Misunderstandings, differences, disputes, in life partners, husband wife (-spouses) couples

Misunderstandings, differences, disputes, in life partners, husband wife (-spouses) couples, OR significant others :
Often tender bonds between life partners, couples, husband-wife (-spouses) or significant others become weaker due to following reasons.

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1. When you feel misunderstood or you are being taken advantage of in your relationship.


2.Lack of accordance with your partner.


3.Your partner dominates you at all the time.


4.If you feel that whatever you say is misinterpreted and not taken as you meant it.


5. You find yourself weak and impotent while confront your partner.


6. You suspects character or moral of your partner, knowingly or unknowingly.


7. Aversion to have sexual relations with your partner.


8. You have a fear that your significant other is being disloyal, deceptive or misleading you.


9. Either your partner or you or both of you find jealous, malice, hatred or envy for each other.


10. Certain pressure or obligation makes you speechless before your partner.


11. It seems like you have made bad choices in relationships and now it has developed disgust feeling about partner's habits.


12. You find your wavelength cannot be tuned to your partner's.


13. You find yourself weak in communication and often get the wrong impression when you try to communicate with your partner or colleague.


14. You find your relations are worsened and surplus of fighting over the period.


Following are the probabilities of how those misunderstandings, differences, disputes, in life partners, husband wife (-spouses) couples, OR significant others would end:
Although low self-esteem and submissiveness are at times an integral part of a healthy marriage relationship, there are many life events where a dominating person puts another person's happiness ahead of their own at all costs. A person preferring adjustable nature believes that, if you want a relationship to endure and nourish, you have to give in and act as if that your better half is "absolutely right!" and you are (-as always) "perfectly mistaken!" Such attitudes often result in a long, unhappy existence with loved one (?) that usually ends on a very unsatisfying note.

Persistent misunderstandings between couples leads to psychological separation and ultimately divorce. It is a multi-year process that begins when one or both mates feels that they had choose the wrong person to wed, for the wrong reason/s, at the wrong time! Disturbances in the thought field (mental make-up) cause imbalance in the energy system, which triggers a sequence of physiological activities (body) that culminates in ill-health or unhealthy body and mind condition.

Years of increasing stress, frustration, distrust, declining respect, ineffective communication, and disillusionments between mates debilitate tender marriage bonds. Pre-divorce period also include attempts to heal the marriage with various remedies, including counseling. Seeing a counselor about relationship definitely has its benefits. A counselor can sometimes help both partners to identify the situations that have caused misunderstanding and disagreements and ask them to modify their thinking processes. But it can't always easily help them in eliminating the inner cause; apart the process can be quite uncomfortable and challenging. Either of the partner might also be reluctant to go with other, making it a one-sided intervention offering little real help in changing the relationship for the better. Sometimes the problem with counseling is that it is often a long, costly and painful process and sometimes creates a dependent relationship with the counselor. Once again, unless both partners are willing to attend and take responsibility for change, the success rate can be disappointing.

This phase ends with one mate moving out or calling a lawyer.

The second phase (-divorce phase) may last several years spanning a mix of reconciliation tries, mediations, and legal battles which amplify spouses' weariness, distrusts, disrespects, and often adds new stressors like legal bills;

The last phase of a divorce starts with a legal decree, and may last for many years, until all adults and children affected by the family reorganization have grieved and reached full mental, emotional, and spiritual acceptance of their many losses, dispelled all significant shame and guilt associated with "failing" and genuinely forgiven themselves and each other.

The psychological impacts of divorce can result in a new sequel of unwise future remarriage and stepfamily decisions.

In early stages, one can overcome frequent recurrences of misunderstandings and prestige issues by re-shaping his (or her) behavioral traits causing such problems and get rid of the causes of unnecessary fighting and misunderstandings.

Co-relation between our Innate Negative emotions and those misunderstandings, differences, disputes, in life partners, husband wife (-spouses) couples, OR significant others.
Often the causes of "Differences between partners, couples, husband wife spouses or significant others" are more mental than physical. A bad relationship, ego, arrogance, unnecessary pride, poor self image, a history of abuse, stress, frustration and many other factors can change your overall attitude towards life which may directly impede your overall performance. Such tendencies are deep-rooted in mind and nurtured by excessive Negative Emotions.

It is needless to mention that these negative emotions are tremendously powerful. They can debilitate lives extremely quick by causing disparity in energy system, which triggers a sequence of emotional imbalance (i.e. frustration, melancholia, persistent agony, mental instability, uncontrolled anger, inferiority complex etc.), which ultimately culminates in ill health.

Lessen "Negative Emotions" in psyche. (i.e. frustration, uncontrolled anger, bitterness, excessive shame, guilt, arrogance, envy, jealousy, greed, fear, suspicious nature, inferiority complex, persistent agony or melancholy, mental instability, escapism or shilly-shallying tendencies, communication apprehension, poor will power, low grasping, absentmindedness, sloth, laziness, dawdling, dodging etc.) boost latent inner ability Mold the inherent behavior in accordance with the existing circumstances and surrounding conditions get rid of worries, tensions and sufferings achieve peace of mind and bring the Ultimate Happiness!

"Balancing Emotions" will purge Negative Emotions in psyche and shape your innate behavior in a way to face every life challenge by avoiding pessimistic approach towards life; whilst you will be able to derive maximum life pleasure from whatever resources are available with you!

Reigning behavioral negativities --like frustration, guilty feeling or jealousy-- which accumulate at the core of our psyche over a duration of time --as in the form of "negative emotions"-- and incessantly make us "emotionally imbalanced", are considered to be the root cause of all our sufferings.

According to Bach Flower Therapy, often any ailment or ill-health condition --at most of the time and in majority of the cases-- is the result or expression of persistent "emotional imbalance" that takes place at the core of your psyche and persists over a period of time due to gradual accumulation of numerous Negative Emotions, those originates either from your mind itself or from your surrounding circumstances. As soon as your mental state improves the physical trouble disappears. Therefore a person --which implies his overall nature, his general attitude towards life and his inimitable surrounding circumstances-- is more important than his disease or ill-health condition.

Please find out what is causing the problem and try to fix it for it could be helpful.

May god bless us all with positive vibes and positive energy.