Force is right

I was just thinking is force a right thing. America using force on iraq or afghanisthan. Srilanka using force on LTTE. India using force on maoists etc. I feel force is sometimes the right thing to do to get things into order. Had Srilanka not used force on LTTE the burning problem would have been like that only. Negotations were not taking any where. If we look at Kashmir problem where have negotations taken us. Daily innocent civilians getting killed. Look at Assam bodo thing.

It is not only in the international and state arena, look at simple things. All of us have been through schools. Had our teachers not used canes( force) discipline might not have been there.

Dont we face force in our jobs, we call that as stress. If you dont perform you are out. If organizations dont force our KRA's the organizations cannot sustain in long run.

Similarly in personal lifes if the head of family doesnot force disciplines or ideas the house leads towards failure. Most of the time i was against using the force, but after reading George Bush recent one and how he defended on use of force it was good. I have also learnt that force is not a bad thing and it should be used to keep things in order. If it is not used it will lead to failure of things be it personal or professional.

I personally feel its high time that i should learn this and start implementing.

The govt has changed in USA from republicans to democrats, but still policy remains same with minor alterations.

The way china used force against tibet is a live example we have next door.

The way force is used by ruling party against opposition in all states in india is an example of it. Down tamilnadu how force is used against jayalalitha is a live example.

Live and Lead with your heart

My personal life philosophy is that I live and lead with my heart. I believe that every experience in our lives touches us in ways that leave an imprint in our hearts. Sometimes, those imprints are painful and sometimes they are the things that mean the most us.

Life is about learning to love, to feel compassion, to find strength and determination, and to live through the experiences that make us who we are. All these things effect and touch the heart.

If you think about it, when you find someone or something or maybe even some issue that you are deeply touched by, that feeling hits the heart. When you see injustice or notice something that causes pain and hurt, that feeling hits the heart. When you decide that you are going to do your best to change or make a difference, those things come from your heart.

The best way I can think to explain it is this way. You see homeless children on the television, their suffering and pain touches you deeply. You then become compassionate about making the changes needed if only to help a few. You decide that you are going to do something to change this and so then you become determined. From that determination, you gain strength and from that strength, you pour your love into trying to make a change that will benfit others.

You have lead with your heart. The heart sees and feels love in many different ways. Those feelings guide you in making decisions and in sharing your life and life experiences with others.

I also believe that the true depths of people's values and morals live deep in the heart. Most people try to always logic things out and they change the nature of who they are. They listen to what other people say and don't follow what is truly inside them. Most people conform based on what others say and not on what is inside them. When they do this, they look back sometime later and have regrets because they didn't follow what they believed in their heart was the right thing for them to do.

The heart and pain

There are things I have gone through in my life that hit my heart hard. They hurt so bad and they left scars that I don't think will ever be forgotten. But those are a part of me. They are the imprints of who I am. The very things that lead to me to make decisions in my life that lead me to be the person I am.

I understand that I won't agree with certain choices other people make but that doesn't mean that their choices are wrong. It may be what is in their heart. I am not saying that you still don't have to use logic, but you can use logic and your heart to make the best choices for yourself.

Other people's views

Everyone is different when it come to their beliefs in religion, politics, and their culture. Just because I see those differences, doesn't make their way wrong. Their beliefs and convictions are from their heart. You can't force someone to change the way they believe because you disagree. There has to be a certain degree of tolerance and compassion in understanding those differences.

Your life is your own. Nobody has the power to take away what is in your heart. It is when you relinquish what you believe, when you compromise on what you feel, and when you don't listen to what you know in your heart is right, that you get yourself in trouble.

Ravi shankar good words

One thing we need to remember is that the whole story will be finished here! All of us will be gone! We will all go under ground. Life will come to an end, right? If we look back and see so many people we once knew are now gone. Those who were with us, they are all finished. More will go. Everybody will go and one day we will also be gone. This is the permanent truth, the definite truth in life.

Thanks friends across the globe, this is because of your love and affection.

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Very Good one.- I personally liked it.

Next time someone starts to spread gossip, think of this:


In ancient Greece (469 - 399 BC), Socrates was widely lauded for his
wisdom.

One day the great philosopher came upon an acquaintance who ran up to
him excitedly and said, "Socrates, do you know what I just heard about
one of your students?"

Wait a moment," Socrates replied. "Before you tell me I'd like you to
pass a little test.It's called the Triple Filter Test."

"Triple filter?"

"That's right," Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my
student let's take a moment to filter what you're going to say. The
first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are
about to tell me is true?"

"No," the man said, "actually I just heard about it and..."

"All right," said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or
not. Now let's try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what
you are about to tell me about my student something good?"

"No, on the contrary..."

"So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about
him, even though you're not certain it's true?"

The man shrugged, a little embarrassed.

Socrates continued. "You may still pass the test though,because there
is a third filter - the filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell
me about my student going to be useful to me?"

"No, not really..."

"Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither
True nor Good nor even Useful,! why tell it to me at all?"

The man was defeated and ashamed.

This is the reason Socrates was a great philosopher and held in such
high esteem.

Real life and virtual life.

Hello Friends,

Today i want to touch a good topic real life and virtual life. what is real life. In my view a real life is one where u had seen different phases of life. A person like me sitting in a non cyclone zone will not know what is cyclone and how it affects the people. See for last few days how cyclone havoc was making lifes of so many fisherman hit in bad way. you are not sure what will be its effect. Living in a sense of what is going to happen. When such a person narates his pain do i have the capability to visualize. None of us can have 100% experiences of real life. Have you seen poverty is a question which was asked to a guy born with silver spoon. Can u he visualize. Sometimes i feel i am lucky for i had gone through the phases of being poor, middle class and then today where i am. That gave me a chance to look at life very closely. It gave me a chance to interact with different personalities. I thank god for that. Had i been born in a rich house may be i would not have got these experiences. I could claim with a sense of pride that i know how to value a life. I can also say that as a person i know how to build into the life. virtual life is one where you are surrounded by people who just praise you. Like rahul gandhi he has his own set of people who praise him. Whenever he opens his mouth it throws stupidity like bangladesh was created by my grand mother etc or kashmir issues or micro finance etc. Real life comes with experience where as virtual life comes only by the luxuries.

Thank god you gave me a real life.

Trivikram- Director

Hello Friends,

It was a good to see trivikram,the movie director. It was so nice listening to his words. The best thing i liked was he was very cool when he is being grilled by the programmer. we think that the hero/heroine has done great job. The actual person who do it are people behind the screen. Think of paa movie, the actual hero is director who could visualize the things before we see and present it. Trivikram is a great director who has given great movies. I could have watched his movie 'athadu' more than 100 times on tv,in travel in bus etc. How the director has to visualize. Then he needs to pass on his visualization to the director of photography, similarly what type of sound he expects here, what type of background music he expects, what type of costumes he expects characters to wear. He needs to pass on what he is expecting from them. He needs to clearly articulate to the editor on how sequence has to go on. He needs to convince producer regarding the ROI for such things in movie. He needs to articulate to song writers what he is expecting from them. In short he has to be the most cool guy as his losing temper will create things bad and nothing more. Similarly a husband is the director of the house. He has to be cool headed to get a best thing for his house. A great lesson for me, thought of sharing with all like minded.

Good discussion at tea stall.

It was a good discussion at tea stall today in the morning. we feel that if we get transffered to south it will be good. North feel if they get transffered to north it will be good. Same to east and west. But importantly india is a country of multiple languages. If we go to south, tamilnadu has tamil and its culture. Kerala has malayalam lang and its culture, karnataka has kannada and its culture same to AP. similarly if we come to west maharashtra has marati and its culture, gujarat has gujrathi adn its culture, rajasthan has rajasthani and its culture. North has punjabi and its culture. kashmiri and its culture. bihari and its culture. Same goes to east wb with bengali its culture, assam with assami its culture.mizoram, nagaland etc and its cultures. As employees we find mostly our employment outside. If we can adapt to that places rather than feeling out of place we can find peace. it is the best policy rather being rigid. Rigidness always spoils life. Flexibility brings in joy and fun.

The Story Of Bhai Dooj

For Hindus, the story behind each festival play a very important role in the formation of their culture and have a very deep significance and values. Most of the Indian festivals are attached to specific characters and personalities that helps the masses to understand and know the true significance of the festival. Just like all important Indian Festivals, Bahi dooj also has a story to follow that have carved a niche with its unique presence and strength.

Through generations, the story of Bhai Dooj has been passed from generation to generation either by word of mouth or through carefully stored scriptures. The narration of the story marks the end of the Bhai dooj puja. Once the various rituals of Bhai dooj such as the sister applying the teeka on the forehead of the brother, giving him the eatables and in return receiving the gifts are over, the women and children sit around, to hear the story behind Bhai Dooj from the elders of the family.

The story goes that once there was a family living in a village that had only a sister and a brother. The sister was very elder to her brother, thus when she got married, the brother was at a very tender age. The boy did not remembered any thing about his sister's marriage. After the marriage, the sister never returned to her mother's home. As the brother grew up, the image of her sister started fading with each passing years. He terribly missed his sister, especially on the Bhai Dooj day, as he used to see his friends with teeka on their forehead and plates full of sweets.

On one particular Bhai dooj, when the boy had turned up into a handsome young boy, he inquired his mother about the reason as to why his sister never visited her original home after her marriage. The mother replied that she does not come because there is a big forest between this village and the one in which she lives and there is a big river flowing in between. One has to cross the river by boat and then there are wild animals which fill people with so much terror, that many people do not travel through the forest.

Inspite of knowing the immense difficulty he will have to face, the young brother decided to visit his sister on the next Bhai dooj day. The mother reminded him again of the dangers, but he did not listen, and so it was decided that he would go and visit her. When the time came she told him to tell his sister that she should now come over and choose a suitable bride for him.

The boy set off and on his way he faced the rising level of river, which made it impossible for him to cross the road. There was also the danger of snakes. The boy requested the river not to drown him and told the snakes that they can bite him on his return journey, after he meets his only sister. The snake agreed, and the boy proceeded. Now, he came to a mountain, which started through big stones on him, and he again pleaded with it to let him go. The mountain also agreed. When the boy was near his sister's village, a big tiger appeared and decided to eat him up. He also pleaded to the tiger and promised him that the tiger can feed on him on his return journey.

The poor boy knew now that is days were numbered, still, he eagerly went along to meet his only sister. He entered the house, and saw that she was doing the Bhai Dooj puja. The sister on seeing him after such a long time, welcomed her brother with a smile and embraced him. She at once brought lovely fruits and sweet meats to eat. She set about preparing kheer, puri, kachori, and lots of other tasty items. When her husband came after work, both of them provided a very enjoyable and memorable time to the young lad, so that he was full of joy.

Days passed, and it was time for the brother to take leave of his sister and brother-in-law. Before returning back, the brother narrated the whole incident to his sister and told her that his days were numbered and that he is soon going to die. The sister was shocked, but she decided to accompany him for the return journey. She secretly packed some meat for the tiger, some milk for the snake, flowers of silver and gold for the mountain and some roli and rice for the river.

Soon they were on their way and, of course, the tiger came first to eat up the brother. The sister gave him the meat and he went his way. Then came the mountain, which wanted to fall on her brother. She quickly performed puja with the gold and silver flowers and the mountain was very pleased with the offerings and stopped falling. Then it was the turn of the snake, and it was given the milk, and went away satisfied. They now reached the river and as was expected, it started to rise, but the sister subdued it by doing puja with roli and rice, and the river went down.

Both, brother and sister were very happy to escape the dangers of the forest and were anxious to reach home. The sister was now tired and thirsty. Soon she saw some gypsies working far away. She wanted to ask them for water, so the brother sat down under a tree-happy to be alive-and she went to the gypsies and got some water. Their the gypsies predicted that the danger was not over and her brother will die very soon. She asked them to tell her some way by which this calamity could be averted. One old woman came to her rescue and suggested that until her brother gets married, she should go on cursing him, right from now on and continuous to curse him all through the wedding and also insists on getting all rituals done to her first, only then this boy can be saved.

As soon as she reached near her brother, she started to curse him and to abuse him. The poor fellow was taken by surprise, but she continued calling him bad names. This thing continued even when they reached home. The mother, along with the villagers were very surprised at the nasty behavior of the sister, but no said anything as she was married and had came to her mother's place after a long time.

Soon, the brother's marriage was fixed to a beautiful girl. Still the sister went on cursing on any pretext. Everyone wanted the wedding to be over as soon as possible and the sister to be sent back to her village. On the wedding day, she insisted that all rituals be performed on her before her brother. The sister insisted that they tie the sehra on her forehead first. She found a small snake in the sehra instead of a string. She pulled out the snake. Next, the sister insisted that the barat (marriage procession) should go from the back door and not from the front door and no decorations be made. When the barat was to start, somehow the sister had fallen asleep. Ignoring her words, the barat started from beautiful front porch. But, no longer had everyone gather, the whole porch fell down, and narrowly missed the groom.

Now the time for the pheras (going round the fire) arrived and the sister had again gone to sleep. As soon as the first round of the pheras was done, the boy fell down in a dead faint, because of the evil spirits who had come to take him away. The sister woke up on hearing the noise and came cursing in to the courtyard. Hearing the abuses and seeing her blazing eyes, the evil spirits fled. It was now time for the boy and the girl to give kheer to each other. They let the sister have the first morsel from which she took out a hedgehog's spiked needle and quickly put it in her tiny bag as well.

The wedding was finally over and every one including the mother and brother were keen to see the sister leave. Before leaving for her husbands place, the sister narrated the prediction of the gypsies and gave the reason for her bad behavior. Everyone had tears in their eyes and they hugged her feet, and all present said with one voice: 'Let everyone have a sister like this, who is willing to be talked ill of, and will go about looking wild and angry even during a wedding, although it was to be the only wedding in the family - all this just to save her brother and family from disaster.

Thus, the custom is prevalent that a brother does not go to his sisters house for the teeka; instead the sisters bring or send the teeka to the brother, as danger may lurk on the way.

Diwali 2010.

A very happy diwali. Enjoyment and fun. There are few good things i would like to share. I take this from my sister. she stays at hyderabad with brother in law, their parents, kids. My sister's sister in law also stays at hyderabad. My parents also stay at hyderabad. The bes thing for my sister is the support of in laws. The support they extended when she was at chennai, vishakapatnam, kurnool etc is hard to say any thanks. The day my sister started her new life I said treat your inlaws as our parents. Their help is more needed in life than ours. I said if myself and BIL comes to house at same time and if i ask water and BIL asks for coffee, i said first make coffee and then only serve me water. One more important thing is the advises of father. A father plays an important role. He has never encouraged any complaint when it comes. Who can forget the role of father, randhir kapoor slapping karishma kapoor in a mall when she came back to mumbai leaving her husband. That slap has kept her marriage in tact. Had randhir encouraged her, she would have been like her mother babitha who was encouraged by her mother. This diwali when paddu , in laws, kids, sister in law everybody assembled at single place it was great joy. The true spirit of festival has come out. when u celebrate that way it is a great fun. The next person i had listened talking good of her inlaws was the elder sister of my employee from chandigarh. Her words and thought was similar to paddu. The reason why i see petluri girl having happy lifes including my sister(15) in number is their love and affection for their in laws and helping the families to grow where they have been married.

I wish all the girls work this way to have happy diwali's in their homes and have the true fun in word and deed.

May god bless vishnu all with this type of happiness.

diabetic do and donts

Diet plays an important role in the treatment of diabetes. The diet plan of an individual is based on height, weight, age, sex, physical activity and nature of the disease conditions. Here are some DOs and DON'Ts for managing diabetes.

Drink plenty of water. Water is important for everybody, but especially for diabetics because decrease of the hydration-level can cause serious health problems

Eat 20 - 25 grams of raw onion daily. Onions contain properties that actually fight against diabetes. It also aids digestion besides serving as a diuretic

Try to switch to herbal tea rather than caffeinated tea.

Try to choose low or non-fat varieties over full-fat dairy products, as they are lower in saturated fat and cholesterol

Eat at least 3 servings of fresh vegetables daily. Vegetables that can be consumed in larger quantities by diabetics are cabbage, mint, spinach, bitter gourd, lady's finger, cauliflower, cucumber, carrots, radish, onion stalk and pumpkin

Current recommendations for diabetics are to take plenty of fruits and vegetables, as naturally occurring fruit sugar (fructose) is more slowly absorbed than sucrose, and raises the blood glucose to a lesser extent. Very sweet fruits (mango, banana, chikoo etc) can be taken in small portions, along with a meal to reduce the spike in blood glucose

It is very important to never skip any meal. It is easier to keep blood sugars stable if you eat your meals at the same time everyday.


Avoid eating or drinking anything containing a lot of sugar likes cakes, sweets, chocolate etc.


Stop eating fried or fatty foods. Try baking or broiling the food instead of frying.


Avoid eating large quantities of lots of rice, potatoes, bananas as these can raise your blood sugar level.


You can take dairy products like milk and yoghurt but avoid fatty products like butter, cheese, ghee etc. It is better to use low fat milk or skimmed milk

Diabetes can put you at increased risk for hypertension and cardiovascular complications. Try to reduce the intake of salt in your food

Diwali to Diwali blog going strong

Hello friends,

Its a great joy to share that the blog has completed diwali 2009 to diwali 2010 sucessfully. It has been a great journey. Good constructive feedbacks, personal attacks, new people joining, some people leaving out from followers. Every action was packed. There are lot of blogs from friends, wellwishers which started at same time and some have lost the capability to update and some perished out. Blog had great words from ravi shankar, intresting topics of debate, knowledge sharing. New ideas of business, how to grow, how to face situations etc. In short the blog was doing a total personality development for people who are reading or following. For me its a achievement and hope god keeps it going for many more diwali's to come.

The entire credit for this goes to lord vishnu who was instrumental behind this. Hope we all will have lord vishnu's blessings in coming days/years.

Commited Employee.

Hello friends,

Today i felt happy to see a committed employee. As usual i went to one of my friends office to tell happy diwali to him. It was good to see an employee who turned out for the laxmi puja. Putting oil in the diyas and placing them at different places. A day before doing decoration into the office. Singing the bhajan when puja is being done. Dressed up traditionally in the saree when any organization has such commited employees it feels good. I enjoyed this goodness today and felt happy for that. Thought of sharing this with all of you so that you can become committed employees to organization and help your respective organizations grow from day to day.

Great Job Sandhya- Inspiration for me.

Dear friends,

Today i got a great inspiration for myself. It was around 11 months back i went to one of my friends house. He is from Tamilnadu where hindi speaking is almost zero. In office english goes so he never had issues though he had some he managed in mumbai. He got married and the girl was from interior of tamilnadu near sri rangapatnam. She only knew tamil and english to normal extent. When she has landed in mumbai it is all together a different place.There is a very little chance that they can get transfer back to south in next 3-5 years. When i went i asked sandhya why cannot she try to learn hindi. I said see your husband has learnt languages like java, .net, php etc other than the languages he knows. I said i can help her if she lands into problems. We had a path laid. we bought learn hindi through tamil from the book stall at vashi railway station. previously from here only i bought the book 'oh mind relax please' which was a good book. then my friend also bought same book later. She started working on hindi after 3 months she was ok with hindi today when i met her she was so fluent in hindi i cannot say. I am very happy for her for she can communicate with neighbours etc far more and will not feel lonely. Adjustment factor will increase. it will force my friend also to improve his hindi skills. I am really happy for her for it was a great job.

so GREAT JOB SANDHYA I have taken a leaf of inspiration from you. It is a great job.

Stress and High BP

Discover how stress can relate with high blood pressure. Stress can be an important cause of high blood pressure.

Stress can make blood pressure go up for a while, and it has been thought to contribute to high blood pressure. But the long-term effects of stress are as yet unclear. Stress management techniques do not seem to prevent high blood pressure. However, such techniques may have other benefits, such as making you feel better or helping you to control over-eating thus helping in decreasing your blood pressure..

Remember Your blood pressure increases remarkably when you are under physical or emotional stress. If you constantly feel "stressed out," your body may maintain an abnormally high level of responsiveness, creating an artificially induced state of high blood pressure.

Exercise can also cause stess, but Unlike exercise, which provides your body with well-controlled physical stress for a limited amount of time, chronic stress does not benefit your circulatory system. Rather, it increases your risk of illness. However, stress is very much a part of modern life, and it can be hard to control the amount of stress in your life without changing your daily habits significantly.

what are the ways to control your stress? Many persons do follow these habits to relieve from stress—eating, drinking alcohol, and smoking—contribute to the development of high blood pressure. You may wish to use exercise to manage your stress. Failing that, you may need to seek counseling to help you change how you think about certain things that cause you to be stressed, or to learn relaxation techniques. Relaxation techniques, including progressive muscle relaxation and transcendental meditation may help reduce mild high blood pressure.

What stress do to your Heart? Stress has noticeable effects on the cardiovascular system. Who hasn't felt their heart beat faster because of stress or anxiety? Chronic stress can result in high blood pressure, atherosclerosis, strokes, heart attacks, and other cardiovascular system disorders.

Keep in mind that Stress is a leading cause of high blood pressure. Even a small stress response causes blood vessels to constrict. Research is unlocking a complex relationship between stress, high blood pressure and the cardiovascular system. Some studies has proved this fact that stress is deeply related with high blood pressure.

Strokes and High Blood Pressure
Recent studies have brought to light how stress and high blood pressure influence the chance of a stroke and transient ischemic attacks. A study in the June 2003 edition of Stroke draws a connection between the severity of stress-induced blood pressure changes and the risk of strokes. Danish study supports this finding: the study discovered that middle-aged men who reported high levels of stress were twice as likely to suffer a fatal stroke compared to men who reported low stress levels. As little as one incident of stress a week doubled the chance of a stroke.

Atherosclerosis
Atherosclerosis occurs when fat, cholesterol, and plaque deposits build up and clog the cardiovascular system's blood vessels. Arteries become thick with this process. If atherosclerosis affects blood vessels leading to the heart, the disease is referred to as coronary artery disease.

High blood pressure , cholestrol, smoking and diabetes are important risk factors for High blood pressure. Stress may also be a contributing factor. An Ohio State University study discovered that stress slows the body's metabolism of triglycerides, a type of fat linked to cardiovascular system disorders, including heart attacks. By slowing the metabolism of triglycerides, stress allows the fat to remain in the blood longer, a factor that may speed up atherosclerosis development.

Relaxation Techniques: Protecting the Cardiovascular System
Relaxation techniques can help minimize the effect stress has on the cardiovascular system. Research has noted that breathing exercises and meditation help control high blood pressure, and may even have a preventative effect. Development of atherosclerosis can also be delayed by relaxation techniques. Regular meditation, breathing exercises and other techniques can help to lower the level of oxidative chemicals in the blood, which in turn lowers the risk of atherosclerosis and thus maintaining your blood pressure with in normal limits.

Good act by sachin.

Ahmedabad: After a day at the nets practicing for the forthcoming Test match in the city against the Kiwis, master blaster Sachin Tendulkar found time to meet his old buddy, Dalbir Singh Gill. He was delighted to see Gill back on his feet and walking without crutches.

Dalbir was in coma for six months after meeting with a near fatal motorbike accident in 2002 near Nadiad. Even after regaining consciousness, he was bedridden for almost eight years. He has recovered completely now and his life is back on track, thanks to the generosity of his friend, Sachin, who paid Rs6 lakh for Dalbir's hip replacement surgery.

Dalbir and his family met Sachin on Monday evening and wished him a happy Diwali. The Gill family had brought Sachin a box of chocolates and an idol of Lord Hanuman, both gifts expressing their affection for him.

"I chose Lord Hanuman's idol as a symbol of the affection I feel for him," said Dalbir. "I feel the same way towards Sachin as Lord Hanuman felt towards Lord Ram." Sachin had invited Dalbir and his family on Monday evening to a private meeting in his hotel room in the city and had spent around 40 minutes with them.
Dalbir works as a marketing executive for a chocolate company now. "I have been able to start a second innings in life only because of your help," he told Sachin during the meeting.
Dalbir, his mother, Sukhdaya Kaur, sister Sukhbir, her two kids, Simran and Gagandip, and Gill's brother, Prabjit, shared memories of their friendship. When Sukhbir's kids bowed to touch Sachin's feet for his blessings, the cricket legend instantly said, "Not my feet. Pair to uparwale ki chhuo."

Dalbir's mother said Sachin was a god-like figure for her family. "He paid from his own pocket for my son's treatment," she said. "He gave the money not as charity but out of affection for his friend. I have always seen the spark affection in his eyes for my son."


Read more at: http://www.ndtv.com/article/cities/master-blaster-meets-old-buddy-in-city-64047?pfrom=Cities&cp

Facebook generation loneliest among all age groups

London: Britain's 16- to 24-year-olds, the so-called Facebook generation, are lonelier than any other age group, even pensioners.

One in three said they were bored with their lives, compared to just eight percent of pensioners, and 28 percent complained that loneliness was making them unhappy.

More than a quarter revealed they turned to alcohol for comfort, and half admitted to using junk food as an emotional crutch, reports the Daily Mail.

The depressing picture of life for young people in Britain emerged from a survey into national happiness levels, conducted for BBC Radio 3.

Asked what made them unhappy, 70 percent of the Facebook generation said finances topped their list of concerns.

More than a third were worried about holding down a job, compared to a quarter of middle-aged respondents.

One in three said they were tormented by family or relationship problems, and they were also the age group that were most likely to struggle over their social status.

Overall, money was the biggest cause of unhappiness across all age groups, above work, relationships and loneliness.

But while older age groups shared the Facebook generation's finance fears, they were more fulfilled in other areas of their lives.

Almost a third of the youngest generation reported they had relationship problems, which dropped to just eight percent among 55 to 64-year-olds.

Behavioural psychologist Jo Hemmings said: "Real friendships are made through shared experiences and bonds. Some social networking "friends" are barely even acquaintances, without any real meaning or intimacy."

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Short temper.

Short temper is not a disease kind of stuff,it is just a human phenomenon where a person feels any thing is happening wrong with her.

The remedial solution for this is to be cool calm & trying to avoid things which are not benificial to person.

1. divert ur mind
2. address the problem/ stress with some new way
3. delaying ur reaction time
4. remembering Newton Law avery action has a reaction

Try to spend some time in pranayama and meditation daily in the morning for 30 minutes.

Try looking at ur reflection when u shout...or after u shout...u will know hw ugly it is...besides ul feel dreadful after shouting at someone...words once spoken cannot be taken back.So try not to let ur emotions overcome you and instead put urself in the other person's shoes....be positive and always look at the brighter side of life....life is too short and shouldnt be wasted coz of trivial issues....!

Due to over hydration the functioning of the brain slows down ie. movement of the neurons slows down. That causes short temper and irritation. Short temper - because we expected the results (by brain processing) to be there and it does not reach in time. When there is mismatch of timing again and again we feel short tempered and irritation because of delays.

1. Remember that the reward for patience is happiness.

2. Realize that things can be handled well at all times; it's just a matter of what kind of attitude you put into it. Take deep breaths.

3. Realize that no one likes to be around people who get angry easily, and act abusive. The only way you can change the situation is by starting with yourself.
4. Be considerate of others, and ultimately, yourself. The way you react will ultimately affect your surroundings. If you have to rebuke someone for doing something wrong, you can always do it calmly, in a private place. This method is always better for everyone in the long run.
5. If you are angry and you are standing, sit down, if you are sitting then lie down.
6. Remember, 5 seconds stand between you and logic, count to 5, and remember that logic always beats anger.
7. Stop talking to that person for a few minutes to whom you are angry and take deep breath around 5-7 times.
8. Think about the good things that person has done for you. What bad have you done to them? Chances are, you've done at least something to them to make them resentful towards you. Make sure you have a clear conscience-then speak.
9. Temper can ruin anybody's life. When your eyes are opened it might be too late, so try to control your anger and follow the above steps. It will definitely get you away from tension.
10. Count from 1 to 10 in ascending order and then descending order, you will feel a bit calmer.
11. Saying hurtful things could be very risky and dangerous and it can hurt someone's heart so please stay calm when you feel hyper.

Hope it will help people as i feel it is useful for people. The only thing that i always say in life is be practical.

Happy birthday Esha

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Going through the slides i am happy for the hardwork she has put in though success didnot touch her commercially. Learning traditional dance and performing with her mother is a blessing. You are blessed to dance with your mother just like abhishek was blessed to carry his father on his back in paa. May god bless you a happy life ahead.

Birthday with husband is always special.

Its good to see hubby and wife spending birthday with family members and in the company of friends and well wishers. True meaning of birthday and true joy of birthday. My sister and cousin sister always say birthday with husband next to you is always special. Different people can have different opinions but i go with husband's birthday with wife is special and wife's birthday with husband is special. May god bless such a opportunity to all.

Bollywood queen bee Aishwarya Rai turns 37 today and the Bachchan bahu is spending her big day with her family.

Her day started at midnight as wishes started flowing in while she was on her way back home from an awards night with entire family including Amitabh Bachchan, husband Abhishek and mother-in-law Jaya.

"It nears past midnight as we stroll out of the Hotel Taj and the wishes for Aishwarya start. Happy birthday daughter -in- law and may you achieve and get all that you so desire," wrote the Big B on his blog.

The actress seems to have been enjoying a romantic lunch with her husband who posted a loving picture of the pair on Twitter. The pic showed Aishwariya dressed in blue with mehendi on her hands, as Abhishek looked dapper in a bow-tie and tuxedo.

"There she is, as promised, the birthday girl..." the actor wrote.

As the month begins with her birthday excitements, Aishwariya is also looking forward to two much-awaited films - Action Replayy and Guzaarish - hitting theatres this month.

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