environment calls for a change in the strategy we deploy to tackle the markets. Just as you adopt different strategies to face fast bowlers and spinners and play the ball on its merits similarly the strategies need to change to play different market condition.
The volatility could be a blessing in disguise, if you can acclimatize yourself with it.
1.Take your ones and twos
In a volatile market you should learn to take small gains and losses. Instead of yearning for a large gain, hitting a six in cricket parlance, you should settle for smaller gains and take them as they come.
A stock may not give you a 20% return in one go but may give you 25% returns in trenches. Sounds impossible? Lets see.
We chose Tata Steel and studied how it behaved during the Months of April and May. The stock gave 5 upswings of 5% or more and 5 down swings of 5% or more during the period. So whether you are a bull or a bear, you got ample opportunities.
The Tata Steel swings were larger than 5%. The 5% was only a filter mark. The upswings were to the tune of 18, 5, 10, 8 and 7% respectively. Even if you could catch any one of them and rode only 5%, it would have been a good return to post.
On the downside, the swings were 9, 21, 20,10 and 6%. The magnitude of these downswings was larger than those of the upswings.
The best part of a volatile market is that you get to buy the same stock again and again at the same level or lower. The chances are that if you get this act once right, subsequent opportunities will be easier to spot and ride.
2.Create some cash
If you are sitting on a pile of cash, you will see the falling market as an opportunity to buy. But if you are fully invested you will be fearful. In that fear, you are likely to sell some of the stocks at a loss.
On a day like this, when the markets tumble sharply, the one with cash will confidently buy where as some one who is fully invested may end up selling his stocks at a loss.
I have always thought that sitting on a 20-30% cash is a good idea. The very fact that you have to maintain this kind of cash will make your investment decisions well thought out. You will research and then buy and that too when the valuations are compulsive.
And on a day when the markets open down sharply, this cash can be put to good use. The stocks that you buy with this cash will have to sell in a disciplined manner. The cash so generated will be used only when the markets tumble further or a really good investment opportunity is spotted.
If you are fully invested, sell a part of your stocks when the markets move north. Selling and creating cash at leisure and when the markets move up is better than selling in panic. However, if you realize that the recent investment you made is not a sound decision, selling that stock at a loss is not bad idea for cash generation.
3.Buy Puts
Buying a Put in the stocks concerned protects your portfolio. Protection comes at a cost. In the beginning of the month, the costs are pretty high. So in order to reduce your protection cost, you may perhaps want to trade off writing a lower Put. Your portfolio is protected till the strike price for which you write or sell a Put. When you do such a thing, it is called constructing a Bear Spread.
4.Write higher Calls
When stocks are tumbling and you are not buying Puts, it may worthwhile to write a higher call for the stocks that you have. If the markets tumble you will get to keep the premium you earn. To that extent you are compensated. Should the markets reverse and move higher, what you do next will be a function what is your trading profit or loss in the call written. If the call is going in your favor, cover it. But if you are making a trading loss, don’t book it. Hold your position till settlement. On that day, if the call premium is still higher than your buying cost, let it lapse and sell your existing stock (for which the Call was written) in the last 10 minutes of trade in the cash market.
5.Keep your stop losses tight
When you are playing for smaller profits, it is advisable to keep your losses even smaller. So keep tight stop losses. Decide on your stop loss before entering the trade and make it a trailing one as the market moves your way. Even in Puts and Call options stop losses can be kept.
6.Be Nimble footed
Expecting that the markets will tank, you by puts in the Nifty. And after going your way for some time, the market changes direction. While you have the choice of selling your Put option, you may consider buying a Nifty Future to make the best use of the Put that is already bought. If the markets recover to the level where you bought the Put, your buying of the Nifty future would have been justified.
There are further games you can play with this Put you had bought. If you think the Nifty is likely to lose momentum, book profits in the Nifty, still holding on to your put. This gives you another opportunity to enter the Nifty Futures again at lower levels. You can repeat this several times in a week.
The adept amongst you would have understood that with the protection of Put to support you get the full advantage of the range of futures movement. If the Nifty moves in a range of 50 points, you get the full advantage of trading in the Nifty. Where as trading in the option alone would give you only half the range.
Similarly, when the Nifty reaches the upper range of the range, buying a Call and then shorting the Nifty Futures and covering at lower levels will be helpful. Rinse and repeat as many times as you want, till the option you have bought remains relevant.
7.Buy in small quantities
If you hate trading and are not the like who will settle for smaller profits, the least you can do is, defer your buying over three stages. You may buy a third quantity of your researched share at the first go. The next third can be bought 5% or 10% lower depending on the volatility of the stock and the balance quantity still after another same percentage gap.
You may repent buying only a third of your desired quantity if the stock surges after your buying. In such a case, you would probably end up with notional loss, for the quantity you never bought. But if the market does go down, you will appreciate your foresight.
All said an done, if you plan your trading and investing assuming that the volatility will continue, you are likely to land on your feet. As you go through this experience, keeping your cool, you will begin to appreciate the opportunities volatility offers and may in fact begin to love it.
And in a few months you will also get to trade in Volatility Index (VIX) itself. So treat the current volatility as a practice session to master VIX trading.
Changed environment calls for a change in the strategy we deploy to tackle the markets. Just as you adopt different strategies to face fast bowlers and spinners and play the ball on its merits similarly the strategies need to change to play different market condition.
The volatility could be a blessing in disguise, if you can acclimatize yourself with it.
1.Take your ones and twos
In a volatile market you should learn to take small gains and losses. Instead of yearning for a large gain, hitting a six in cricket parlance, you should settle for smaller gains and take them as they come.
A stock may not give you a 20% return in one go but may give you 25% returns in trenches. Sounds impossible? Lets see.
We chose Tata Steel and studied how it behaved during the Months of April and May. The stock gave 5 upswings of 5% or more and 5 down swings of 5% or more during the period. So whether you are a bull or a bear, you got ample opportunities.
The Tata Steel swings were larger than 5%. The 5% was only a filter mark. The upswings were to the tune of 18, 5, 10, 8 and 7% respectively. Even if you could catch any one of them and rode only 5%, it would have been a good return to post.
On the downside, the swings were 9, 21, 20,10 and 6%. The magnitude of these downswings was larger than those of the upswings.
The best part of a volatile market is that you get to buy the same stock again and again at the same level or lower. The chances are that if you get this act once right, subsequent opportunities will be easier to spot and ride.
2.Create some cash
If you are sitting on a pile of cash, you will see the falling market as an opportunity to buy. But if you are fully invested you will be fearful. In that fear, you are likely to sell some of the stocks at a loss.
On a day like this, when the markets tumble sharply, the one with cash will confidently buy where as some one who is fully invested may end up selling his stocks at a loss.
I have always thought that sitting on a 20-30% cash is a good idea. The very fact that you have to maintain this kind of cash will make your investment decisions well thought out. You will research and then buy and that too when the valuations are compulsive.
And on a day when the markets open down sharply, this cash can be put to good use. The stocks that you buy with this cash will have to sell in a disciplined manner. The cash so generated will be used only when the markets tumble further or a really good investment opportunity is spotted.
If you are fully invested, sell a part of your stocks when the markets move north. Selling and creating cash at leisure and when the markets move up is better than selling in panic. However, if you realize that the recent investment you made is not a sound decision, selling that stock at a loss is not bad idea for cash generation.
3.Buy Puts
Buying a Put in the stocks concerned protects your portfolio. Protection comes at a cost. In the beginning of the month, the costs are pretty high. So in order to reduce your protection cost, you may perhaps want to trade off writing a lower Put. Your portfolio is protected till the strike price for which you write or sell a Put. When you do such a thing, it is called constructing a Bear Spread.
4.Write higher Calls
When stocks are tumbling and you are not buying Puts, it may worthwhile to write a higher call for the stocks that you have. If the markets tumble you will get to keep the premium you earn. To that extent you are compensated. Should the markets reverse and move higher, what you do next will be a function what is your trading profit or loss in the call written. If the call is going in your favor, cover it. But if you are making a trading loss, don’t book it. Hold your position till settlement. On that day, if the call premium is still higher than your buying cost, let it lapse and sell your existing stock (for which the Call was written) in the last 10 minutes of trade in the cash market.
5.Keep your stop losses tight
When you are playing for smaller profits, it is advisable to keep your losses even smaller. So keep tight stop losses. Decide on your stop loss before entering the trade and make it a trailing one as the market moves your way. Even in Puts and Call options stop losses can be kept.
6.Be Nimble footed
Expecting that the markets will tank, you by puts in the Nifty. And after going your way for some time, the market changes direction. While you have the choice of selling your Put option, you may consider buying a Nifty Future to make the best use of the Put that is already bought. If the markets recover to the level where you bought the Put, your buying of the Nifty future would have been justified.
There are further games you can play with this Put you had bought. If you think the Nifty is likely to lose momentum, book profits in the Nifty, still holding on to your put. This gives you another opportunity to enter the Nifty Futures again at lower levels. You can repeat this several times in a week.
The adept amongst you would have understood that with the protection of Put to support you get the full advantage of the range of futures movement. If the Nifty moves in a range of 50 points, you get the full advantage of trading in the Nifty. Where as trading in the option alone would give you only half the range.
Similarly, when the Nifty reaches the upper range of the range, buying a Call and then shorting the Nifty Futures and covering at lower levels will be helpful. Rinse and repeat as many times as you want, till the option you have bought remains relevant.
7.Buy in small quantities
If you hate trading and are not the like who will settle for smaller profits, the least you can do is, defer your buying over three stages. You may buy a third quantity of your researched share at the first go. The next third can be bought 5% or 10% lower depending on the volatility of the stock and the balance quantity still after another same percentage gap.
You may repent buying only a third of your desired quantity if the stock surges after your buying. In such a case, you would probably end up with notional loss, for the quantity you never bought. But if the market does go down, you will appreciate your foresight.
All said an done, if you plan your trading and investing assuming that the volatility will continue, you are likely to land on your feet. As you go through this experience, keeping your cool, you will begin to appreciate the opportunities volatility offers and may in fact begin to love it.
And in a few months you will also get to trade in Volatility Index (VIX) itself. So treat the current volatility as a practice session to master VIX trading.
Attention parents. Play with your kids.
Not everything comes with money. If the wife/female cannot understand her house it becomes a nightmare. I leave it to couples who want to argue or fight and ultimately that victory in fight has no meaning. Not intended for anyone as people try to think it for them. It is a generic statement.
http://www.dnaindia.com/mumbai/report_just-2-1-2-years-old-and-already-depressed_1393810
Veena loves her doll. The doll turns into a bubbly little girl under her indulgent eyes and she is the mother. She pampers it silly and would never let it out of sight. Normal for a two-and-a-half-year-old girl. Right?
Wrong. Veena suffers from childhood depression. It’s rare for someone her age to get into such a complication — the condition is known to occur in the 6-10 age group, but two-and-a-half is rare.
Under treatment at the KEM hospital, she and her doll play out a real life situation. Doctors are taking cues from it to cure her.
A year ago, Veena’s father lost his job after the multinational bank where he worked decided to close a unit due to the recession. Financial crisis forced her mother to take up a computer operator’s job in a private firm. Deprived of parental attention and alone, Veena slipped into depression six months ago. She refused to eat, play, sleep or even watch television. Worse, she refused to smile.
“When she came to us, she had dark circles around her eyes and her cheeks were shrunken. She refused to smile or make eye contact. She was clinging to her parents and refused to let go of them,” said Dr Shubhangi Parkar, head of department of psychological medicine. Veena was severely malnourished and underweight at the time, she added.
The team of doctors attempted to break the ice with Veena by offering her toys and chocolates but it didn’t work. “She was put in three different crèches but she did not interact with the kids and sat looking out of the window the whole day,” Veena’s mother told the doctors.
The doctors soon learnt that Veena was craving for attention from her mother. It also did not help that her parents had fights in front of her. “Her parents had a love marriage and her grandmother refused to take care of Veena, making matters worse,” said Parkar.
The first part of the therapy involved improving the mother-daughter relationship. “We asked her mother to take one-month leave so that Veena could feel secure and cared for. Secondly, the parents were asked to completely stop beating her,” said Parkar.
The doctors then started the play therapy where Veena was involved in games and toys. “We learnt that she was very close to her doll. She never left the doll alone and did everything with the doll which she wanted her mother to do with her,” said Prakar, who advised the mother to watch Veena’s interactions with the doll and behave similarly. Prakar is now working towards preparing Veena to cope with the situation when mother returns to work.
Veena has gained some weight now. She does not cry much now and is less irritable; she even asks for food. “She weighed only 8 kg when she came to us. Now she is 10 kg and her parents are happy that she asks for food,” said Dr Chetan Vispute, who is involved in Veena’s treatment. “We have asked the parents to give only nutritious food,” he added.
According to the doctors, Veena has very high level of intellectual maturity. She is sharp and her grasping powers are good. “We are working towards getting her to the normal behaviour,” said Parkar.
http://www.dnaindia.com/mumbai/report_just-2-1-2-years-old-and-already-depressed_1393810
Veena loves her doll. The doll turns into a bubbly little girl under her indulgent eyes and she is the mother. She pampers it silly and would never let it out of sight. Normal for a two-and-a-half-year-old girl. Right?
Wrong. Veena suffers from childhood depression. It’s rare for someone her age to get into such a complication — the condition is known to occur in the 6-10 age group, but two-and-a-half is rare.
Under treatment at the KEM hospital, she and her doll play out a real life situation. Doctors are taking cues from it to cure her.
A year ago, Veena’s father lost his job after the multinational bank where he worked decided to close a unit due to the recession. Financial crisis forced her mother to take up a computer operator’s job in a private firm. Deprived of parental attention and alone, Veena slipped into depression six months ago. She refused to eat, play, sleep or even watch television. Worse, she refused to smile.
“When she came to us, she had dark circles around her eyes and her cheeks were shrunken. She refused to smile or make eye contact. She was clinging to her parents and refused to let go of them,” said Dr Shubhangi Parkar, head of department of psychological medicine. Veena was severely malnourished and underweight at the time, she added.
The team of doctors attempted to break the ice with Veena by offering her toys and chocolates but it didn’t work. “She was put in three different crèches but she did not interact with the kids and sat looking out of the window the whole day,” Veena’s mother told the doctors.
The doctors soon learnt that Veena was craving for attention from her mother. It also did not help that her parents had fights in front of her. “Her parents had a love marriage and her grandmother refused to take care of Veena, making matters worse,” said Parkar.
The first part of the therapy involved improving the mother-daughter relationship. “We asked her mother to take one-month leave so that Veena could feel secure and cared for. Secondly, the parents were asked to completely stop beating her,” said Parkar.
The doctors then started the play therapy where Veena was involved in games and toys. “We learnt that she was very close to her doll. She never left the doll alone and did everything with the doll which she wanted her mother to do with her,” said Prakar, who advised the mother to watch Veena’s interactions with the doll and behave similarly. Prakar is now working towards preparing Veena to cope with the situation when mother returns to work.
Veena has gained some weight now. She does not cry much now and is less irritable; she even asks for food. “She weighed only 8 kg when she came to us. Now she is 10 kg and her parents are happy that she asks for food,” said Dr Chetan Vispute, who is involved in Veena’s treatment. “We have asked the parents to give only nutritious food,” he added.
According to the doctors, Veena has very high level of intellectual maturity. She is sharp and her grasping powers are good. “We are working towards getting her to the normal behaviour,” said Parkar.
A new life for sanju baba(Khalnayak)
What a good news for sanjay dutt. I still love his song nayak khalnayak. Sabh kho patha tha my kamzor hu isliye my aaj kutch aur hu kutch aur hu. Kudos to Mayanta who stood by him like rock. A very good news in mumbai mirror today. Hope 2011 rocks for Sanjubaba. I wish him all the best to come back into life again.
http://www.mumbaimirror.com/index.aspx?page=section&xslt=section§id=30§name=Bollywood
Almost two months before his 51st birthday (29 July), Sanjay Dutt has received the best gift he could have ever hoped for.
Finally Sanjay and his wife Maanyata Dutt’s agonising wait for parenthood is going to be over. Yes, Maanyata is finally expecting. Apparently, the baby is due in January 2011.
For nearly two years both had expressed an ardent desire to have a child to not only their close friends but also in their press interviews. In fact, a year ago during his 50th birthday Sanjay had said, “Besides my freedom what I really want is to be a father, please pray for me.”
His prayers have been answered. This week the Dutts have been confiding in their close friends about the impending new arrival in their house. Friends who attended a film award event at Colombo with the Dutts first heard the good news there and were thrilled to bits on the ecstatic couple’s behalf.
Though the Dutts don’t have a particular preference about having a son or a daughter, buzz is that Sanjay is hoping it’s a boy since he already has a daughter, Trishala.
Repeated messages to Sanjay and Maanyata inquiring about the good news yielded no response. However, at least three people very close to the actor have confirmed that the actor and his wife are soon expecting a child.
http://www.mumbaimirror.com/index.aspx?page=section&xslt=section§id=30§name=Bollywood
Almost two months before his 51st birthday (29 July), Sanjay Dutt has received the best gift he could have ever hoped for.
Finally Sanjay and his wife Maanyata Dutt’s agonising wait for parenthood is going to be over. Yes, Maanyata is finally expecting. Apparently, the baby is due in January 2011.
For nearly two years both had expressed an ardent desire to have a child to not only their close friends but also in their press interviews. In fact, a year ago during his 50th birthday Sanjay had said, “Besides my freedom what I really want is to be a father, please pray for me.”
His prayers have been answered. This week the Dutts have been confiding in their close friends about the impending new arrival in their house. Friends who attended a film award event at Colombo with the Dutts first heard the good news there and were thrilled to bits on the ecstatic couple’s behalf.
Though the Dutts don’t have a particular preference about having a son or a daughter, buzz is that Sanjay is hoping it’s a boy since he already has a daughter, Trishala.
Repeated messages to Sanjay and Maanyata inquiring about the good news yielded no response. However, at least three people very close to the actor have confirmed that the actor and his wife are soon expecting a child.
Touched by the facts of a person who makes us laugh cannot laugh.
Dear friends,
The below thing is not a article it is real life. I am touched when i saw this interview on tv. I am pasting it down. Nobody on earth should get this type of life. This article is not put for debate because i value life in words and deeds. No negative comments for it is somebodies own life and not a debate.
http://www.mumbaimirror.com/article/30/20100609201006090221244575a25a4d8/Mungerilal-ke-nightmares.html
He once won hearts as the common man in Mungerilal Ke Haseen Sapne, a tele-comedy from the ‘80s. Today he is a complete wreck. A week ago, Yadav was arrested by the police at the behest of his estranged wife and son, Purnima and Achal, who, on seeing him with his current partner in the same train, alerted station authorities. The couple has been fighting a nasty separation battle and Yadav has been wanted by the cops for evading court. Finally, after agreeing to alimony to his wife, Raghubir Yadav is temporarily free, and ready to talk.
As we enter his house in Oberoi Woods (the Goregaon flat belonging to his girlfriend Roshni Achreja of Banegi Apni Baat), Yadav greets us with a handshake. But his hands are trembling and his voice is low. “I have gone through hell and abject torture. Everything changed for me when my son caught hold of me and got me arrested at a railway station last week,” he fights hard to control his tears.
Rewinding back to his good old days with Purnima, Yadav says, “One day she came to my shoot and started telling me a sob story. She said she wanted to commit suicide. I fell for her sob story. I took her to my hometown Jabalpur and we tied the knot.” Things got choppy soon though. “During her dancing days (kathak), she used to stay with seven-eight guys in the same room. Actually she was evicted because of her atrocious behaviour. Later I even learnt that she had married someone.”
Raghubir's world fell apart when Purnima reported on the sets of a film for which Yadav was shooting in Nainital. “She landed up there and started drinking very heavily. When I stopped her, she said that it was normal in her circle. Suddenly she lay down on the road and started hitting her stomach. And at that time, she was expecting my baby.”
He alleges he also learnt that Purnima was 'friendly' with producer Amar Sharma. “Uski aashiqui to chalti rehti thi. I couldn't take it any longer when I discovered that she used to visit producer Amar Sharma's place very frequently. When I questioned her, she said, “Mujhe jo karna hain, main karoongi, tu bhi kar jo tujhe karna hai. I couldn't take it anymore. I filed for divorce in '96. She is not signing the divorce papers.”
Yadav says that Purnima is aided by her friends Ram Gopal Bajaj, Sunil Sinha and Amla Rai. Flashing back to the past, Yadav reveals, “In 1999, I had gone to meet my son in Panchgani, where he was studying in a boarding school. I took him to Jabalpur for few days and she filed a case of kidnapping against me.”
Looking at Roshni, who is sitting very close to him, he smiles at last. “If I hadn't met Roshni, I don't know what would have happened to me. I was seriously ill. My serum lipase had shot to 3470 (the normal limit is up to 190). I was extremely sick.”
To alleviate Raghubir's woes, his lawyers advised him that they would take care of the case and he need not appear in Court. “That was the reason why I evaded the Court and all this while, everyone thought that I had run away. I used to get up in the night and hurl abuses loudly. Roshni has suffered all this, but she has still stood by me.” Roshni reveals that she even took him to a psychoanalyst so that he regains his composure.
Yadav adds, “I started getting unwell in 2001. I still remember the day I wore white clothes and had a strong feeling that it would be the last day of my life. That was the day when Roshni came to my house with a family friend. They took me to a hospital. In 2002, I withdrew the case because my health, mental and physical, had deteriorated.”
Talking about his son Achal, Yadav says, “He used to visit us. Initially he was fine but then he changed. He started saying exactly what she would teach him. A stage came when he too started demanding money. Purnima started threatening me 'Paise dete ho ya aadmi ko bheju?' I gave her whatever I could. Today I don't have money. Kahan se dun usko aur paise? (looks at the ceiling and sighs.) The latest is that she is claiming Rs 3 lakh per month from me. She wants me to give her a house and deposit Rs 15,000-20,000 per month into her bank account.”
Life started to smile on Yadav only when Roshni bore him a son Abir. Roshni says, “Purnima used to ask for lots of money in order to meet Achal. Aaj bhi sometimes he calls Abir as Abir Achal.”
Yadav's pillar of strength, Roshni chips in, “Purnima went to Jabalpur and propagated that I am Raghubir's rakhail (mistress). The police was troubling me for a few days. I had to hide my son from them as he would be traumatised. There is a limit to everything. What wrong have we done? Can we be left alone to live in peace?” Raghubir has no plans to marry Roshni. “We both have gone through hell from our first marriages (Roshni was married to comedian Sanjay Mishra). We have lost faith in the institution of marriage.”
The below thing is not a article it is real life. I am touched when i saw this interview on tv. I am pasting it down. Nobody on earth should get this type of life. This article is not put for debate because i value life in words and deeds. No negative comments for it is somebodies own life and not a debate.
http://www.mumbaimirror.com/article/30/20100609201006090221244575a25a4d8/Mungerilal-ke-nightmares.html
He once won hearts as the common man in Mungerilal Ke Haseen Sapne, a tele-comedy from the ‘80s. Today he is a complete wreck. A week ago, Yadav was arrested by the police at the behest of his estranged wife and son, Purnima and Achal, who, on seeing him with his current partner in the same train, alerted station authorities. The couple has been fighting a nasty separation battle and Yadav has been wanted by the cops for evading court. Finally, after agreeing to alimony to his wife, Raghubir Yadav is temporarily free, and ready to talk.
As we enter his house in Oberoi Woods (the Goregaon flat belonging to his girlfriend Roshni Achreja of Banegi Apni Baat), Yadav greets us with a handshake. But his hands are trembling and his voice is low. “I have gone through hell and abject torture. Everything changed for me when my son caught hold of me and got me arrested at a railway station last week,” he fights hard to control his tears.
Rewinding back to his good old days with Purnima, Yadav says, “One day she came to my shoot and started telling me a sob story. She said she wanted to commit suicide. I fell for her sob story. I took her to my hometown Jabalpur and we tied the knot.” Things got choppy soon though. “During her dancing days (kathak), she used to stay with seven-eight guys in the same room. Actually she was evicted because of her atrocious behaviour. Later I even learnt that she had married someone.”
Raghubir's world fell apart when Purnima reported on the sets of a film for which Yadav was shooting in Nainital. “She landed up there and started drinking very heavily. When I stopped her, she said that it was normal in her circle. Suddenly she lay down on the road and started hitting her stomach. And at that time, she was expecting my baby.”
He alleges he also learnt that Purnima was 'friendly' with producer Amar Sharma. “Uski aashiqui to chalti rehti thi. I couldn't take it any longer when I discovered that she used to visit producer Amar Sharma's place very frequently. When I questioned her, she said, “Mujhe jo karna hain, main karoongi, tu bhi kar jo tujhe karna hai. I couldn't take it anymore. I filed for divorce in '96. She is not signing the divorce papers.”
Yadav says that Purnima is aided by her friends Ram Gopal Bajaj, Sunil Sinha and Amla Rai. Flashing back to the past, Yadav reveals, “In 1999, I had gone to meet my son in Panchgani, where he was studying in a boarding school. I took him to Jabalpur for few days and she filed a case of kidnapping against me.”
Looking at Roshni, who is sitting very close to him, he smiles at last. “If I hadn't met Roshni, I don't know what would have happened to me. I was seriously ill. My serum lipase had shot to 3470 (the normal limit is up to 190). I was extremely sick.”
To alleviate Raghubir's woes, his lawyers advised him that they would take care of the case and he need not appear in Court. “That was the reason why I evaded the Court and all this while, everyone thought that I had run away. I used to get up in the night and hurl abuses loudly. Roshni has suffered all this, but she has still stood by me.” Roshni reveals that she even took him to a psychoanalyst so that he regains his composure.
Yadav adds, “I started getting unwell in 2001. I still remember the day I wore white clothes and had a strong feeling that it would be the last day of my life. That was the day when Roshni came to my house with a family friend. They took me to a hospital. In 2002, I withdrew the case because my health, mental and physical, had deteriorated.”
Talking about his son Achal, Yadav says, “He used to visit us. Initially he was fine but then he changed. He started saying exactly what she would teach him. A stage came when he too started demanding money. Purnima started threatening me 'Paise dete ho ya aadmi ko bheju?' I gave her whatever I could. Today I don't have money. Kahan se dun usko aur paise? (looks at the ceiling and sighs.) The latest is that she is claiming Rs 3 lakh per month from me. She wants me to give her a house and deposit Rs 15,000-20,000 per month into her bank account.”
Life started to smile on Yadav only when Roshni bore him a son Abir. Roshni says, “Purnima used to ask for lots of money in order to meet Achal. Aaj bhi sometimes he calls Abir as Abir Achal.”
Yadav's pillar of strength, Roshni chips in, “Purnima went to Jabalpur and propagated that I am Raghubir's rakhail (mistress). The police was troubling me for a few days. I had to hide my son from them as he would be traumatised. There is a limit to everything. What wrong have we done? Can we be left alone to live in peace?” Raghubir has no plans to marry Roshni. “We both have gone through hell from our first marriages (Roshni was married to comedian Sanjay Mishra). We have lost faith in the institution of marriage.”
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
Vegeterian food.
It is possible to have a fully balanced diet that is entirely vegetarian, if you work it right. All you need to do is eat smart to make your meals as complete as possible.
If you consider a meal of potatoes and rotis or rice and dal as staple vegetarian fare, then you could be getting seriously short-changed on some key nutrients. With such a diet, you will not be getting the required intake of protein, calcium, iron, zinc, Vitamin D, Vitamin B12 and omega 3 fatty acids.
Balance your proteins
Plant foods offer incomplete protein as they tend to be deficient in one or other essential amino acids (protein is made of building blocks called amino acids and our body needs nine of these from food). But this problem can be managed easily by being careful about both the kind and amount of protein being eaten.
How to:
Combine plant foods wisely to cover all essential amino acids. For example, legumes (cooked dried beans, dried peas, and lentils) are low in sulfur-containing amino acids (such as methionine), but they are high in another amino acid called lysine. Grains are just the opposite. So by eating both together or during the course of a day, you can get the benefits of both. Beans and rice, dal-chawal, khichri, pita bread with hummus (ground garbanzo beans and sesame seed paste) are good examples of complementary proteins.
Look for variety. Don't stick to just the known sources like legumes and dairy -- nuts, for instance, are an easy and tasty source of high-quality protein.
it is important for vegetarians to eat more iron-rich foods to meet their requirements. Vegetarian iron sources include beans, leafy green vegetables, banana, brown rice, sprouts, seeds (sesame, sunflower and pumpkin), mushrooms and iron-fortified grain products.
How to:
Try to pair iron-rich foods with a Vitamin C source, as this helps improve the absorption of iron from the food (almost six-fold). So add some orange segments to your salad, make a tamarind-based curry with spinach, cook iron-rich chhole (chickpeas) with tomatoes, have beans with tomato sauce, or drink some orange juice with your bowl of iron-fortified cereal. Also try to eat lots of the foods that contain both iron and Vitamin C: bok choy, broccoli and Swiss chard (doesn't have a Hindi name but is usually available in veg shops these days -- looks like spinach and potatoes).
Have more dried fruit; snack on them when possible. Dried apricots, raisins, prunes, mangos, pineapple, figs, dates, cherries and cranberries are all good and easy sources of iron.
Don't combine coffee, tea, cocoa and calcium with iron-rich foods -- they obstruct iron absorption. This means no tea or coffee with your spinach toast! Give it a decent interval. If you are having calcium supplements, have them at least an hour before or after an iron-rich meal.
Dairy products are an excellent source but vegetarians who do not consume milk or milk products (vegans) need to get calcium from other sources. Try soy milk and orange juice fortified with calcium; other good sources include seeds (sunflower, sesame etc), nuts (almonds, peanuts, cashews), fruit (banana, custard apple) and green vegetables (broccoli, spinach, turnip greens).
How to:
Include tofu in your diet. Not only is this a rich source of calcium, the Vitamin D in it helps in better absorption of the calcium too.
Cooking greens or sprinkling them with a little lemon juice or vinegar makes the calcium more available to your body.
Zinc from plant foods is poorly absorbed, so it is important for vegetarians to get enough zinc. Good sources of zinc include leavened whole grains (such as whole-wheat bread), legumes (beans and lentils), soy foods and dairy products.
How to:
Pumpkin seeds provide one of the most concentrated vegetarian food sources of zinc. Sprinkle some on your food.
Sprinkle cashews in salads, or keep a bag of mixed nuts in your desk or backpack. They contain about twice as much iron and zinc as almost any other nut.
For this, it is important to go strong on grains. Vitamin B12 (found mostly in foods from animal sources, such as milk, eggs, and meat) and B2 are often a bigger problem. So look for foods fortified with Vitamin B12 (such as fortified soy milk) or take a B12 supplement. Good sources of B12 (riboflavin) are whole grains, wheat germ, mushrooms, almonds and leafy green vegetables.
How to:
Try nutritional yeast as it is a great vegetarian source of all B vitamins (and protein too). It's great in smoothies or sprinkled over pasta.
Different grains provide different nutrients, so it helps to vary the types you eat. Don't just stick to making brown rice all the time (because you have heard it is healthy); it's better to mix up the grains you eat. Try oats, red rice, ragi, barley, quinoa (this is a protein-rich cereal which is available now in health food shops easily -- very healthy, it gives the benefits of a legume too), bajra etc.
Vegetarians who don't get adequate sunlight and don't consume enough milk or milk products may not get enough Vitamin D.
How to:
Soy milk is often fortified with Vitamin D, as are some cereals. You can also check with your doctor about a supplement.
Omega-3 fatty acids keep skin supple and prevent disease. Although fish is the best known source of this essential fatty acid, flax oil (sold both in liquid form and in capsules), flax seeds and walnuts are excellent sources too.
Incorporate (and develop a taste for) seaweed in your diet. These super foods -- with names such as alaria, dulse, kelp, nori, spirulina and agar -- are good sources of minerals, including magnesium, calcium, iodine, iron and chromium, as well as vitamins A, C, E and many of the Bs. So add them to the salads, saute with vegetables or simply crumble them in soups (look for them in Korean and Japanese specialty shops).
Vegans are stricter than the average vegetarian. Besides animal foods like meat and eggs, they also eliminate from their diet foods which come from animals such as dairy products (so even milk, paneer and cheese are out), as well as processed foods containing these or other animal-derived ingredients such as gelatin; some even give up honey. This group should be extra careful about its calcium and vitamin B12 intake
If you consider a meal of potatoes and rotis or rice and dal as staple vegetarian fare, then you could be getting seriously short-changed on some key nutrients. With such a diet, you will not be getting the required intake of protein, calcium, iron, zinc, Vitamin D, Vitamin B12 and omega 3 fatty acids.
Balance your proteins
Plant foods offer incomplete protein as they tend to be deficient in one or other essential amino acids (protein is made of building blocks called amino acids and our body needs nine of these from food). But this problem can be managed easily by being careful about both the kind and amount of protein being eaten.
How to:
Combine plant foods wisely to cover all essential amino acids. For example, legumes (cooked dried beans, dried peas, and lentils) are low in sulfur-containing amino acids (such as methionine), but they are high in another amino acid called lysine. Grains are just the opposite. So by eating both together or during the course of a day, you can get the benefits of both. Beans and rice, dal-chawal, khichri, pita bread with hummus (ground garbanzo beans and sesame seed paste) are good examples of complementary proteins.
Look for variety. Don't stick to just the known sources like legumes and dairy -- nuts, for instance, are an easy and tasty source of high-quality protein.
it is important for vegetarians to eat more iron-rich foods to meet their requirements. Vegetarian iron sources include beans, leafy green vegetables, banana, brown rice, sprouts, seeds (sesame, sunflower and pumpkin), mushrooms and iron-fortified grain products.
How to:
Try to pair iron-rich foods with a Vitamin C source, as this helps improve the absorption of iron from the food (almost six-fold). So add some orange segments to your salad, make a tamarind-based curry with spinach, cook iron-rich chhole (chickpeas) with tomatoes, have beans with tomato sauce, or drink some orange juice with your bowl of iron-fortified cereal. Also try to eat lots of the foods that contain both iron and Vitamin C: bok choy, broccoli and Swiss chard (doesn't have a Hindi name but is usually available in veg shops these days -- looks like spinach and potatoes).
Have more dried fruit; snack on them when possible. Dried apricots, raisins, prunes, mangos, pineapple, figs, dates, cherries and cranberries are all good and easy sources of iron.
Don't combine coffee, tea, cocoa and calcium with iron-rich foods -- they obstruct iron absorption. This means no tea or coffee with your spinach toast! Give it a decent interval. If you are having calcium supplements, have them at least an hour before or after an iron-rich meal.
Dairy products are an excellent source but vegetarians who do not consume milk or milk products (vegans) need to get calcium from other sources. Try soy milk and orange juice fortified with calcium; other good sources include seeds (sunflower, sesame etc), nuts (almonds, peanuts, cashews), fruit (banana, custard apple) and green vegetables (broccoli, spinach, turnip greens).
How to:
Include tofu in your diet. Not only is this a rich source of calcium, the Vitamin D in it helps in better absorption of the calcium too.
Cooking greens or sprinkling them with a little lemon juice or vinegar makes the calcium more available to your body.
Zinc from plant foods is poorly absorbed, so it is important for vegetarians to get enough zinc. Good sources of zinc include leavened whole grains (such as whole-wheat bread), legumes (beans and lentils), soy foods and dairy products.
How to:
Pumpkin seeds provide one of the most concentrated vegetarian food sources of zinc. Sprinkle some on your food.
Sprinkle cashews in salads, or keep a bag of mixed nuts in your desk or backpack. They contain about twice as much iron and zinc as almost any other nut.
For this, it is important to go strong on grains. Vitamin B12 (found mostly in foods from animal sources, such as milk, eggs, and meat) and B2 are often a bigger problem. So look for foods fortified with Vitamin B12 (such as fortified soy milk) or take a B12 supplement. Good sources of B12 (riboflavin) are whole grains, wheat germ, mushrooms, almonds and leafy green vegetables.
How to:
Try nutritional yeast as it is a great vegetarian source of all B vitamins (and protein too). It's great in smoothies or sprinkled over pasta.
Different grains provide different nutrients, so it helps to vary the types you eat. Don't just stick to making brown rice all the time (because you have heard it is healthy); it's better to mix up the grains you eat. Try oats, red rice, ragi, barley, quinoa (this is a protein-rich cereal which is available now in health food shops easily -- very healthy, it gives the benefits of a legume too), bajra etc.
Vegetarians who don't get adequate sunlight and don't consume enough milk or milk products may not get enough Vitamin D.
How to:
Soy milk is often fortified with Vitamin D, as are some cereals. You can also check with your doctor about a supplement.
Omega-3 fatty acids keep skin supple and prevent disease. Although fish is the best known source of this essential fatty acid, flax oil (sold both in liquid form and in capsules), flax seeds and walnuts are excellent sources too.
Incorporate (and develop a taste for) seaweed in your diet. These super foods -- with names such as alaria, dulse, kelp, nori, spirulina and agar -- are good sources of minerals, including magnesium, calcium, iodine, iron and chromium, as well as vitamins A, C, E and many of the Bs. So add them to the salads, saute with vegetables or simply crumble them in soups (look for them in Korean and Japanese specialty shops).
Vegans are stricter than the average vegetarian. Besides animal foods like meat and eggs, they also eliminate from their diet foods which come from animals such as dairy products (so even milk, paneer and cheese are out), as well as processed foods containing these or other animal-derived ingredients such as gelatin; some even give up honey. This group should be extra careful about its calcium and vitamin B12 intake
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