Hello Friends,
I just went to the mall and after coming I thought will share this with you guys. It is nice to see kids knowing the electronic gadgets and parents getting them those. I am of strong view that gadgets should be used as a motivating factor in kids like if you play well this gadget, if u read well this gadget. If u achieve something, this gadget, if u do household work helping father or mother for one month this gadget etc. like the small ipod which costs 300/- or anything. These gadgets attract the attention of all age kids.
It is not only the duty of elders to give gadgets but also teach kids advantanges and disadvantages. If for example we give the kid a mobile, or allow him to use our mobile teach him not only games in the mobile but also calculator, alarm clock etc so that it does the good part.
I just thought to share with all of you as i felt it good to see kids using gadgets.
may lord vishnu bless all kids with good future.
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Paa
Hello friends,
After a long time with some good free time thought would write the things close to heart. Yes u guessed right. Movies. The recent movie I saw was Paa. It is a good movie. The director Balki needs to be congratulated in the way he has handled the movie. The roles were tailored very properly and cast has done justice to each role. There is one more reason for me to love this movie. The name of auro closest friend being that of 'VISHNU' a name which i love. Coming to the fact it was a great role by abhishek whom i critized lot of times, this time he has done perfect. The way he gets media is superb from director point of view. The word of superman 'With the power, responsibility should come' Was a killer. His acceptance on TV saying yes I had it without condom shows the gut of director. All in all abhishek is lucky to carry his father amitabh as kid on his back. i am sure it is a life time rememberance for him. His sincerity saying asking vidyabalan where are u calling her from phone shows his sincerity. His coming forward to accept auro as his kid and sticking with it shows maturity. Unfortunately he could keep his kid happy in the last stages as vidyabalan character is more on ego and to prove point. She realizes only few seconds before the death of auro even made tears come out of my eyes.
The next character is auro. I dont have words to tell. fridge me achar hai voh lavo. maa thum kavo why do u want to punish yourself for me. Bum, yeh dress kaisi hai, acha nahi from bum and he says then i will take this only. mistake ka raj with abhishek what to say height of kid. The way he gets ready to go to delhi shows how kids hope. the dialogue with vishnu, i will take after i see bhavan agar tujhe kutch hogaya tho. No words simply stunning peformance. White globe and showing his natural dance before taking prize is too good.
Coming to vidya balan's character i loved it only for sometime. I hated this character when abhishek asks where are u she keeps down the phone. At final stages she carries ego this didnot go well with me. There are positive shades of this character too. Even after knowing kid has disease she carries kid with her. The scene in garden when other female comes and ask what happened to him, the coolness shown is great. The love she has for auro is good. The way she reads his mind by getting sony game etc is superb. Though she has lot of positives the ego which cannot break before kid on death bed made me look this character differently.
Coming to character of vishnu and little girl, they lived to the screen expectations.
Overall i learnt some good lessons frm this movie.
May lord vishnu bless one and all.
After a long time with some good free time thought would write the things close to heart. Yes u guessed right. Movies. The recent movie I saw was Paa. It is a good movie. The director Balki needs to be congratulated in the way he has handled the movie. The roles were tailored very properly and cast has done justice to each role. There is one more reason for me to love this movie. The name of auro closest friend being that of 'VISHNU' a name which i love. Coming to the fact it was a great role by abhishek whom i critized lot of times, this time he has done perfect. The way he gets media is superb from director point of view. The word of superman 'With the power, responsibility should come' Was a killer. His acceptance on TV saying yes I had it without condom shows the gut of director. All in all abhishek is lucky to carry his father amitabh as kid on his back. i am sure it is a life time rememberance for him. His sincerity saying asking vidyabalan where are u calling her from phone shows his sincerity. His coming forward to accept auro as his kid and sticking with it shows maturity. Unfortunately he could keep his kid happy in the last stages as vidyabalan character is more on ego and to prove point. She realizes only few seconds before the death of auro even made tears come out of my eyes.
The next character is auro. I dont have words to tell. fridge me achar hai voh lavo. maa thum kavo why do u want to punish yourself for me. Bum, yeh dress kaisi hai, acha nahi from bum and he says then i will take this only. mistake ka raj with abhishek what to say height of kid. The way he gets ready to go to delhi shows how kids hope. the dialogue with vishnu, i will take after i see bhavan agar tujhe kutch hogaya tho. No words simply stunning peformance. White globe and showing his natural dance before taking prize is too good.
Coming to vidya balan's character i loved it only for sometime. I hated this character when abhishek asks where are u she keeps down the phone. At final stages she carries ego this didnot go well with me. There are positive shades of this character too. Even after knowing kid has disease she carries kid with her. The scene in garden when other female comes and ask what happened to him, the coolness shown is great. The love she has for auro is good. The way she reads his mind by getting sony game etc is superb. Though she has lot of positives the ego which cannot break before kid on death bed made me look this character differently.
Coming to character of vishnu and little girl, they lived to the screen expectations.
Overall i learnt some good lessons frm this movie.
May lord vishnu bless one and all.
Tuesday, December 29, 2009
Subconscious fear- how to over come.
Hello Friends,
This is a quite intresting blog. I was having discussion with a person of great value to me today. Suddenly the topic moved onto fears. I asked the person to note down the fears on a piece of paper as my sir always used to tell if you find causes , mapping solutions is easy. I enquired about have the fears been penned, i was given reply they are subconscious fears. So i thought i would use the blog as mechanism to address how to overcome.
Sometimes we don’t recognize fear for what it really is. We give it other disguises and names like self-sabotage, procrastination or just being plain lazy. But if you dig deeper to those dark layers we all have, you realize that your resistance is based in fear.
To overcome your fear you’ve got to start by recognizing fear for what it really is.
#1. Recognize What Fear Is and Is Not
Realize that there is only one moment and that moment is n-o-w. If you really take the time to dissect and look at your fear, you’ll see something completely obvious. Fear is not something that is happening now, it’s something that you’ve predicted to happen in the future. Here’s a quick excerpt I picked up from the definition of fear in Wikipedia:
“Fear always relates to future events, such as worsening of a situation, or continuation of a situation that is unacceptable.”
You could say that fear is how you feel (emotionally) about something that hasn’t even happened yet. Isn’t that interesting? It’s not something that is happening n-o-w, but something you expect to happen. And that expectation builds the feeling of fear.
Now I wouldn’t put all fears in this category. If you’re in the North American Rockies and you run into a grizzly bear, you’d be afraid. I’d be afraid too. You didn’t make up the grizzly bear in your head, it’s sitting right there in front of you.
But back to my point. There is only one of two places your fear can come from: either internal memories or external images in the n-o-w. I’d say 99% of those images are self created, internal images.
#2. Are you proactive or re-active?
The neighbors dog always barks at the mail man. He’s been doing that for the past two years. The problem is that the neighbors dog is a huge German Sheppard so half the neighborhood can hear him.
What’s really interesting is that this German Sheppard is a real big baby. You’d think he was all tough the way he barks behind that fence, but my experience tells me another story.
Just the other day something really interesting happened. I was outside and I heard him barking behind the fence. He couldn’t see me and I couldn’t see him. I’m not quite sure, but I thought maybe he heard me or smelt me and that set off his barking. But still, this dog knows me very well so it was odd to hear him barking at me.
A few minutes later the neighbor let him out and as soon as the German Sheppard saw me - he stopped barking. As I saw him calm down I went up to see him. His eyes were are glazed over like he just saw a ghost. Poor guy, I wonder what sort of pictures he was putting in his head? Something scared the beejeezus out of him - and obviously, it wasn’t me.
But we do the same thing, don’t we?
We think of an unlikely future situation, something that hasn’t even happened yet; and then we play it over and over again in our minds, scaring ourselves silly.
You could just as easily play a funny image over and over again and make yourself laugh hysterically…. but we don’t seem to do that.
#3. You Can Eliminate Fear in Less Than 60 MinutesYes, you can eliminate fears that quickly. It’s no voodoo or black magic. You just need to know how the mind works and how quickly it can change.
I’ve worked with a few friends to help them eliminate fear. One had a terrible reaction to bees. He would panic everytime he saw one. After a few sessions together he stopped panicking. Makes for a better camping experience because he loves the outdoors. Just recently he moved to a small town outside of the city - I’m sure they’ve got plenty of bees, but that doesn’t seem to bother him.
The reason you can eliminate fears so quickly is because of how the brain is structured and how it works. The brain uses chemicals and electricity to communicate with other parts of the brain.
To keep things simple just think of the brain as a big pile of spaghetti. When you get scared, a stimulus (something you hear, see or feel) triggers electrical current to flow through that piece of spaghetti (the neural strand). And that spaghetti noodle leads the current in your brain to re-create that scary experience - even though it isn’t real. I’ve drawn it for you below.
Rewire Your Brain
http://cid-bf1e10c6165f8a62.skydrive.live.com/self.aspx/Public/Rewire-Your-Brain.jpg
please see the jpg.
What I do is find the stimulus that triggers the scary experience and associate it with a more pleasant experience. That way, the next time a stimulus sets off the trigger, your brain automatically sends those electrical signals along a new neural strand - so you don’t replay those scary experiences in your head anymore.
Your brain loves making associations so this works really well.
This is a quite intresting blog. I was having discussion with a person of great value to me today. Suddenly the topic moved onto fears. I asked the person to note down the fears on a piece of paper as my sir always used to tell if you find causes , mapping solutions is easy. I enquired about have the fears been penned, i was given reply they are subconscious fears. So i thought i would use the blog as mechanism to address how to overcome.
Sometimes we don’t recognize fear for what it really is. We give it other disguises and names like self-sabotage, procrastination or just being plain lazy. But if you dig deeper to those dark layers we all have, you realize that your resistance is based in fear.
To overcome your fear you’ve got to start by recognizing fear for what it really is.
#1. Recognize What Fear Is and Is Not
Realize that there is only one moment and that moment is n-o-w. If you really take the time to dissect and look at your fear, you’ll see something completely obvious. Fear is not something that is happening now, it’s something that you’ve predicted to happen in the future. Here’s a quick excerpt I picked up from the definition of fear in Wikipedia:
“Fear always relates to future events, such as worsening of a situation, or continuation of a situation that is unacceptable.”
You could say that fear is how you feel (emotionally) about something that hasn’t even happened yet. Isn’t that interesting? It’s not something that is happening n-o-w, but something you expect to happen. And that expectation builds the feeling of fear.
Now I wouldn’t put all fears in this category. If you’re in the North American Rockies and you run into a grizzly bear, you’d be afraid. I’d be afraid too. You didn’t make up the grizzly bear in your head, it’s sitting right there in front of you.
But back to my point. There is only one of two places your fear can come from: either internal memories or external images in the n-o-w. I’d say 99% of those images are self created, internal images.
#2. Are you proactive or re-active?
The neighbors dog always barks at the mail man. He’s been doing that for the past two years. The problem is that the neighbors dog is a huge German Sheppard so half the neighborhood can hear him.
What’s really interesting is that this German Sheppard is a real big baby. You’d think he was all tough the way he barks behind that fence, but my experience tells me another story.
Just the other day something really interesting happened. I was outside and I heard him barking behind the fence. He couldn’t see me and I couldn’t see him. I’m not quite sure, but I thought maybe he heard me or smelt me and that set off his barking. But still, this dog knows me very well so it was odd to hear him barking at me.
A few minutes later the neighbor let him out and as soon as the German Sheppard saw me - he stopped barking. As I saw him calm down I went up to see him. His eyes were are glazed over like he just saw a ghost. Poor guy, I wonder what sort of pictures he was putting in his head? Something scared the beejeezus out of him - and obviously, it wasn’t me.
But we do the same thing, don’t we?
We think of an unlikely future situation, something that hasn’t even happened yet; and then we play it over and over again in our minds, scaring ourselves silly.
You could just as easily play a funny image over and over again and make yourself laugh hysterically…. but we don’t seem to do that.
#3. You Can Eliminate Fear in Less Than 60 MinutesYes, you can eliminate fears that quickly. It’s no voodoo or black magic. You just need to know how the mind works and how quickly it can change.
I’ve worked with a few friends to help them eliminate fear. One had a terrible reaction to bees. He would panic everytime he saw one. After a few sessions together he stopped panicking. Makes for a better camping experience because he loves the outdoors. Just recently he moved to a small town outside of the city - I’m sure they’ve got plenty of bees, but that doesn’t seem to bother him.
The reason you can eliminate fears so quickly is because of how the brain is structured and how it works. The brain uses chemicals and electricity to communicate with other parts of the brain.
To keep things simple just think of the brain as a big pile of spaghetti. When you get scared, a stimulus (something you hear, see or feel) triggers electrical current to flow through that piece of spaghetti (the neural strand). And that spaghetti noodle leads the current in your brain to re-create that scary experience - even though it isn’t real. I’ve drawn it for you below.
Rewire Your Brain
http://cid-bf1e10c6165f8a62.skydrive.live.com/self.aspx/Public/Rewire-Your-Brain.jpg
please see the jpg.
What I do is find the stimulus that triggers the scary experience and associate it with a more pleasant experience. That way, the next time a stimulus sets off the trigger, your brain automatically sends those electrical signals along a new neural strand - so you don’t replay those scary experiences in your head anymore.
Your brain loves making associations so this works really well.
Pravin Mahajan- Psycological pressure- Brain dead.
Dear friends,
Saw this article today and thought i should put my comments on this. http://www.deccanchronicle.com/national/docs-pravin-clinically-dead-249 .This is a perfect example of how mental pressure can kill a person with in a short period. We all know pravin mahajan killed his brother pramod mahajan. It is a known fact that he was used by some elements for their political gains. After killing he was alinated from his family. The pressure started building in his brain itself and the final thing is very clear. Even death has to be declared by govt for the body to get cremation. How many of us know the mental pressures we are going through. As i always mention this has no reference to anybody alive/dead, friends/enemies/relatives or whomsoever. We all know we are pushed to the end of mental pressures in workplaces, families etc. But how many times the people who should be our are with us. It varies from person to person. somebody may have a good boss who can shield to some extent the pressure and help employee regain confidence. somebody may have good father who could be a guide in times of crisis. somebody may have a good wife who can be a good friend. somebody can have a good friend who will divert the attention and reduce the intensity of mental pressure.
In telegu there is a saying for wife 'KARYESHU DASI, KARANESHU MANTRI, BHOJYESHU MATHA, SAYANESHU RAMBHA'. A wife when working should be like a coworker , when planning/discussing should be like a minister, when serving food should be like a mother and when sleeping should be a good bed partner. In today's world a person who should be good co-worker, minister, mother role players are almost extinct.
Mental pressures have to be handled individually, support systems in houses crumbling with nuclear families. Friends give a thought where are we going. Dont get into the words of wellwishers who create this mental pressures and move away safely. This happens time and again in everybodies lifes.
I sincerly wish god to give people a peaceful life.
May lord vishnu bless us all.
Saw this article today and thought i should put my comments on this. http://www.deccanchronicle.com/national/docs-pravin-clinically-dead-249 .This is a perfect example of how mental pressure can kill a person with in a short period. We all know pravin mahajan killed his brother pramod mahajan. It is a known fact that he was used by some elements for their political gains. After killing he was alinated from his family. The pressure started building in his brain itself and the final thing is very clear. Even death has to be declared by govt for the body to get cremation. How many of us know the mental pressures we are going through. As i always mention this has no reference to anybody alive/dead, friends/enemies/relatives or whomsoever. We all know we are pushed to the end of mental pressures in workplaces, families etc. But how many times the people who should be our are with us. It varies from person to person. somebody may have a good boss who can shield to some extent the pressure and help employee regain confidence. somebody may have good father who could be a guide in times of crisis. somebody may have a good wife who can be a good friend. somebody can have a good friend who will divert the attention and reduce the intensity of mental pressure.
In telegu there is a saying for wife 'KARYESHU DASI, KARANESHU MANTRI, BHOJYESHU MATHA, SAYANESHU RAMBHA'. A wife when working should be like a coworker , when planning/discussing should be like a minister, when serving food should be like a mother and when sleeping should be a good bed partner. In today's world a person who should be good co-worker, minister, mother role players are almost extinct.
Mental pressures have to be handled individually, support systems in houses crumbling with nuclear families. Friends give a thought where are we going. Dont get into the words of wellwishers who create this mental pressures and move away safely. This happens time and again in everybodies lifes.
I sincerly wish god to give people a peaceful life.
May lord vishnu bless us all.
Sunday, December 27, 2009
Responsibility.
Hello friends,
Hope all of u have have watched the cricket match. What a lesson it gives to all of us. The lesson responsibility. If the person at top forgets the responsibility how it affects all the people under the chain. The matter/views placed here are for the blog and have no relavance to any of my friends/wellwishers/relatives.
My dad always used to say that in the house if the husband is not responsible that house crumbles fast. We might have seen n number of examples of this in our life. Similarly if the CEO/MD of house is not responsible the company/organization comes down with jet speed. If the leader of the nation is not responsible the countries growth comes to halt. coming to today's match, the authorities very well know in advance that a match is going to be played here well in advance as it is the international match. But as usual it happens in north india where the responsibility levels are at their lowest levels compared to south, west and for that matter east it was the easy going attitude which resulted in a far pathetic pitch. Today the match is abandoned putting shame on the country that it cannot make a 22 yards strip good to play for international players. Not only that this irresponsiblity could cost us more. Any venue which is declared unfit for play cannot hold matches for 12-24 months depending on the notice from ICC. This means that the world cup matches to be hosted at this stadium have fallen in dilema. This has raised serious doubts regarding our capability to hold the common wealth games.
Simple, simple things of responsibility in life. If a bus driver is not responsibile and drives bus with little irresponsibility all the passengers are in doom. If he drives responsible, the 40 passenger in bus can have fun watching movie etc. But if he becomes irresponsible it is over. If the passengers wish that he too become fun oriented then it is the sense of driver which should work and drive with responsibility. same with Train, if the motorman feels ease and cross the signal thats it. Same with pilot during taking and landoff. Infact it is with everybody who is in charge.
Most of the successful houses had a responsible person at top which allowed all the other down chain to have fun. but if the top becomes weak , the fun disappears from all.
Hence friends become a responsible husbands with senses. Drive the families so that members can have full fledged fun. Become good employees with responsibility so that organizations can grow. Become responsible citizens so that country can prosper.
let us take oath that we will responsible and make people down us have fun.
may lord vishnu bless us all.
Hope all of u have have watched the cricket match. What a lesson it gives to all of us. The lesson responsibility. If the person at top forgets the responsibility how it affects all the people under the chain. The matter/views placed here are for the blog and have no relavance to any of my friends/wellwishers/relatives.
My dad always used to say that in the house if the husband is not responsible that house crumbles fast. We might have seen n number of examples of this in our life. Similarly if the CEO/MD of house is not responsible the company/organization comes down with jet speed. If the leader of the nation is not responsible the countries growth comes to halt. coming to today's match, the authorities very well know in advance that a match is going to be played here well in advance as it is the international match. But as usual it happens in north india where the responsibility levels are at their lowest levels compared to south, west and for that matter east it was the easy going attitude which resulted in a far pathetic pitch. Today the match is abandoned putting shame on the country that it cannot make a 22 yards strip good to play for international players. Not only that this irresponsiblity could cost us more. Any venue which is declared unfit for play cannot hold matches for 12-24 months depending on the notice from ICC. This means that the world cup matches to be hosted at this stadium have fallen in dilema. This has raised serious doubts regarding our capability to hold the common wealth games.
Simple, simple things of responsibility in life. If a bus driver is not responsibile and drives bus with little irresponsibility all the passengers are in doom. If he drives responsible, the 40 passenger in bus can have fun watching movie etc. But if he becomes irresponsible it is over. If the passengers wish that he too become fun oriented then it is the sense of driver which should work and drive with responsibility. same with Train, if the motorman feels ease and cross the signal thats it. Same with pilot during taking and landoff. Infact it is with everybody who is in charge.
Most of the successful houses had a responsible person at top which allowed all the other down chain to have fun. but if the top becomes weak , the fun disappears from all.
Hence friends become a responsible husbands with senses. Drive the families so that members can have full fledged fun. Become good employees with responsibility so that organizations can grow. Become responsible citizens so that country can prosper.
let us take oath that we will responsible and make people down us have fun.
may lord vishnu bless us all.
Saturday, December 26, 2009
KUNTIPUTRUDU
After a long time it is like writing with my heart rather than words.After a long time a very good movie again on TV. The movie which touches my heart. Being a very big admirer of Mohanbabu. The novel thing of him which world knows and which is quite good to reiterate. He gives 25% of students in the school free education and this money comes from his movies which are produced under 'SREE LAKSHMI PRASANNA' banners and the next thing being his eldest son named vishnu which is the word close to my heart. The uniqueness of this school which no other school i had come across is the school doesnot record ur religion, caste, creed. Everybody is one and same and its only talent which is the basis. I wish that it comes to everyplace some day. I pray to god that i do atleast 1% of that someday. Its my wish to see dad be there when i do it, for dad is the person who guided what could have been a govt school life with values.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KpBomAASeLg
The words 'VADHALA BRATHUKU EPPUDU BADHENU RA' touched my heart. How true it is. The life with arguments always is a painful one. I must have seen this movie umpteen times. The charater played by mohanbabu is unique. No other actor can play that role. The mother role played by her is super. If any of you friends have the DVD please share this with me.
'GUMMALU THOMIDI GUNDEMO CHINADI EEH DARI VACHEVURA JEEVA EEH DARI POYEVU RA'. Yes god when he makes human the final thing life is pushed through one of the 9 openings in body '2 EYES 2 EARS 2 NOSTRILS, ONE MOUTH AND TWO PRIVATE OPENINGS' and life goes out also through one of them. some die eyes open . some die mouth open. Life just pulls away from one of the nine.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RwpIUc2FFnM&feature=related
'NEE KOPAME NEEKU KORIVI LANTIDI' . Your anger is the like the death light (stick which pyre is given to person after death'.'LOLAPALE NINNU KALCHUTHUNADHi' it kills u from inside while alive itself.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=joa4R0A-WJ4&feature=related
when I listen to these dialogues i feel proud that I am lucky enough to watch these. There can be no second actor who cautions indians like this. In hindi nanapatekar did the same role. But mohanbabu because of his unique voice modulation took slight advantage. But both the actors are superb when comes to this movie.
The only actor who can do god's role (yamadharma raju being latest ( people love it), kings role in annamaya( people love this king), villan ( he is no one villan in AP), comedian( how many roles he made people laugh is not countable), hero ( does somebody needs to say he is 'COLLECTION KING"). producer of 50 films under sreelakshmiprasanna banners, assitant director( initial days). He must have done lot of good in his previous life to be a person like this to serve society in large.
May lord vishnu bless us all with good values.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KpBomAASeLg
The words 'VADHALA BRATHUKU EPPUDU BADHENU RA' touched my heart. How true it is. The life with arguments always is a painful one. I must have seen this movie umpteen times. The charater played by mohanbabu is unique. No other actor can play that role. The mother role played by her is super. If any of you friends have the DVD please share this with me.
'GUMMALU THOMIDI GUNDEMO CHINADI EEH DARI VACHEVURA JEEVA EEH DARI POYEVU RA'. Yes god when he makes human the final thing life is pushed through one of the 9 openings in body '2 EYES 2 EARS 2 NOSTRILS, ONE MOUTH AND TWO PRIVATE OPENINGS' and life goes out also through one of them. some die eyes open . some die mouth open. Life just pulls away from one of the nine.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RwpIUc2FFnM&feature=related
'NEE KOPAME NEEKU KORIVI LANTIDI' . Your anger is the like the death light (stick which pyre is given to person after death'.'LOLAPALE NINNU KALCHUTHUNADHi' it kills u from inside while alive itself.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=joa4R0A-WJ4&feature=related
when I listen to these dialogues i feel proud that I am lucky enough to watch these. There can be no second actor who cautions indians like this. In hindi nanapatekar did the same role. But mohanbabu because of his unique voice modulation took slight advantage. But both the actors are superb when comes to this movie.
The only actor who can do god's role (yamadharma raju being latest ( people love it), kings role in annamaya( people love this king), villan ( he is no one villan in AP), comedian( how many roles he made people laugh is not countable), hero ( does somebody needs to say he is 'COLLECTION KING"). producer of 50 films under sreelakshmiprasanna banners, assitant director( initial days). He must have done lot of good in his previous life to be a person like this to serve society in large.
May lord vishnu bless us all with good values.
Friday, December 25, 2009
Sehwag- No nonsense person.
Hello friends,
Todays topic is about the most entertaining cricketer of our generation. Yes you are right. It is Virendar Sehwag. 2 days before match started he said if i win toss i will field first. when he was asked same he said, I dont wanted to create confusion in my team. I said what i am going to do. It helped the team to orient themselves of what he is expecting. He also stressed the youngsters to grab this opportunity saying he is ready to take that risk. Virat playing under his captaincy made a century.
Sometimes I see myself resembling virendar for I make clear to my team both professional and personal of what is my strategy. This has helped me lot of times. It has helped me peak lot of times. I would urge all of you also to take a leaf from virendar and be outspoken and atleast will try.
May lord vishnu bless you all.
Todays topic is about the most entertaining cricketer of our generation. Yes you are right. It is Virendar Sehwag. 2 days before match started he said if i win toss i will field first. when he was asked same he said, I dont wanted to create confusion in my team. I said what i am going to do. It helped the team to orient themselves of what he is expecting. He also stressed the youngsters to grab this opportunity saying he is ready to take that risk. Virat playing under his captaincy made a century.
Sometimes I see myself resembling virendar for I make clear to my team both professional and personal of what is my strategy. This has helped me lot of times. It has helped me peak lot of times. I would urge all of you also to take a leaf from virendar and be outspoken and atleast will try.
May lord vishnu bless you all.
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
Developer versus tester- everybody is right
Dear Friends,
Today's topic is a very intresting one which was put forward to me showing the numbers of 6 and 9 and saying both are right in their ways. This was some topic which i delivered a lecture sometime back.
First let me start with Developer. He is the person who has to think of making something new. It has to be helpful in what so ever format. Which means a developer needs to have a positive brain.The thing he wishes to develop may take a shape or may not take a shape. He should have the quality of believing in himself and hope towards the solution. He should develop the solution in a time frame else it becomes redundant. He needs to have a time calculation with himself. He need to be a patient listner for he needs to understand the solution vision and also visualize it for himself. He needs to think whether the product/solution he is developing compliments any other product/solution or exists independent. A developer needs to have patience for he may fail n number of times and he is the torch bearer so he does not have anybody at front to guide. We can keep on writing like this for pages but hopefully we have addressed some of the important things.
Now let us come to the tester. He need to be a critic of product/solution and has to find bugs/issues in the product. He should have a negative bent of brain saying this will not work. He is the one who enters after product/solution has taken a shape unlike the developer.he should have the capability to compare it with present needs unlike the requirements gathered in past. He needs to be aggressive to find anomalies in product/solution. He should be a noise maker to bring to notice of people of the anomalies he found in the product/solution. His pressure for failure is less, as if he fails people will say product is bug free. If he passes people will say he found lot of bugs. So the pressure of proving is less compared to developer.
For a successful developer a positive critic is needed. if the critic is negative/detrimental the entire process of new things gets halted. We have seen this happening in lot of companies.
Even in personal lifes husband is like a developer who has to give shapes to lot of things and setting time limits etc for them. Wife is like a tester who is noise making. If the tester becomes a negative critic then that family derails( I myself is example for this and i dont feel ashamed as i tried as a developer every possible thing).
Karishma kapoor almost came to the extent of divorce being a negative critic of sunjay kapoor. It was a slap from Randhir kapoor among everybody at chembur and the words ' do you want to become your mother who has damaged your lifes by taking u away from me. do you want to create ur daughter the same'. That slap converted her from being negative critic to neutral and life went smooth.
Steffi graph and agassi. Steffi was positive critic of Agassi which made him world no 1 at a very old age.
The simple example is that of bus driver conductor relation. IF conductor stops bus for issuing tickets the driver can do nothing and will get delayed. If the conductor issues tickets while the bus is moving it will reach destination in time.
I leave it to couples after this. The developer tester thing was presented to Mr. sudhakar kavuru, the MD,CEO of indosoft international pvt ltd which was my first IT job. This critical analysis got me my first job for it was mentioned on the sheet as 'the candidate has his feet firm on ground and close to real life mapping;- selected.
I thank the person who wanted this to be presented for it brought memories of old and wish if this blog can make the thought process orient to some better side the purpose of the blog is achieved.
may lord vishnu bless everybody with peace and prosperity.
Today's topic is a very intresting one which was put forward to me showing the numbers of 6 and 9 and saying both are right in their ways. This was some topic which i delivered a lecture sometime back.
First let me start with Developer. He is the person who has to think of making something new. It has to be helpful in what so ever format. Which means a developer needs to have a positive brain.The thing he wishes to develop may take a shape or may not take a shape. He should have the quality of believing in himself and hope towards the solution. He should develop the solution in a time frame else it becomes redundant. He needs to have a time calculation with himself. He need to be a patient listner for he needs to understand the solution vision and also visualize it for himself. He needs to think whether the product/solution he is developing compliments any other product/solution or exists independent. A developer needs to have patience for he may fail n number of times and he is the torch bearer so he does not have anybody at front to guide. We can keep on writing like this for pages but hopefully we have addressed some of the important things.
Now let us come to the tester. He need to be a critic of product/solution and has to find bugs/issues in the product. He should have a negative bent of brain saying this will not work. He is the one who enters after product/solution has taken a shape unlike the developer.he should have the capability to compare it with present needs unlike the requirements gathered in past. He needs to be aggressive to find anomalies in product/solution. He should be a noise maker to bring to notice of people of the anomalies he found in the product/solution. His pressure for failure is less, as if he fails people will say product is bug free. If he passes people will say he found lot of bugs. So the pressure of proving is less compared to developer.
For a successful developer a positive critic is needed. if the critic is negative/detrimental the entire process of new things gets halted. We have seen this happening in lot of companies.
Even in personal lifes husband is like a developer who has to give shapes to lot of things and setting time limits etc for them. Wife is like a tester who is noise making. If the tester becomes a negative critic then that family derails( I myself is example for this and i dont feel ashamed as i tried as a developer every possible thing).
Karishma kapoor almost came to the extent of divorce being a negative critic of sunjay kapoor. It was a slap from Randhir kapoor among everybody at chembur and the words ' do you want to become your mother who has damaged your lifes by taking u away from me. do you want to create ur daughter the same'. That slap converted her from being negative critic to neutral and life went smooth.
Steffi graph and agassi. Steffi was positive critic of Agassi which made him world no 1 at a very old age.
The simple example is that of bus driver conductor relation. IF conductor stops bus for issuing tickets the driver can do nothing and will get delayed. If the conductor issues tickets while the bus is moving it will reach destination in time.
I leave it to couples after this. The developer tester thing was presented to Mr. sudhakar kavuru, the MD,CEO of indosoft international pvt ltd which was my first IT job. This critical analysis got me my first job for it was mentioned on the sheet as 'the candidate has his feet firm on ground and close to real life mapping;- selected.
I thank the person who wanted this to be presented for it brought memories of old and wish if this blog can make the thought process orient to some better side the purpose of the blog is achieved.
may lord vishnu bless everybody with peace and prosperity.
My views on Telangana
Hello friends,
Your kumar is before you on audio video as promised to you.
http://cid-bf1e10c6165f8a62.skydrive.live.com/self.aspx/Public/telangana.flv
May lord vishnu bless you all.
Your kumar is before you on audio video as promised to you.
http://cid-bf1e10c6165f8a62.skydrive.live.com/self.aspx/Public/telangana.flv
May lord vishnu bless you all.
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
Office - pressure tactics- limitations
Hello friends,
Just now i received a call from my ex-collegue and thought that I will put it on blog for benefit of all our friends. As you are aware that december end is appraisal season in some companies. Our friend kept on to rely on pressure tactics saying I will resign if this hike is not given etc. The company said its ok and we serve one month notice on you as per procedure. Dont engineer pressure tactics for they backfire most times. I thought of sharing this at this midnight.
May lord vishnu bless all a good future.
Just now i received a call from my ex-collegue and thought that I will put it on blog for benefit of all our friends. As you are aware that december end is appraisal season in some companies. Our friend kept on to rely on pressure tactics saying I will resign if this hike is not given etc. The company said its ok and we serve one month notice on you as per procedure. Dont engineer pressure tactics for they backfire most times. I thought of sharing this at this midnight.
May lord vishnu bless all a good future.
Father and Tiger in New generation way
Hello Friends
I am told a small story when I was young by my father. Once upon a time a father and a son went to jungle to fetch some wood. The father made the son sit on the tree and said to call him if the tiger comes as he is going into deep jungle. The son who was mischief called father tiger tiger once. The father came running with axe in hand to kill tiger. He asked son where is the tiger. The son said i wanted to test whether my voice will reach u and u will come or not. The father found a reason in it and went back into the jungle to cut wood. After few minutes the son called again father tiger tiger, the father came running and asked the same question. The son replied i have fooled you. Without saying anything the father went back into the jungle. Third time the tiger came, the son shouted father tiger tiger but thinking the son is playing prank the father did not come and the boy was killed by tiger.
In modern days in our offices and our personal lifes we know that what we are doing is not right. But still we stick to it. Example is nagging wifes who very well know that what they are doing is wrong. But still they will do it and one day it will take the lives of husband and families fall on street. Similarly professional lifes also. We know we have to do good work by ourselves and dont raise our standards to be out of system. If the nagging wives can just look in one second of what they are doing is wrong and change how peaceful the families will be. What will one get by nagging and making others loose life.
Share this with your better halves if it can change even one of the families the intent of writing on this blog is fulfilled.
May lord vishnu bless all with happiness.
I am told a small story when I was young by my father. Once upon a time a father and a son went to jungle to fetch some wood. The father made the son sit on the tree and said to call him if the tiger comes as he is going into deep jungle. The son who was mischief called father tiger tiger once. The father came running with axe in hand to kill tiger. He asked son where is the tiger. The son said i wanted to test whether my voice will reach u and u will come or not. The father found a reason in it and went back into the jungle to cut wood. After few minutes the son called again father tiger tiger, the father came running and asked the same question. The son replied i have fooled you. Without saying anything the father went back into the jungle. Third time the tiger came, the son shouted father tiger tiger but thinking the son is playing prank the father did not come and the boy was killed by tiger.
In modern days in our offices and our personal lifes we know that what we are doing is not right. But still we stick to it. Example is nagging wifes who very well know that what they are doing is wrong. But still they will do it and one day it will take the lives of husband and families fall on street. Similarly professional lifes also. We know we have to do good work by ourselves and dont raise our standards to be out of system. If the nagging wives can just look in one second of what they are doing is wrong and change how peaceful the families will be. What will one get by nagging and making others loose life.
Share this with your better halves if it can change even one of the families the intent of writing on this blog is fulfilled.
May lord vishnu bless all with happiness.
Friday, December 18, 2009
Accepted you suggestions
Dear Friends,
I accept your suggestion to have a video of the positive nature and such presentations i do. May be one on every sunday should be doable. Back from events of sybase. This sunday surely I will get the first video talk with you guys going.
May lord vishnu bless one and all.
I accept your suggestion to have a video of the positive nature and such presentations i do. May be one on every sunday should be doable. Back from events of sybase. This sunday surely I will get the first video talk with you guys going.
May lord vishnu bless one and all.
Thursday, December 17, 2009
Positive nature
I remember my dad teaching me the power of language at a very young age. Not only did my dad understand that specific words affect our mental pictures, but he understood words are a powerful programming factor in lifelong success.
One particularly interesting event occurred when I was eight. As a kid, I was always climbing trees, poles, and literally hanging around upside down from the rafters of our lake house. So, it came to no surprise for my dad to find me at the top of a 30-foot tree swinging back and forth. My little eight-year-old brain didn't realize the tree could break or I could get hurt. I just thought it was fun to be up so high.
My older cousin, Taruni, was also in the same tree. She was hanging on the first big limb, about ten feet below me. Tammy's mother also noticed us at the exact time my dad did. About that time a huge gust of wind came over the tree. I could hear the leaves start to rattle and the tree begin to sway. I remember my dad's voice over the wind yell, "kumar, Hold on tightly." So I did.
The next thing I know, I heard Taruni screaming at the top of her lungs, laying flat on the ground. She had fallen out of the tree.
I scampered down the tree to safety. My dad later told me why she fell and I did not. Apparently, when Taruni's mother felt the gust of wind, she yelled out, "taruni, don't fall!" And taruni did fall.
My dad then explained to me that the mind has a very difficult time processing a negative image. In fact, people who rely on internal pictures cannot see a negative at all. In order for Taruni to process the command of not falling, her nine-year-old brain had to first imagine falling, then try to tell the brain not to do what it just imagined. Whereas, my eight-year-old brain instantly had an internal image of me hanging on tightly.
This concept is especially useful when you are attempting to break a habit or set a goal. You can't visualize not doing something. The only way to properly visualize not doing something is to actually find a word for what you want to do and visualize that. For example, when I was thirteen years old, I played for my junior high school football team. I tried so hard to be good, but I just couldn't get it together at that age. I remember hearing the words run through my head as I was running out for a pass, "Don't drop it!" Naturally, I dropped the ball.
My coaches were not skilled enough to teach us proper "Self-Talk." They just thought some kids could catch and others couldn't. I'll never make it pro, but I'm now a pretty good Sunday afternoon football player, because all my internal dialogue is positive and encourages me to win. I wish my dad had coached me playing football instead of just climbing trees. I might have had a longer football career.
Here is a very easy demonstration to teach your kids and your friends the power of a toxic vocabulary. Ask them to hold a pen or pencil. Hand it to them. Now, follow my instructions carefully. Say to them, "Okay, try to drop the pencil." Observe what they do.
Most people release their hands and watch the pencil hit the floor. You respond, "You weren't paying attention. I said TRY to drop the pencil. Now please do it again." Most people then pick up the pencil and pretend to be in excruciating pain while their hand tries but fails to drop the pencil.
The point is made. If you tell your brain you will "give it a try," you are actually telling your brain to fail. I have a "no try" rule in my house and with everyone I interact with. Either people will do it or they won't. Either they will be at the party or they won't. I'm brutal when people attempt to lie to me by using the word try. Do they think I don't know they are really telegraphing to the world they have no intention of doing it but they want me to give them brownie points for pretended effort? You will never hear the words "I'll try" come out of my mouth unless I'm teaching this concept in a seminar.
If you "try" and do something, your unconscious mind has permission not to succeed. If I truly can't make a decision I will tell the truth. "Sorry John. I'm not sure if I will be at your party or not. I've got an outstanding commitment. If that falls through, I will be here, Insha Allah. Otherwise, I will not. Thanks for the invite." People respect honesty. So remove the word "try" from your vocabulary.
My dad also told me that psychologists claim it takes seventeen positive statements to offset one negative statement. I have no idea if it is true, but the logic holds true. It might take up to seventeen compliments to offset the emotional damage of one harsh criticism.
These are concepts that are especially useful when raising children. Ask yourself how many compliments you give yourself daily versus how many criticisms. Heck, I know you are talking to yourself all day long. We all have internal voices that give us direction.
So, are you giving yourself the 17:1 ratio or are you short changing yourself with toxic self-talk like, "I'm fat. Nobody will like me. I'll try this diet. I'm not good enough. I'm so stupid. I'm broke, etc. etc."
If our parents can set a lifetime of programming with one wrong statement, imagine the kind of programming you are doing on a daily basis with your own internal dialogue. Here is a list of Toxic Vocabulary words. Notice when you or other people use them.
* BUT: Negates any words that are stated before it.
* TRY: Presupposes failure.
* IF: Presupposes that you may not.
* MIGHT: It does nothing definite. It leaves options for your listener.
* WOULD HAVE: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen.
* SHOULD HAVE: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen (and implies guilt.)
* COULD HAVE: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen but the person tries to take credit as if it did happen.
* CAN'T/DON'T: These words force the listener to focus on exactly the opposite of what you want. This is a classic mistake that parents and coaches make without knowing the damage of this linguistic error.
Examples:
* Toxic phrase: "Don't drop the ball!"
* Likely result: Drops the ball
* Better language: "Catch the ball!"
* Toxic phrase: "You shouldn't watch so much television."
* Likely result: Watches more television.
* Better language: "I read too much television makes people stupid. You might find yourself turning that TV off and picking up one of those books more often!"
Exercise:
* Take a moment to write down all the phrases you use on a daily basis or any Toxic Self-Talk that you have noticed yourself using. Write these phrases down so you will begin to catch yourself as they occur and change them.
Forge a positive relationship with the world around you and the world will become a better place for you to live. And remember: Make positive Self-Talk a daily practice.
One particularly interesting event occurred when I was eight. As a kid, I was always climbing trees, poles, and literally hanging around upside down from the rafters of our lake house. So, it came to no surprise for my dad to find me at the top of a 30-foot tree swinging back and forth. My little eight-year-old brain didn't realize the tree could break or I could get hurt. I just thought it was fun to be up so high.
My older cousin, Taruni, was also in the same tree. She was hanging on the first big limb, about ten feet below me. Tammy's mother also noticed us at the exact time my dad did. About that time a huge gust of wind came over the tree. I could hear the leaves start to rattle and the tree begin to sway. I remember my dad's voice over the wind yell, "kumar, Hold on tightly." So I did.
The next thing I know, I heard Taruni screaming at the top of her lungs, laying flat on the ground. She had fallen out of the tree.
I scampered down the tree to safety. My dad later told me why she fell and I did not. Apparently, when Taruni's mother felt the gust of wind, she yelled out, "taruni, don't fall!" And taruni did fall.
My dad then explained to me that the mind has a very difficult time processing a negative image. In fact, people who rely on internal pictures cannot see a negative at all. In order for Taruni to process the command of not falling, her nine-year-old brain had to first imagine falling, then try to tell the brain not to do what it just imagined. Whereas, my eight-year-old brain instantly had an internal image of me hanging on tightly.
This concept is especially useful when you are attempting to break a habit or set a goal. You can't visualize not doing something. The only way to properly visualize not doing something is to actually find a word for what you want to do and visualize that. For example, when I was thirteen years old, I played for my junior high school football team. I tried so hard to be good, but I just couldn't get it together at that age. I remember hearing the words run through my head as I was running out for a pass, "Don't drop it!" Naturally, I dropped the ball.
My coaches were not skilled enough to teach us proper "Self-Talk." They just thought some kids could catch and others couldn't. I'll never make it pro, but I'm now a pretty good Sunday afternoon football player, because all my internal dialogue is positive and encourages me to win. I wish my dad had coached me playing football instead of just climbing trees. I might have had a longer football career.
Here is a very easy demonstration to teach your kids and your friends the power of a toxic vocabulary. Ask them to hold a pen or pencil. Hand it to them. Now, follow my instructions carefully. Say to them, "Okay, try to drop the pencil." Observe what they do.
Most people release their hands and watch the pencil hit the floor. You respond, "You weren't paying attention. I said TRY to drop the pencil. Now please do it again." Most people then pick up the pencil and pretend to be in excruciating pain while their hand tries but fails to drop the pencil.
The point is made. If you tell your brain you will "give it a try," you are actually telling your brain to fail. I have a "no try" rule in my house and with everyone I interact with. Either people will do it or they won't. Either they will be at the party or they won't. I'm brutal when people attempt to lie to me by using the word try. Do they think I don't know they are really telegraphing to the world they have no intention of doing it but they want me to give them brownie points for pretended effort? You will never hear the words "I'll try" come out of my mouth unless I'm teaching this concept in a seminar.
If you "try" and do something, your unconscious mind has permission not to succeed. If I truly can't make a decision I will tell the truth. "Sorry John. I'm not sure if I will be at your party or not. I've got an outstanding commitment. If that falls through, I will be here, Insha Allah. Otherwise, I will not. Thanks for the invite." People respect honesty. So remove the word "try" from your vocabulary.
My dad also told me that psychologists claim it takes seventeen positive statements to offset one negative statement. I have no idea if it is true, but the logic holds true. It might take up to seventeen compliments to offset the emotional damage of one harsh criticism.
These are concepts that are especially useful when raising children. Ask yourself how many compliments you give yourself daily versus how many criticisms. Heck, I know you are talking to yourself all day long. We all have internal voices that give us direction.
So, are you giving yourself the 17:1 ratio or are you short changing yourself with toxic self-talk like, "I'm fat. Nobody will like me. I'll try this diet. I'm not good enough. I'm so stupid. I'm broke, etc. etc."
If our parents can set a lifetime of programming with one wrong statement, imagine the kind of programming you are doing on a daily basis with your own internal dialogue. Here is a list of Toxic Vocabulary words. Notice when you or other people use them.
* BUT: Negates any words that are stated before it.
* TRY: Presupposes failure.
* IF: Presupposes that you may not.
* MIGHT: It does nothing definite. It leaves options for your listener.
* WOULD HAVE: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen.
* SHOULD HAVE: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen (and implies guilt.)
* COULD HAVE: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen but the person tries to take credit as if it did happen.
* CAN'T/DON'T: These words force the listener to focus on exactly the opposite of what you want. This is a classic mistake that parents and coaches make without knowing the damage of this linguistic error.
Examples:
* Toxic phrase: "Don't drop the ball!"
* Likely result: Drops the ball
* Better language: "Catch the ball!"
* Toxic phrase: "You shouldn't watch so much television."
* Likely result: Watches more television.
* Better language: "I read too much television makes people stupid. You might find yourself turning that TV off and picking up one of those books more often!"
Exercise:
* Take a moment to write down all the phrases you use on a daily basis or any Toxic Self-Talk that you have noticed yourself using. Write these phrases down so you will begin to catch yourself as they occur and change them.
Forge a positive relationship with the world around you and the world will become a better place for you to live. And remember: Make positive Self-Talk a daily practice.
Wednesday, December 16, 2009
Rajkot cricket match- lesson for us.
Hello friends,
What a thrilling match of Rajkot. First when india scored 414 everybody thought its a cake walk. But what a way srilanka fought. almost snatched the match. This match is a lesson for all of us. sometimes we think we are in a comfortable position in life but all of a sudden we see the challenge becomes so big that our comfort looks diminished. I would like to take examples of two famous personalities here and I feel really bad for them. The first is the dance king Prabhudeva. He came through all the steps in life by sheer hardwork and dedication. When he was comfortable with his family he lost his kid at 40+ age and no way to come back into life. I dont say kid is only life , but it was for that he fought all the way. Second is BabuMohan who is a famous telugu comedy actor who lost his 24 years old son when he established himself in tollywood after all the struggles. I had seen a person in my life. Mr.Arunava dutta, ex director of oracle software india ltd who lost his daughter when she was having fish( she was fond of fish being a bengali at the age of 14) which made arunava dutta to resign to his position and go back to his village. Lots of examples.
Would that mean that we surrender to fate. The answer is No. Like 45th over it looked india is out but sheer determination from zaheer and ashish nehra won the game. Similary working on other aspects of life can get back into life.
I wish lord vishnu bless us all with happiness and peace.
Happy to receive all your love and affection for the blog. I am also exicted to get so much love from you all.
What a thrilling match of Rajkot. First when india scored 414 everybody thought its a cake walk. But what a way srilanka fought. almost snatched the match. This match is a lesson for all of us. sometimes we think we are in a comfortable position in life but all of a sudden we see the challenge becomes so big that our comfort looks diminished. I would like to take examples of two famous personalities here and I feel really bad for them. The first is the dance king Prabhudeva. He came through all the steps in life by sheer hardwork and dedication. When he was comfortable with his family he lost his kid at 40+ age and no way to come back into life. I dont say kid is only life , but it was for that he fought all the way. Second is BabuMohan who is a famous telugu comedy actor who lost his 24 years old son when he established himself in tollywood after all the struggles. I had seen a person in my life. Mr.Arunava dutta, ex director of oracle software india ltd who lost his daughter when she was having fish( she was fond of fish being a bengali at the age of 14) which made arunava dutta to resign to his position and go back to his village. Lots of examples.
Would that mean that we surrender to fate. The answer is No. Like 45th over it looked india is out but sheer determination from zaheer and ashish nehra won the game. Similary working on other aspects of life can get back into life.
I wish lord vishnu bless us all with happiness and peace.
Happy to receive all your love and affection for the blog. I am also exicted to get so much love from you all.
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
Exams and temple of my school life.
This post is giving me enormous satisfaction as i start to type. It goes back to my school days. we used to have a temple just near school. I used to go to that temple everytime i used to appear for the unesco GK exams and once i was school first too. I feel i am missing that temple. Its time kumar to get back to life. i have started getting back to life. I will return in big bang.
May lord vishnu bless us all.
May lord vishnu bless us all.
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Kids & Joy
Today felt like writing after a long time. When i see kids playing in rain and their fathers also joining them and playing it looks very good. When they just get back into house their better halves are with a cup of hot tea and milk. It looks good. Some people are blessed and some are cursed. It is the game of fate. May everybody be blessed like that for I am sure I have no chance of being there.
Friday, June 26, 2009
Cement & Cement
After a long time I feel like wearing my favorite dress which i wear when i face challenges. I faced most of challenges without taking its support. But now its time to get back to cement pant and cement shirt. Let me test it also.
cheers
psn
cheers
psn
Thursday, June 25, 2009
The Lost Dream - Fate wins against me.
Today 25th june of 2009, I had ultimately decided to accept the lost dream. I was a warrior to the core fighting with the fate and questioning it always. I had a dream, a dream of having kid and having time with kid. Holding the kid's hand and help him walk. Take him on shoulder and lap him so that he sleeps. Teach him A,B,C,D etc. Teach him numbers. Run before the three tyre cycle. Buy clothes to him every month. Buy sound making and lighting shoes for him. comb him properly though i rarely comb. Eat papad sharing with him. snacks with him. sleep with him on the chest. take him to temple and put tilak on him. to dress him as little Krishna. Bring joys in home. I dont know how many thoughts i have like this if i keep on putting on paper.d watch tv with him and dance. Go to parks to play the ball with him. countless dreams.
But today all of them have come to an end. I have accepted that I cannot make it come true. I tried sincere every time but result was always against me. I have come to a stage from where making a come back is no more possible. In a over one can try to hit 36 runs. but when target crosses more than 72 no bowler will bowl so many no balls to make it happen. So I have decided to bury this dream. Its a loss which i cannot repair by any way. First time I felt of having no more road ahead. So this dream is closed once for all.
I dont have words to type anymore.
I wish lord vishnu bless my friends and others that this day should never come in anybodies life.
Regards
PSN Kumar
But today all of them have come to an end. I have accepted that I cannot make it come true. I tried sincere every time but result was always against me. I have come to a stage from where making a come back is no more possible. In a over one can try to hit 36 runs. but when target crosses more than 72 no bowler will bowl so many no balls to make it happen. So I have decided to bury this dream. Its a loss which i cannot repair by any way. First time I felt of having no more road ahead. So this dream is closed once for all.
I dont have words to type anymore.
I wish lord vishnu bless my friends and others that this day should never come in anybodies life.
Regards
PSN Kumar
Monday, June 22, 2009
The effect of fatherless family.
When a father is absent, he sets the entire family unit back many, many years. All the children miss out on first-hand leadership, sacrificial love, and what being a caretaker and a protector is all about. The children's lives are incomplete, even if they are good kids that do all of the right things. The father's role cannot be duplicated nor can the mother replace the father in their lives...although many of them do a valiant job at cross-training. Many boys are fatherless because of negligence of the father. Many fathers believe after the marriage is over, so is child rearing. They are far less than the sperm donor they have become.
How can a so-called father handle such a precious relationship so carelessly? How can they not know that from the time they take their first breath until he takes his last breath, he is supposed to be a daddy? When a father abandons his children, for all intended purposes he has disowned them. It's a hate that can't be matched and it hurts to the bone. Some children never recover, some carry this burden of 'worthlessness' or 'not being good enough' all of their lives.
But it's the son where the most damage is done. His father is as much if not more so apart of his makeup as his mother...and mommas role in his life is just as important...but it's a much different role. A son needs the uniqueness of a 'good daddy', one that will impose his will on his son in times of rebellion, disobedience and defiance. A son needs a 'good daddy' in good times as well...for support and to just share with.
Many of those sons are always looking back, they just can't wipe away the haunting memory of a father that just didn't want them. Having a father they have never been able to count on is a recurring nightmare over and over again. Many boys are in a daze because of the emotional scars. Some will be torched souls for the rest of their natural lives because of their father's indifference and inability to really love them. Some just want to escape to somewhere, anywhere else, but they can't leave, there is nowhere to go.
Even though they go on without him, the pain just won't go away, they're always licking their wounds; they're just shattered. Sometimes, they fool a bunch of folk around them, but no one can hide from what's in their heart. For many, their world will never be right-side-up, so they just give their lives away, all because of fathers that didn't care. It's the disconnect that burdens the son down, they need that connection with his father. They will readily forgive and forget; they will even accept a token love, just hoping to relieve the pain, if not heal the heart.
Because of a fatherless up bringing, sometimes a son feels he has to be a leader, protector, and a provider for the family. He tends to try and grow-up too fast trying to be the 'man of the house'. In reality he is too young for such responsibilities. But he has to help his mom out by doing whatever he can, which can lead to doing the wrong things. When a father is absent his son can develop such reckless habits and miss out on the real value of life. Without a father there to lead, guide and direct his son, trouble can come in a hurry. More times than not, a life of crime will follow. Not always the crimes that sends a youngster to juvenile, a lot of the time it's the petty stuff they get away with. But these petty crimes plant the seed that can become a lifestyle later on. He may even try to fit-in with the wrong crowd. Life is tough as it is, but it can teach a young boy some hard lessons real fast or destroy him before his life even gets started...without a 'good father'.
Because he has no live-in example, he doesn't have proper grooming or know how. He doesn't know how to respond to trouble properly a lot of times. All of mommas warnings seem to fall on deaf ears. In a crisis, emotions can get the best of him. He doesn't know that emotional responses can make a situation a lot worse. All he knows is he has to do something. He doesn't have time to think and many times end up doing more harm than good. But he had more time than he thought. But how could he know? Hmmm
And some are fatherless for other reasons. The father may be deceased or incarcerated. Others are the product of unwed parents, where a live-in dad was never an option in the first place. Nevertheless the boy's life doesn't get off to the good start that it would if a 'good father was in
the home'. Sometimes a biological father can be in the home, but his lifestyle has the same negative effect as a boy that is fatherless. And sometimes it's a lot worse. For many of the fathers themselves have not grownup and matured for one reason or another; many are poor leaders, sub-par providers and many mistake abuse (verbal and physical) for discipline. They do more harm than good because of misplace priority and stunted growth in the journey of life. Other times there is a step-dad in the home and many are wonderful fathers. But many are not. Some stepfathers have no use for children that are not their own and the stepchildren are mistreated...sometimes even openly.
Despair not. A bad start does not cement their doom. An ideal home has a 'good dad', but the reality is that all simply do not, probably most do not. But many young boys go on to be fine men and very 'good fathers' themselves. They are more than smooth talkers, their 'love' cuts to the core and does not cut corners. It's the kind of love that put milk and bread on the table. It's the kind of love that doesn't takes their own children's lunch money nor allows them to come home to an empty dinner table. It's the kind of love that doesn't breaks their heart time after time.
Somehow, they figured out that love is more than saying "I love you." They know their love is not suppose to hurt those that they love. Somehow they were taught or learned that true love makes a daddy provide for, protect and defend his children from; true love does and true love gives. They understand that their children don't really want a lot. They only want daddy to give them something every once in awhile, but most of all they just want daddy...to love them. How did they figured out what some daddy's never figure out in a lifetime? They understand why their dad never got it. They understand it's the little things that takes a relationship from nothing to good and from good to special.
Hope every kid has a fathers love in this world I remain.
May lord vishnu bless us all.
P.S.N.KUMAR
How can a so-called father handle such a precious relationship so carelessly? How can they not know that from the time they take their first breath until he takes his last breath, he is supposed to be a daddy? When a father abandons his children, for all intended purposes he has disowned them. It's a hate that can't be matched and it hurts to the bone. Some children never recover, some carry this burden of 'worthlessness' or 'not being good enough' all of their lives.
But it's the son where the most damage is done. His father is as much if not more so apart of his makeup as his mother...and mommas role in his life is just as important...but it's a much different role. A son needs the uniqueness of a 'good daddy', one that will impose his will on his son in times of rebellion, disobedience and defiance. A son needs a 'good daddy' in good times as well...for support and to just share with.
Many of those sons are always looking back, they just can't wipe away the haunting memory of a father that just didn't want them. Having a father they have never been able to count on is a recurring nightmare over and over again. Many boys are in a daze because of the emotional scars. Some will be torched souls for the rest of their natural lives because of their father's indifference and inability to really love them. Some just want to escape to somewhere, anywhere else, but they can't leave, there is nowhere to go.
Even though they go on without him, the pain just won't go away, they're always licking their wounds; they're just shattered. Sometimes, they fool a bunch of folk around them, but no one can hide from what's in their heart. For many, their world will never be right-side-up, so they just give their lives away, all because of fathers that didn't care. It's the disconnect that burdens the son down, they need that connection with his father. They will readily forgive and forget; they will even accept a token love, just hoping to relieve the pain, if not heal the heart.
Because of a fatherless up bringing, sometimes a son feels he has to be a leader, protector, and a provider for the family. He tends to try and grow-up too fast trying to be the 'man of the house'. In reality he is too young for such responsibilities. But he has to help his mom out by doing whatever he can, which can lead to doing the wrong things. When a father is absent his son can develop such reckless habits and miss out on the real value of life. Without a father there to lead, guide and direct his son, trouble can come in a hurry. More times than not, a life of crime will follow. Not always the crimes that sends a youngster to juvenile, a lot of the time it's the petty stuff they get away with. But these petty crimes plant the seed that can become a lifestyle later on. He may even try to fit-in with the wrong crowd. Life is tough as it is, but it can teach a young boy some hard lessons real fast or destroy him before his life even gets started...without a 'good father'.
Because he has no live-in example, he doesn't have proper grooming or know how. He doesn't know how to respond to trouble properly a lot of times. All of mommas warnings seem to fall on deaf ears. In a crisis, emotions can get the best of him. He doesn't know that emotional responses can make a situation a lot worse. All he knows is he has to do something. He doesn't have time to think and many times end up doing more harm than good. But he had more time than he thought. But how could he know? Hmmm
And some are fatherless for other reasons. The father may be deceased or incarcerated. Others are the product of unwed parents, where a live-in dad was never an option in the first place. Nevertheless the boy's life doesn't get off to the good start that it would if a 'good father was in
the home'. Sometimes a biological father can be in the home, but his lifestyle has the same negative effect as a boy that is fatherless. And sometimes it's a lot worse. For many of the fathers themselves have not grownup and matured for one reason or another; many are poor leaders, sub-par providers and many mistake abuse (verbal and physical) for discipline. They do more harm than good because of misplace priority and stunted growth in the journey of life. Other times there is a step-dad in the home and many are wonderful fathers. But many are not. Some stepfathers have no use for children that are not their own and the stepchildren are mistreated...sometimes even openly.
Despair not. A bad start does not cement their doom. An ideal home has a 'good dad', but the reality is that all simply do not, probably most do not. But many young boys go on to be fine men and very 'good fathers' themselves. They are more than smooth talkers, their 'love' cuts to the core and does not cut corners. It's the kind of love that put milk and bread on the table. It's the kind of love that doesn't takes their own children's lunch money nor allows them to come home to an empty dinner table. It's the kind of love that doesn't breaks their heart time after time.
Somehow, they figured out that love is more than saying "I love you." They know their love is not suppose to hurt those that they love. Somehow they were taught or learned that true love makes a daddy provide for, protect and defend his children from; true love does and true love gives. They understand that their children don't really want a lot. They only want daddy to give them something every once in awhile, but most of all they just want daddy...to love them. How did they figured out what some daddy's never figure out in a lifetime? They understand why their dad never got it. They understand it's the little things that takes a relationship from nothing to good and from good to special.
Hope every kid has a fathers love in this world I remain.
May lord vishnu bless us all.
P.S.N.KUMAR
Sunday, June 21, 2009
Fathers day
Today is fathers day. I dont know why it will not receive the same coverage as mothers day. is it that father the most useless thing on the surface of the earth. For me I had been fighting for my son from years i dont know. The mahabharath war ended in 18 days for me its already years and years. Judiciary is very bad. If you have to fight against a person who is in police it is impossible let whatever anybody say. Added to that if that family has person from judical connections it is game over. But still I am fighting. I myself dont know my fate. Nobody to support, this lonely fight is going on and i am also becoming weak. I should get some energy from somewhere to fight it till end. Friends all your love all these years has been helping me, please keep it on going so that i will fight for justice.
May lord vishnu bless u all.
PSN
May lord vishnu bless u all.
PSN
Saturday, June 20, 2009
Karna
Factors that contributed towards Karna's death
1 The first and foremost contributor towards Karna's death was Sage Durvasa himself. While blessing Kunti with a mantra by which she could call upon any god of her choice, he did not tell her the consequence of this incantation. Thus, Kunti calls Surya without being aware of the consequence of the Mantra much before her marriage, panics and subsequently abandons the baby. His upbringing by the charioteer Adiratha denies Karna the recognition of a Kshatriya. It was Karna, not Yudhishtira or Duryodana, who was the true heir to the throne of Hastinapur, but this was not realized as his birth was kept secret.
2 Lord Indra who, in the form of a scorpion
3 When it stings Karna's thigh, angers guru Parasurama, who curses Karna for lying about his caste.
4 The curse of a Brahmin who owned a cow
5 The curse of Bhoomadevi
6 The giving away of his Kavacha and Kundala as alms to Lord Indra, this time disguised as a beggar, because of his extremely generous nature
7 Invoking the Shakti weapon on Gatothkacha
8 Not using the "Nagastra" for the second time in accordance with his second promise to mother Kunti
9 His two promises to mother Kunti
10 Shalya, who dampens Karna's confidence and moral spirit by stating many facts about the Pandavas strength on the seventeenth day of the battle.
11 When Karna comes to know that Pandavas were his brothers by Krishna just before the beginning of the Mahabharath war, then all his hatred towards all Pandavas vanishes. But, to be loyal to Duryodana, Karna decides to fight against Arjuna in the war. On the other hand, none of the Pandavas were aware that Karna was their brother until after Karna's demise
12 Abhimanyu's death
13 Draupadi's insult
14 Lord Krishna, by exhorting Arjun to kill Karna when he was trying to push his chariot out of the mud
15 Bhishma, by declining to accept Karna as a member of the Kaurava army while Bhishma was general
16 Drona, by declining to accept him as a student
17 By the Sun which went down on 17th day of the battle when he had a chance to kill Arjun
18 Arjun with divine weapon
19 Kripacharya making him feel weak when he fights Arjun
20 Lord Indra giving Arjun divine weapons
21 Vishwakarma's gandhiva
22 Lord Shiva's pashupastra
23 Ghandhari doesn't give blessings
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Various curses imparted to Karna
Karna was cursed by his guru Bhagvan Parashurama, a Brahmin and the Earth goddess as described below:
As Karna's training came to completion, Parashurama learned the truth about Karna's origin. One afternoon, he requested Karna to bring a pillow for him to sleep on in a tree's shade. Karna instead offered his teacher his lap. While Parashurama was asleep, a scorpion stung Karna's thigh. Despite the excruciating pain, Karna did not move so as to not disturb his Guru's sleep. As the scorpion bored deeper into Karna's thigh, the wound began to bleed. Parashurama was woken up by the blood from Karna's thigh. He deduced at once that Karna was a Kshatriya and not a Brahmin, as only a Kshatriya would possess the ability to withstand such pain with high patience. Thus, Parashurama, who had sworn vengeance against all Kshatriyas, concluded that Karna lied about being a Brahmin in order to learn from him. So, he cursed Karna that his martial skill including the use of Brahmastra would desert him when he needed them most. This in turn meant that Karna will forget all that he had learnt from Parashurama during his hour of crisis. Karna, who was himself unaware of his royal lineage, pleaded with his Guru that any student in his place would have acted the same way. While he regretted cursing Karna in a moment of anger, Parashurama's curse was irrevocable. He, gifted Karna with a celestial weapon called Bargavastra along with Parashurama's personal bow called Vijaya and blessed him that in the end, Karna would achieve what he wanted the most- an everlasting glory and greatness. Some folklore also tells that, it was Lord Indra himself who took the form of a scorpion to sting Karna's thigh in order to expose his intrinsic identity that he was a Kshatriya.
Departing from Parashurama's ashram, Karna wandered for some time. On his way, while practicing the shabdavedi vidya (the ability to hit a target by just observing the sound), he mistook a cow for a wild animal and shot an arrow at it and killed it. Incensed by this incident, the Brahmin who owned the cow cursed him, stating that as he had killed a helpless unattentive animal, Karna too would be killed in the same way when he was most helpless with his concentration being diverted away from his enemy at that crucial moment.
Andhra folklore further states that on his way, Karna encountered a child who was crying over her pot of spilt ghee. On asking her the reason for her dismay, she stated that she feared her step mother who would be angry over her carelessness. Being generous enough Karna tells her that he will give her new ghee. But, the child insists that she wanted only the ghee that was mixed with the soil and refuses to take the new ghee. Taking pity on the girl, Karna started to take the soil mixed with ghee in his fist and squeezes his hand with all his strength to extract the ghee and pours it back in to the pot. During this process, Karna hears a painful voice of a woman from his hand. When he opens his fist, he finds that it was Bhoomadevi- the Earth goddess. Angered with pain, she criticises Karna for inflicting enormous pain to mother earth just for the sake of a mere child. So, the Earth goddess curses him that in a very crucial battle of his life, she will hold his chariot wheel in the same way he held the fistful of soil thereby making him vulnerable to his enemy.
Thus, Karna is cursed on three separate and independent occasions. Unfortunately, each of these curses becomes operational at the same crucial moment in the Kurukshetra war later making him weaponless, without a chariot and helpless.
Effect of Bhomadevi's curse
The effect of Bhoomadevi's curse is that Karna's chariot wheels will always get stuck on Earth on that crucial day of the battle. In case, Karna happen to use multiple chariots on that particular day, then each chariot wheels would have individually got stuck on Earth. Hence, using multiple chariot by Karna would not eliminate Bhoomadevi's curse.
KRISHNA'S TEST TO KARNA
Before approaching Karna, Krishna assumed the form of an indigent Brahmin. Karna asked him: "Who are you, Sir?" Karna was nearing his last breath. Even at that moment, without any hesitation or faltering in his voice, he put that question to the stranger. Krishna (as the poor Brahmin) replied: "For a longtime I have been hearing about your reputation as a charitable person. You have acquired fame as Daana Karna (Karna the great giver). Today, not knowing about your plight, I came to ask you for a gift. You must give me a donation." "Certainly. I shall give you whatever you want", replied Karna. "I have to perform the marriage of my son. I want a small quantity of gold", said Krishna. "Oh what a pity! Please go to my wife, she will give you as much as gold as you need", said Karna. The Brahmin broke into laughter. He said: "For the sake of a little gold have I to go all he way to Hastinapura? If you say you are not in a position to give me what I ask, I shall leave you." Karna declared: "As long as breath remains in me, I will not say no to anyone." Karna opened his mouth, showed the gold fillings for his teeth and said: "I shall give this to you. You can take them". Assuming a tone of revulsion, Krishna said: "What is it you suggest? Do you expect me to break your teeth and take the gold from them? How can I do such a wicked deed? I am a Brahmin."
KARNA'S PRAYER TO KRISHNA
Immediately, Karna picked up a stone nearby, knocked out his teeth and offered them to the "Brahmin". Krishna in his guise as Brahmin wanted to test Karna further. "What? Are you giving me as gift teeth dripping with blood? I cannot accept this. I am leaving", he said. Karna pleaded: "Swami, please wait for a moment." Even while he was unable to move, Karna took out his arrow and aimed it at the sky. Immediately rain dropped from the clouds, Cleaning the teeth with the rainwater. Karna offered the teeth with both his hands. Krishna then revealed His original form.
Karna asked: "Who are you, Sir?". Krishna said: "I am Krishna. I admire your spirit of sacrifice. In any circumstance you have never given up your spirit of sacrifice. Ask me what you want. "Beholding Krishna's beauteous form, Karna said with folded hands: "Krishna! Aaapadbaandhava! (Oh! Reliever of troubles!) Lokarakshaka! (Protector of the world!) Oh Lord, who holds the Universe in your palm, what can I seek from you? At this moment of my passing, to close my eyes gazing on your Divine form, this is my greatest blessing. This is boon enough for me. To have the vision of the Lord before one's passing is the goal of human existence. You came to me and blessed me with your form. This is enough for me. I offer my salutations to you".
LESSON FOR ARJUNA
Arjuna was observing the whole scene. Krishna turned to him and said: "Are you prepared for this kind of sacrifice?" Arjuna bowed his head in silence. The Lord praised the greatness of the quality of sacrifice in man. Of all kinds of sacrifice, the greatest is the sacrifice made for God.
"Oh Lord! That heart which you gave unto me. I am offering to you. What else can I bring to offer at your lotus feet? I prostrate before you. Please accept my offering." This was the prayer addressed by Karna to Krishna.
Generosity and character
Following his accession to Anga's throne, Karna took an oath that anyone who approached him with a request at midday, when he would worship the Sun, would not go away with his request unfulfilled. He would never let anyone leave empty-handed. This practice contributed to Karna's fame as well as to his downfall, as Indra and Kunti took advantage of it. Further, Karna gets cursed by Bhoomadevi when he tries to fulfill the request of a girl over a ghee that fell in the soil. In the case of Abhimanyu in Chakravyooh, Karna acts in a different way when Abhimanyu requests him to offer a weapon when Abhimanyu was weaponless
Loss of armour
Indra, king of the gods (Devas) and father of Arjuna, realized that Karna would be invincible and immortal in battle as long as he had the golden armour suit and earrings that he was born with. During the Pandavas' exile, when war was imminent, Indra took it upon himself to weaken Karna. He decided to approach Karna as a poor brahmin during his mid-day worship. . Surya warned Karna of Indra's intentions, exhorting him not to give away his armour and earrings. Karna thanks Surya but explains he is bound by his word and can not send anyone from his door empty handed even if it means his death. As Surya had predicted, a disguised Indra approached Karna and asked for his kavacha (body armour) and kundala (earrings) as alms. Karna readily gives them away, cutting the armor and earrings off his body. Indra, shamed into generosity by Karna's gesture, reciprocates by giving Karna the boon to use Indra's most powerful weapon, the Vasavi shakti, but only once. It is at this point that he earns the name Vaikartana, as he cut the armor off his body without flinching.
Kunti and Karna
As the war approached, Kunti met Karna to reveal his true identity. She told him that she was his mother and that he was her son. Then, both of them shared a touching moment together. She told him to call himself as 'Kaunteya' (son of Kunti) instead of 'Radheya', then Karna replies that he wanted the entire world to recognise him as a Radheya and not as a Kaunteya. Kunti asks Karna to join the Pandavas and become the king. Karna refuses and tells Kunti that had she been willing to call him as Kaunteya many years ago when he appeared at the tournament, then things would have been very different. But it was too late now for him to make this change. He further states that being a friend of Duryodhana, he cannot betray the trust of his friend. However, he promises Kunti that he will not kill any of the Pandavas except Arjuna. Both, Karna and Arjuna have sworn to kill each other, and thus one of them were bound to die. So, he tells Kunti that she can only dream of having five sons- the fifth one being either him or Arjuna. Karna requests his mother to keep their relationship and his royal birth a secret until his death.
Kunti also seeks another promise from Karna of not using an arrow / divine weapon more than once. Karna promises her this too. As a result, Karna could not use the Nagastra weapon more than once in the Kurukshetra war later.
On the seventeenth day of the battle, the much awaited duel between Karna and Arjuna finally took place. Both were evenly matched during this spectacular combat. Karna has been gifted with a bow called Vijaya by his guru Parashurama. This bow was designed by Vishwakarma himself. On Duryodhana's request, Shalya reluctantly agreed to drive Karna's chariot. His charioteer skills were equal to that of Lord Krishna after having mastered Ashwahridaya - "Art of Horses".
During the battle, when Arjuna's arrows struck Karna's chariot, it moved back by several feet. However, when Karna's arrows struck Arjuna's chariot, it moved back only by a few inches. Krishna praised Karna for this. But, Arjuna got astonished and asked him the reason for his praise, since his (Arjuna's) arrows were more effective than that of Karna. In response, Krishna told Arjuna that Karna's chariot bore only the weight of Karna and Shalya. On the other hand, Arjuna's chariot bore the weight of the entire universe since Krishna and Hanuman were on the chariot. Despite this, Karna was able to move it by inches.
Similarly, Karna cuts the string of Arjuna's bow multiple times. But, at each instant he finds that Arjuna was able to tie back the bow string at a wink of an eye (in extremely short time). For this, Karna praises Arjuna and remarks to Shalya that now he understood as why people call him the greatest archer in the world.
Karna and Arjuna fought a long and intense duel utilizing their full knowledge of divine weaponry and tactics against each other. Karna uses his "Nagastra" and aims it at Arjuna's head in an effort to sever it from Arjuna's body. But, Lord Krishna cleverly saves Arjuna by plunging the chariot into the earth at the right time. As a result, the "Nagastra" just pierces Arjuna's crown istead of his head. The snake Ashwasena that was present as a Nagastra came before Karna and requested him to reuse this weapon again, so that it will not spare Arjuna this time. Karna refused to use this arrow again (due to his second promise to mother Kunti). Though the duel was initially held at a stalemate, Karna is hampered when his chariot wheel sinks into the ground on a loose wet soil (The Bhooma Devi's curse thus came into effect). He also finds himself unable to remember the incantations for divine weapons, as his teacher Parashurama had foretold. Descending from his chariot to remove the wheel, he requests Arjuna to wait until it is set right as per the rules of battle. Krishna told Arjuna that Karna has no right to refer to the rules at this point, after having violated the same by himself while killing Abhimanyu (See below). He urged Arjuna to shoot him while he is helpless (The Brahman's curse came into effect here). Lord Krishna told Arjuna that if he does not kill Karna at this critical juncture of the war, he may never be able to kill him and the Pandavas may never win the war. Thus, Arjuna decapitates Karna by using a divine arrow
After Karna's death
Following the war, funeral rites were performed for all the fallen. Kunti then requests her sons to perform the rites for Karna as well. When they protest, saying he was a suta, she reveals the truth of his birth. The brothers are shocked to find they have committed fratricide. Yudhishtira in particular is furious with his mother, and curses all women to never be able to keep a secret from that point on.
Yudhisthira and Duryodhana both wanted to perform the last rites for Karna. Yudhisthira claimed that the right was his, given the fact that he was Karna's own younger brother. Duryodhana claimed that Yudhisthira never treated Karna as a brother and couldn't claim any rights at this point of time. At this point, Lord Krishna intervened and convinced Yudhisthira that the bond of friendship is greater, and that Duryodhana should be given the right to perform Karna's last rites.
After the 18-day Mahabharata war at Kurukshetra ends, Lord Krishna asks Arjuna to step down from his chariot. When Arjuna does so, Krishna then takes Arjuna some distance away from the chariot. Then he signals to Lord Hanuman seated on the chariot to get up. The moment Lord Hanuman jumps off the chariot, Arjuna's horses are burnt alive and his chariot explodes into pieces. Seeing this, Arjuna is shocked. Krishna then tells him that the deadly astras of Bheeshma, Drona, Karna and Ashwattama had caused the destruction of Arjuna's horses and chariot. It was the divine presence of Lord Hanuman that maintained the chariot in a proper condition by postponing the effects of their divine weapons.
1 The first and foremost contributor towards Karna's death was Sage Durvasa himself. While blessing Kunti with a mantra by which she could call upon any god of her choice, he did not tell her the consequence of this incantation. Thus, Kunti calls Surya without being aware of the consequence of the Mantra much before her marriage, panics and subsequently abandons the baby. His upbringing by the charioteer Adiratha denies Karna the recognition of a Kshatriya. It was Karna, not Yudhishtira or Duryodana, who was the true heir to the throne of Hastinapur, but this was not realized as his birth was kept secret.
2 Lord Indra who, in the form of a scorpion
3 When it stings Karna's thigh, angers guru Parasurama, who curses Karna for lying about his caste.
4 The curse of a Brahmin who owned a cow
5 The curse of Bhoomadevi
6 The giving away of his Kavacha and Kundala as alms to Lord Indra, this time disguised as a beggar, because of his extremely generous nature
7 Invoking the Shakti weapon on Gatothkacha
8 Not using the "Nagastra" for the second time in accordance with his second promise to mother Kunti
9 His two promises to mother Kunti
10 Shalya, who dampens Karna's confidence and moral spirit by stating many facts about the Pandavas strength on the seventeenth day of the battle.
11 When Karna comes to know that Pandavas were his brothers by Krishna just before the beginning of the Mahabharath war, then all his hatred towards all Pandavas vanishes. But, to be loyal to Duryodana, Karna decides to fight against Arjuna in the war. On the other hand, none of the Pandavas were aware that Karna was their brother until after Karna's demise
12 Abhimanyu's death
13 Draupadi's insult
14 Lord Krishna, by exhorting Arjun to kill Karna when he was trying to push his chariot out of the mud
15 Bhishma, by declining to accept Karna as a member of the Kaurava army while Bhishma was general
16 Drona, by declining to accept him as a student
17 By the Sun which went down on 17th day of the battle when he had a chance to kill Arjun
18 Arjun with divine weapon
19 Kripacharya making him feel weak when he fights Arjun
20 Lord Indra giving Arjun divine weapons
21 Vishwakarma's gandhiva
22 Lord Shiva's pashupastra
23 Ghandhari doesn't give blessings
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Various curses imparted to Karna
Karna was cursed by his guru Bhagvan Parashurama, a Brahmin and the Earth goddess as described below:
As Karna's training came to completion, Parashurama learned the truth about Karna's origin. One afternoon, he requested Karna to bring a pillow for him to sleep on in a tree's shade. Karna instead offered his teacher his lap. While Parashurama was asleep, a scorpion stung Karna's thigh. Despite the excruciating pain, Karna did not move so as to not disturb his Guru's sleep. As the scorpion bored deeper into Karna's thigh, the wound began to bleed. Parashurama was woken up by the blood from Karna's thigh. He deduced at once that Karna was a Kshatriya and not a Brahmin, as only a Kshatriya would possess the ability to withstand such pain with high patience. Thus, Parashurama, who had sworn vengeance against all Kshatriyas, concluded that Karna lied about being a Brahmin in order to learn from him. So, he cursed Karna that his martial skill including the use of Brahmastra would desert him when he needed them most. This in turn meant that Karna will forget all that he had learnt from Parashurama during his hour of crisis. Karna, who was himself unaware of his royal lineage, pleaded with his Guru that any student in his place would have acted the same way. While he regretted cursing Karna in a moment of anger, Parashurama's curse was irrevocable. He, gifted Karna with a celestial weapon called Bargavastra along with Parashurama's personal bow called Vijaya and blessed him that in the end, Karna would achieve what he wanted the most- an everlasting glory and greatness. Some folklore also tells that, it was Lord Indra himself who took the form of a scorpion to sting Karna's thigh in order to expose his intrinsic identity that he was a Kshatriya.
Departing from Parashurama's ashram, Karna wandered for some time. On his way, while practicing the shabdavedi vidya (the ability to hit a target by just observing the sound), he mistook a cow for a wild animal and shot an arrow at it and killed it. Incensed by this incident, the Brahmin who owned the cow cursed him, stating that as he had killed a helpless unattentive animal, Karna too would be killed in the same way when he was most helpless with his concentration being diverted away from his enemy at that crucial moment.
Andhra folklore further states that on his way, Karna encountered a child who was crying over her pot of spilt ghee. On asking her the reason for her dismay, she stated that she feared her step mother who would be angry over her carelessness. Being generous enough Karna tells her that he will give her new ghee. But, the child insists that she wanted only the ghee that was mixed with the soil and refuses to take the new ghee. Taking pity on the girl, Karna started to take the soil mixed with ghee in his fist and squeezes his hand with all his strength to extract the ghee and pours it back in to the pot. During this process, Karna hears a painful voice of a woman from his hand. When he opens his fist, he finds that it was Bhoomadevi- the Earth goddess. Angered with pain, she criticises Karna for inflicting enormous pain to mother earth just for the sake of a mere child. So, the Earth goddess curses him that in a very crucial battle of his life, she will hold his chariot wheel in the same way he held the fistful of soil thereby making him vulnerable to his enemy.
Thus, Karna is cursed on three separate and independent occasions. Unfortunately, each of these curses becomes operational at the same crucial moment in the Kurukshetra war later making him weaponless, without a chariot and helpless.
Effect of Bhomadevi's curse
The effect of Bhoomadevi's curse is that Karna's chariot wheels will always get stuck on Earth on that crucial day of the battle. In case, Karna happen to use multiple chariots on that particular day, then each chariot wheels would have individually got stuck on Earth. Hence, using multiple chariot by Karna would not eliminate Bhoomadevi's curse.
KRISHNA'S TEST TO KARNA
Before approaching Karna, Krishna assumed the form of an indigent Brahmin. Karna asked him: "Who are you, Sir?" Karna was nearing his last breath. Even at that moment, without any hesitation or faltering in his voice, he put that question to the stranger. Krishna (as the poor Brahmin) replied: "For a longtime I have been hearing about your reputation as a charitable person. You have acquired fame as Daana Karna (Karna the great giver). Today, not knowing about your plight, I came to ask you for a gift. You must give me a donation." "Certainly. I shall give you whatever you want", replied Karna. "I have to perform the marriage of my son. I want a small quantity of gold", said Krishna. "Oh what a pity! Please go to my wife, she will give you as much as gold as you need", said Karna. The Brahmin broke into laughter. He said: "For the sake of a little gold have I to go all he way to Hastinapura? If you say you are not in a position to give me what I ask, I shall leave you." Karna declared: "As long as breath remains in me, I will not say no to anyone." Karna opened his mouth, showed the gold fillings for his teeth and said: "I shall give this to you. You can take them". Assuming a tone of revulsion, Krishna said: "What is it you suggest? Do you expect me to break your teeth and take the gold from them? How can I do such a wicked deed? I am a Brahmin."
KARNA'S PRAYER TO KRISHNA
Immediately, Karna picked up a stone nearby, knocked out his teeth and offered them to the "Brahmin". Krishna in his guise as Brahmin wanted to test Karna further. "What? Are you giving me as gift teeth dripping with blood? I cannot accept this. I am leaving", he said. Karna pleaded: "Swami, please wait for a moment." Even while he was unable to move, Karna took out his arrow and aimed it at the sky. Immediately rain dropped from the clouds, Cleaning the teeth with the rainwater. Karna offered the teeth with both his hands. Krishna then revealed His original form.
Karna asked: "Who are you, Sir?". Krishna said: "I am Krishna. I admire your spirit of sacrifice. In any circumstance you have never given up your spirit of sacrifice. Ask me what you want. "Beholding Krishna's beauteous form, Karna said with folded hands: "Krishna! Aaapadbaandhava! (Oh! Reliever of troubles!) Lokarakshaka! (Protector of the world!) Oh Lord, who holds the Universe in your palm, what can I seek from you? At this moment of my passing, to close my eyes gazing on your Divine form, this is my greatest blessing. This is boon enough for me. To have the vision of the Lord before one's passing is the goal of human existence. You came to me and blessed me with your form. This is enough for me. I offer my salutations to you".
LESSON FOR ARJUNA
Arjuna was observing the whole scene. Krishna turned to him and said: "Are you prepared for this kind of sacrifice?" Arjuna bowed his head in silence. The Lord praised the greatness of the quality of sacrifice in man. Of all kinds of sacrifice, the greatest is the sacrifice made for God.
"Oh Lord! That heart which you gave unto me. I am offering to you. What else can I bring to offer at your lotus feet? I prostrate before you. Please accept my offering." This was the prayer addressed by Karna to Krishna.
Generosity and character
Following his accession to Anga's throne, Karna took an oath that anyone who approached him with a request at midday, when he would worship the Sun, would not go away with his request unfulfilled. He would never let anyone leave empty-handed. This practice contributed to Karna's fame as well as to his downfall, as Indra and Kunti took advantage of it. Further, Karna gets cursed by Bhoomadevi when he tries to fulfill the request of a girl over a ghee that fell in the soil. In the case of Abhimanyu in Chakravyooh, Karna acts in a different way when Abhimanyu requests him to offer a weapon when Abhimanyu was weaponless
Loss of armour
Indra, king of the gods (Devas) and father of Arjuna, realized that Karna would be invincible and immortal in battle as long as he had the golden armour suit and earrings that he was born with. During the Pandavas' exile, when war was imminent, Indra took it upon himself to weaken Karna. He decided to approach Karna as a poor brahmin during his mid-day worship. . Surya warned Karna of Indra's intentions, exhorting him not to give away his armour and earrings. Karna thanks Surya but explains he is bound by his word and can not send anyone from his door empty handed even if it means his death. As Surya had predicted, a disguised Indra approached Karna and asked for his kavacha (body armour) and kundala (earrings) as alms. Karna readily gives them away, cutting the armor and earrings off his body. Indra, shamed into generosity by Karna's gesture, reciprocates by giving Karna the boon to use Indra's most powerful weapon, the Vasavi shakti, but only once. It is at this point that he earns the name Vaikartana, as he cut the armor off his body without flinching.
Kunti and Karna
As the war approached, Kunti met Karna to reveal his true identity. She told him that she was his mother and that he was her son. Then, both of them shared a touching moment together. She told him to call himself as 'Kaunteya' (son of Kunti) instead of 'Radheya', then Karna replies that he wanted the entire world to recognise him as a Radheya and not as a Kaunteya. Kunti asks Karna to join the Pandavas and become the king. Karna refuses and tells Kunti that had she been willing to call him as Kaunteya many years ago when he appeared at the tournament, then things would have been very different. But it was too late now for him to make this change. He further states that being a friend of Duryodhana, he cannot betray the trust of his friend. However, he promises Kunti that he will not kill any of the Pandavas except Arjuna. Both, Karna and Arjuna have sworn to kill each other, and thus one of them were bound to die. So, he tells Kunti that she can only dream of having five sons- the fifth one being either him or Arjuna. Karna requests his mother to keep their relationship and his royal birth a secret until his death.
Kunti also seeks another promise from Karna of not using an arrow / divine weapon more than once. Karna promises her this too. As a result, Karna could not use the Nagastra weapon more than once in the Kurukshetra war later.
On the seventeenth day of the battle, the much awaited duel between Karna and Arjuna finally took place. Both were evenly matched during this spectacular combat. Karna has been gifted with a bow called Vijaya by his guru Parashurama. This bow was designed by Vishwakarma himself. On Duryodhana's request, Shalya reluctantly agreed to drive Karna's chariot. His charioteer skills were equal to that of Lord Krishna after having mastered Ashwahridaya - "Art of Horses".
During the battle, when Arjuna's arrows struck Karna's chariot, it moved back by several feet. However, when Karna's arrows struck Arjuna's chariot, it moved back only by a few inches. Krishna praised Karna for this. But, Arjuna got astonished and asked him the reason for his praise, since his (Arjuna's) arrows were more effective than that of Karna. In response, Krishna told Arjuna that Karna's chariot bore only the weight of Karna and Shalya. On the other hand, Arjuna's chariot bore the weight of the entire universe since Krishna and Hanuman were on the chariot. Despite this, Karna was able to move it by inches.
Similarly, Karna cuts the string of Arjuna's bow multiple times. But, at each instant he finds that Arjuna was able to tie back the bow string at a wink of an eye (in extremely short time). For this, Karna praises Arjuna and remarks to Shalya that now he understood as why people call him the greatest archer in the world.
Karna and Arjuna fought a long and intense duel utilizing their full knowledge of divine weaponry and tactics against each other. Karna uses his "Nagastra" and aims it at Arjuna's head in an effort to sever it from Arjuna's body. But, Lord Krishna cleverly saves Arjuna by plunging the chariot into the earth at the right time. As a result, the "Nagastra" just pierces Arjuna's crown istead of his head. The snake Ashwasena that was present as a Nagastra came before Karna and requested him to reuse this weapon again, so that it will not spare Arjuna this time. Karna refused to use this arrow again (due to his second promise to mother Kunti). Though the duel was initially held at a stalemate, Karna is hampered when his chariot wheel sinks into the ground on a loose wet soil (The Bhooma Devi's curse thus came into effect). He also finds himself unable to remember the incantations for divine weapons, as his teacher Parashurama had foretold. Descending from his chariot to remove the wheel, he requests Arjuna to wait until it is set right as per the rules of battle. Krishna told Arjuna that Karna has no right to refer to the rules at this point, after having violated the same by himself while killing Abhimanyu (See below). He urged Arjuna to shoot him while he is helpless (The Brahman's curse came into effect here). Lord Krishna told Arjuna that if he does not kill Karna at this critical juncture of the war, he may never be able to kill him and the Pandavas may never win the war. Thus, Arjuna decapitates Karna by using a divine arrow
After Karna's death
Following the war, funeral rites were performed for all the fallen. Kunti then requests her sons to perform the rites for Karna as well. When they protest, saying he was a suta, she reveals the truth of his birth. The brothers are shocked to find they have committed fratricide. Yudhishtira in particular is furious with his mother, and curses all women to never be able to keep a secret from that point on.
Yudhisthira and Duryodhana both wanted to perform the last rites for Karna. Yudhisthira claimed that the right was his, given the fact that he was Karna's own younger brother. Duryodhana claimed that Yudhisthira never treated Karna as a brother and couldn't claim any rights at this point of time. At this point, Lord Krishna intervened and convinced Yudhisthira that the bond of friendship is greater, and that Duryodhana should be given the right to perform Karna's last rites.
After the 18-day Mahabharata war at Kurukshetra ends, Lord Krishna asks Arjuna to step down from his chariot. When Arjuna does so, Krishna then takes Arjuna some distance away from the chariot. Then he signals to Lord Hanuman seated on the chariot to get up. The moment Lord Hanuman jumps off the chariot, Arjuna's horses are burnt alive and his chariot explodes into pieces. Seeing this, Arjuna is shocked. Krishna then tells him that the deadly astras of Bheeshma, Drona, Karna and Ashwattama had caused the destruction of Arjuna's horses and chariot. It was the divine presence of Lord Hanuman that maintained the chariot in a proper condition by postponing the effects of their divine weapons.
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
Dance Show - Lesson I learnt.
Hi friends,
I was watching one of the dance shows coming on the tv where pairs come and dance. There are good number of pairs which have come and danced on the floor. What makes a winner is how much each other understand rather than how beautiful they are. The pair which was looking great could not make to next round where as the pair which was not so great looking but had perfect understanding made it. Similarly in life how big wife and husband doesnt make sense but how much each they can forgive each other and take others burden counts.
Hope lord vishnu bless us all.
P S N KUMAR
I was watching one of the dance shows coming on the tv where pairs come and dance. There are good number of pairs which have come and danced on the floor. What makes a winner is how much each other understand rather than how beautiful they are. The pair which was looking great could not make to next round where as the pair which was not so great looking but had perfect understanding made it. Similarly in life how big wife and husband doesnt make sense but how much each they can forgive each other and take others burden counts.
Hope lord vishnu bless us all.
P S N KUMAR
Father
A father is a source of strength,
A teacher and a guide,
The one his family looks up to
With loving trust and pride...
A father is a helper
With a willing hand to lend,
A partner, an adviser,
And the finest kind of friend
Unfortunately I could not become a good son nor a good father.
A teacher and a guide,
The one his family looks up to
With loving trust and pride...
A father is a helper
With a willing hand to lend,
A partner, an adviser,
And the finest kind of friend
Unfortunately I could not become a good son nor a good father.
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
Positive Mind set
Having a positive mindset towards your goals is a prerequisite for any meaningful achievement you will make in life.
Your mindset is at the top of the deciding factors of your success in life. Having faith in your ability to achieve your specific goals and actually believing that it will happen means that all your body systems are poised for such achievements. And this will make it possible for you to take the required actions towards achieving such goals.
These actions could be in a form of step by step hurdles which are achievable one after the other, in order to simplify the process of actualizing your goals.
A negative mindset, on the other hand, will discourage your body systems from taking any constructive steps towards the specific goals you have in mind and this if not properly controlled will lead to set backs.
A positive mindset is an aspect of Positive Self Talk. It is a powerful force which enables you to see life as worth-living and makes all things possible and achievable. If you believe you will succeed on a specific goal it will make it attractive and worth while for you to take the necessary steps towards achieving the goals.
A weak mindset needs to be put in the proper shape because it is most likely to lower your progress in life.
One of the best ways to reconstruct how your mind works is to establish a belief or even a faith. A strong belief or faith is a powerful tool, which when properly harnessed with the right actions will propel you to big and outstanding successes.
If you believe you will succeed on a specific goal and you see yourself taking practical daily steps and actions towards the set goals, it is only a matter of time for the goal to manifest.
Thoughts Create Things
All those scenarios created in the past have become your realities.
Thoughts are things and that's what they do - they become materialized.
Any thoughts consistently held with emotion will seek to manifest itself in the material world.
That's the secret of the mind manifestation.
•In the beginning, the price of giving great love is risking that it won't be returned. Until you understand, of course, that great love is always returned.
With interest,
Your mindset is at the top of the deciding factors of your success in life. Having faith in your ability to achieve your specific goals and actually believing that it will happen means that all your body systems are poised for such achievements. And this will make it possible for you to take the required actions towards achieving such goals.
These actions could be in a form of step by step hurdles which are achievable one after the other, in order to simplify the process of actualizing your goals.
A negative mindset, on the other hand, will discourage your body systems from taking any constructive steps towards the specific goals you have in mind and this if not properly controlled will lead to set backs.
A positive mindset is an aspect of Positive Self Talk. It is a powerful force which enables you to see life as worth-living and makes all things possible and achievable. If you believe you will succeed on a specific goal it will make it attractive and worth while for you to take the necessary steps towards achieving the goals.
A weak mindset needs to be put in the proper shape because it is most likely to lower your progress in life.
One of the best ways to reconstruct how your mind works is to establish a belief or even a faith. A strong belief or faith is a powerful tool, which when properly harnessed with the right actions will propel you to big and outstanding successes.
If you believe you will succeed on a specific goal and you see yourself taking practical daily steps and actions towards the set goals, it is only a matter of time for the goal to manifest.
Thoughts Create Things
All those scenarios created in the past have become your realities.
Thoughts are things and that's what they do - they become materialized.
Any thoughts consistently held with emotion will seek to manifest itself in the material world.
That's the secret of the mind manifestation.
•In the beginning, the price of giving great love is risking that it won't be returned. Until you understand, of course, that great love is always returned.
With interest,
Friday, June 12, 2009
t-20 chase has a limit.
Hi friends ,
After a long time with a new post. One thing that i have learnt from t-20 is even in this short form of game inspite of knowing the target teams tend to fail. This has given me a reason that even in life which is short we tend to fail. Like people who wish to have kids but still they fail. After long time i think i have also failed in few shorter aspects which i am digesting slowly as there is no other vent leftout. Keep watching t-20 and hope the best team wins.
May lord vishnu keep everybody happy.
P.S.N.KUMAR
After a long time with a new post. One thing that i have learnt from t-20 is even in this short form of game inspite of knowing the target teams tend to fail. This has given me a reason that even in life which is short we tend to fail. Like people who wish to have kids but still they fail. After long time i think i have also failed in few shorter aspects which i am digesting slowly as there is no other vent leftout. Keep watching t-20 and hope the best team wins.
May lord vishnu keep everybody happy.
P.S.N.KUMAR
Saturday, May 30, 2009
May god rest his soul in peace.
Friends,
I am sad to inform the demise of our beloved friend T.Ravi who is no more after all our efforts to get him to normal life failed. Amar's efforts to do the best for Ravi could not prove good. Friends the link of the blog below if it helps any of your friends going through the same state our Ravi went before leaving this world will be best tribute we can pay to T.Ravi.
http://loveblog.in/heart-break/depression-and-suicidal-thoughts-after-heartbreak/
How To Avoid Depression And Suicidal Thoughts After A Breakup:
1) Voice your feelings to someone close. Avoid bottling up your emotions.
2) Don’t beg him/her to get back again. If he/she has decided to move on, don’t become desperate to get back.
3) Avoid wallowing.
4) Throw away all photographs and mementos of being together.
5) If there was a ring involved, give it back.
6) Read about current affairs. You will understand how many people are suffering all over the world. Your heartbreak will sound petty when you compare those suffering from famines, floods and terrorist bombings.
7) Focus your mind on your career.
8) Get involved in family matters and look after those who need your support.
9) Take part in a charity drive.
10) Don’t hate all men/women because you had fallout with one man/woman.
Heartbreak is not easy. Everything heals with time. So unless you make the effort to move on, life will only feel like a stagnating pit where people can only lend an arm, it is you who has to grab it and pull yourself up. Learn to stay positive and the right one will walk with you soon.
I am sad to inform the demise of our beloved friend T.Ravi who is no more after all our efforts to get him to normal life failed. Amar's efforts to do the best for Ravi could not prove good. Friends the link of the blog below if it helps any of your friends going through the same state our Ravi went before leaving this world will be best tribute we can pay to T.Ravi.
http://loveblog.in/heart-break/depression-and-suicidal-thoughts-after-heartbreak/
How To Avoid Depression And Suicidal Thoughts After A Breakup:
1) Voice your feelings to someone close. Avoid bottling up your emotions.
2) Don’t beg him/her to get back again. If he/she has decided to move on, don’t become desperate to get back.
3) Avoid wallowing.
4) Throw away all photographs and mementos of being together.
5) If there was a ring involved, give it back.
6) Read about current affairs. You will understand how many people are suffering all over the world. Your heartbreak will sound petty when you compare those suffering from famines, floods and terrorist bombings.
7) Focus your mind on your career.
8) Get involved in family matters and look after those who need your support.
9) Take part in a charity drive.
10) Don’t hate all men/women because you had fallout with one man/woman.
Heartbreak is not easy. Everything heals with time. So unless you make the effort to move on, life will only feel like a stagnating pit where people can only lend an arm, it is you who has to grab it and pull yourself up. Learn to stay positive and the right one will walk with you soon.
Vasu- My friend
Hello Friends,
Today I want to write something about my friend K.srinivasa Reddy( vasu). He is my friend for the past 25+ years and this is an achivement in itself. Today is a great day as vasu has done his house warming of his new house at Saidabad. For me its a festival day as I have seen vasu growing with me from 25 years. He was with me in every good and bad time of mine. I still remember vasu bowling with Malcom Marshall's action. The bet matches between anand nagar versus akbarbagh. tutions in the evening at Prabhakar sir's house. Then college days , life. Vasu was with me all along. I think if god has done any good to me in life it is giving a friend like vasu. Vasu's Marriage with Deepa, then vasu's first kid shravani and then the baby boy kushal. Completed family circle. Over time bought a car, house and completed social life. Now in 7 years vasu will complete first school life of kid. I wish all the best for him. I understood life from him. I am opposite to Vasu failed in life time and again. But still vasu loves me. I failed in dreams to have my kid. Vasu treats me as a kid. God please keep this friend of mine and his love before I leave this world for he is only one who never cheated me or parted from me. Please fulfill atleast this wish god.
Friends no reply posts please for this is about the person who loves me a lot and i have no place for any analysis about such a nice person. This is a opportunity for me to thank such a nice friend.
May lord vishnu bless all with happiness.
Today I want to write something about my friend K.srinivasa Reddy( vasu). He is my friend for the past 25+ years and this is an achivement in itself. Today is a great day as vasu has done his house warming of his new house at Saidabad. For me its a festival day as I have seen vasu growing with me from 25 years. He was with me in every good and bad time of mine. I still remember vasu bowling with Malcom Marshall's action. The bet matches between anand nagar versus akbarbagh. tutions in the evening at Prabhakar sir's house. Then college days , life. Vasu was with me all along. I think if god has done any good to me in life it is giving a friend like vasu. Vasu's Marriage with Deepa, then vasu's first kid shravani and then the baby boy kushal. Completed family circle. Over time bought a car, house and completed social life. Now in 7 years vasu will complete first school life of kid. I wish all the best for him. I understood life from him. I am opposite to Vasu failed in life time and again. But still vasu loves me. I failed in dreams to have my kid. Vasu treats me as a kid. God please keep this friend of mine and his love before I leave this world for he is only one who never cheated me or parted from me. Please fulfill atleast this wish god.
Friends no reply posts please for this is about the person who loves me a lot and i have no place for any analysis about such a nice person. This is a opportunity for me to thank such a nice friend.
May lord vishnu bless all with happiness.
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
IPL 2009 - Deccan Chargers - My views.
What a final between Deccan chargers and Banglore Royal Chargers. Worth watching it till end. Lot of lessons to learn from this tournament. First let me analyze the teams. Kolkatta Knight Riders of ShahRukh Khan. This team has all big names like Brendon Mccullum, Sourav Ganguly, Chris gayle, Ishant Sharma. The problem was the coach who created confusions to such extent that people lost faith on each other in team. Hence they ended at the bottom of the table rightly. Any team which doesnot have common goal ends like that only. Next Mumbai, all great players Sachin Tendulkar, Sanath Jayasurya, Zaheer khan, Harbajhan Singh, Lasith Malinga etc. They played for individualistic not for team. Any person who thinks he is great and doesnot care for team goal is bound to face this situation. Ego of being greats made sure of their fall. Any person in any walk of like personal or professional feels individualistic is bound to bite the dust. The same happened to Mumbai Indians. Let us see the semifinal matches. Deccan Chargers versus Delhi Dare Devils. The match was supposed to have been fought more close than the way it went ahead. Virendra Sehwag played a very loose shot which got him out. He is a champion batsman, but he hardly believes in team goals even being a captain. That one match has taken away all the wins which Delhi had in the initial rounds. Chennai versus Banglore, what a match it was. Dhoni and Kumble both showed their mettle. But only one team can win and Banglore did as they did few mistake than chennai Super kings. But full credit goes to both the teams for such a good match. Dhoni was cool even after loss and presented himself as a nice gentleman. The last was the finals. I personally met Kumble at Delhi and he is a champion cricketer. He has the guts to open the bowling to Gilchrist. He is a spinner and bowling to Gilchrist where grip on ball is zero is not easy. But he took the challenge and got Gilchrist clean bowled in the first over of the match itself. We all know what is Gibbs. But look at the maturity that guy has carried. He was there till the end by guiding the younger players like T.Suman(nobody knows him before IPL), Venugopal Rao, A.Bilakhia(not even ranji player), harmeet singh. That is what is the quality needed for success whether sports or life. He made sure that a decent total is posted on the board. When it came to bowling Harris, RP opened with such a tight spell it has made Banglore to try something different. Deccan Chargers did not have big names but believed in their leader Adam Gilchrist and jelled well as a team. That was the difference in that game. Look at the bowling of harminder singh and superb catch(dream catch), look at Pragyan Ojha what a bowling, these are not big names but they did for the team. In any aspect of life people who work for teams and understand goals properly will deliver the results and people who are invidualistic and opportunistic for fame( Sachin, jayasurya doing idea ads) are bound to bite dust. Rajasthan royals was a great team, but they lacked services of shane watson and pakisthani bowler. I love this team too for spirit of game from Ravinera Jadeja, Naman Ojha etc. So friends finally a great show by deccan chargers who deserve this win for having people who played for team rather than indivisualists.
May god vishnu bless all with happiness.
May god vishnu bless all with happiness.
Saturday, May 23, 2009
Elections 2009 -An analysis from PSN Kumar.
Hi friends,
Its nice that the elections in India are over. The people of India has given their mandate and best wishes for the UPA government to take the country forward fulfilling the aspirations and hopes of the people of India. This elections have been unique in many ways. First the partners of UPA have moved out thinking it will not come back into power. The samajwadi party, the RJD, the LJP etc. For NDA the BJD has moved away. Then there was third front and fourth front etc along with left. If I analyze why NDA has not made to govt it is basically its own faults. First, it had the JD(U) in its campaign which was not 100%. Mr. Nitish Kumar sometimes says NDA some times says UPA. Any alliance should not have a person like this as it does no good to that alliance. Then there is Shivsena in Maharashtra, which says we are open to have advani as Prime Minister but not oppose Sharad Pawar also for prime minister if needed as he is from Maharashtra. Any alliance which doesnot behave as a single entity will face dust what ever be the leader. On the other hand UPA got rid of the nagging partners like SP,RJD and LJP and went to people saying this is what i can do if given chance. People saw truth in that and voted to UPA. Today the fate is that even if SP,RJD,BSP,LJP want to extend their support to UPA it is sheer waste as they cannot expect Ministries in return. All said and done teams which had faith in each other have made to the chair and teams which nagged and infighted have been left to lick their wounds caused on each other. Let us hope the new govt delivers results.
May lord vishnu keep everybody in the country happy.
Sunday, April 26, 2009
How to make Indian democracy more meaningful.
Hello Friends,
Today I want to share my views on drastically different thing, on how to make democracy more meaningful in terms of voting in india. The biggest problem i see in voting in indian democracy is it takes quantity into account and not quality. First Indian voting system needs to undergo a drastic change. Let every person be identified by what he is so that the false votes into the system can be veeded off. Today every person has one of mobile phone, Pancard, bank account etc even to remote village levels. Let the person be identified by using any of them and create a universal number one for each individual and capture his education levels till one month before elections. Let the special skills like he is an industrialist etc be also captured and then let there be some multiplication factor for the votes. An vote of IAS officer should carry more weight to the weight given by a person who is a rickshaw puller. The reason and logic behind this being that the first looks the future of country on a bigger scale where as the latter looks on very small scale. Similarly the age of 35-60 should get extra points as future is very important at that age and they would have got some maturity due to age provided they have minimum education qualification. If we can incorporate things like this it will force people to do education and bring a country forward which can think of future.
Today I want to share my views on drastically different thing, on how to make democracy more meaningful in terms of voting in india. The biggest problem i see in voting in indian democracy is it takes quantity into account and not quality. First Indian voting system needs to undergo a drastic change. Let every person be identified by what he is so that the false votes into the system can be veeded off. Today every person has one of mobile phone, Pancard, bank account etc even to remote village levels. Let the person be identified by using any of them and create a universal number one for each individual and capture his education levels till one month before elections. Let the special skills like he is an industrialist etc be also captured and then let there be some multiplication factor for the votes. An vote of IAS officer should carry more weight to the weight given by a person who is a rickshaw puller. The reason and logic behind this being that the first looks the future of country on a bigger scale where as the latter looks on very small scale. Similarly the age of 35-60 should get extra points as future is very important at that age and they would have got some maturity due to age provided they have minimum education qualification. If we can incorporate things like this it will force people to do education and bring a country forward which can think of future.
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
Slumdog Rubina Ali, Relatives.
Hi Friends,
Today let me put my views about Slumdog girl Rubina. Friends i always feel mind is a different kind of tool which can accept and reject things. In the first case, it is real sad of the incident to happen with a small girl. But today relatives or so called relatives real colours are shown. The mother of the girl has left the baby girl and is living her life somewhere. The moment she came to know that her girl is in limelight she started to have saying she is my daughter. The same applies to her mama and step mother ,relatives including father. Let me bring to your notice one thing. Today how many girls are given away to sheikhs from dubai, saudi in the name of marriage and their future will be secured. Every week we see this happening. The mother of girls is a 'WELL WISHER' of the girl and she wants her to be married to the shiekh though she herself is married to a rickshaw puller. The relatives who know whatever is happening is bad still keep silent to get their pound of flesh(money). While all this is happening even if somebody approaches the girl and ask her to revole in 90% of cases they say my parents will do only good to me. Even in the case of rubina at the end she said i want to be with daddy only.
The concept of selling is not new to indian society. We had Raja Harishchandra who tried to sell his wife and kid but we feel he did best and console ourselves saying he did that because his time was going bad. Yudhishter could bet his wife for his pleasure of playing the game, but still we will console ourselves with something else. Friends do you dont see that it is time that we should mature and see truth as truth for ourselves. There are lot of families around us who are victims of the 'WELL WISHERS'. Isn't it the time to tell people to come out this concept of well wishers.Think with open brain and if it makes sense let us take a oath not to allow lifes to spoiled under the pretext of well wishers. LET US ALLOW PEOPLE LIVE LIFE. life is not just inhaling and exhaling. Think join force for a better tomorrow with society filled with LIFE.
May Lord vishnu bless uand familiy with joy and prosperity.
Today let me put my views about Slumdog girl Rubina. Friends i always feel mind is a different kind of tool which can accept and reject things. In the first case, it is real sad of the incident to happen with a small girl. But today relatives or so called relatives real colours are shown. The mother of the girl has left the baby girl and is living her life somewhere. The moment she came to know that her girl is in limelight she started to have saying she is my daughter. The same applies to her mama and step mother ,relatives including father. Let me bring to your notice one thing. Today how many girls are given away to sheikhs from dubai, saudi in the name of marriage and their future will be secured. Every week we see this happening. The mother of girls is a 'WELL WISHER' of the girl and she wants her to be married to the shiekh though she herself is married to a rickshaw puller. The relatives who know whatever is happening is bad still keep silent to get their pound of flesh(money). While all this is happening even if somebody approaches the girl and ask her to revole in 90% of cases they say my parents will do only good to me. Even in the case of rubina at the end she said i want to be with daddy only.
The concept of selling is not new to indian society. We had Raja Harishchandra who tried to sell his wife and kid but we feel he did best and console ourselves saying he did that because his time was going bad. Yudhishter could bet his wife for his pleasure of playing the game, but still we will console ourselves with something else. Friends do you dont see that it is time that we should mature and see truth as truth for ourselves. There are lot of families around us who are victims of the 'WELL WISHERS'. Isn't it the time to tell people to come out this concept of well wishers.Think with open brain and if it makes sense let us take a oath not to allow lifes to spoiled under the pretext of well wishers. LET US ALLOW PEOPLE LIVE LIFE. life is not just inhaling and exhaling. Think join force for a better tomorrow with society filled with LIFE.
May Lord vishnu bless uand familiy with joy and prosperity.
Monday, April 20, 2009
Love Marriage versus Arranged Marriage.
Hi Friends,
Today I want to discuss something on Love Marriage versus Arranged Marriages. Though both the marriages have their advantages and disadvantages. The love marriages take a brunt the moment it is a failure. Let me put my views and you can put your views for discussion on this. When it is a love marriage without the agreement of the parents, both the sides will be looking for a smallest of the opportunity to show that it is a failure. In such a case, such a marriage success is far less unless the two people have total faith in each other. In most of the cases, a small event can create a clutter and the bond breaks once for all as the so called 'WELL WISHERS' make an entry into the bond. The second kind of love marriage is a marriage where people love and their elders accept it out of force or compulsions of not losing the son or daughter. The breakage of this is slightly less than the first one, but whenever a gap comes, its bound to break very easily. The third type of marriage is arranged marriage, which the elders try to keep it in tact as their personal ego is associated with it. If the marriage cannot create love between the couple after marriage this type of marriages also end up in failure. So the most important thing is the trust between the couple. No body is perfect in this world. Finding faults is the most easiest thing. The moment u start finding faults people or so called 'WELL WISHERS' enter and create the gap to such an extent that is practically not patchable. So friends have faith in ur otherside and lead a great life.
Please post your views on this.
May lord vishnu bless u all.
Today I want to discuss something on Love Marriage versus Arranged Marriages. Though both the marriages have their advantages and disadvantages. The love marriages take a brunt the moment it is a failure. Let me put my views and you can put your views for discussion on this. When it is a love marriage without the agreement of the parents, both the sides will be looking for a smallest of the opportunity to show that it is a failure. In such a case, such a marriage success is far less unless the two people have total faith in each other. In most of the cases, a small event can create a clutter and the bond breaks once for all as the so called 'WELL WISHERS' make an entry into the bond. The second kind of love marriage is a marriage where people love and their elders accept it out of force or compulsions of not losing the son or daughter. The breakage of this is slightly less than the first one, but whenever a gap comes, its bound to break very easily. The third type of marriage is arranged marriage, which the elders try to keep it in tact as their personal ego is associated with it. If the marriage cannot create love between the couple after marriage this type of marriages also end up in failure. So the most important thing is the trust between the couple. No body is perfect in this world. Finding faults is the most easiest thing. The moment u start finding faults people or so called 'WELL WISHERS' enter and create the gap to such an extent that is practically not patchable. So friends have faith in ur otherside and lead a great life.
Please post your views on this.
May lord vishnu bless u all.
Friday, April 17, 2009
Father- A non thankful Role
Hi Friends,
Today I want to bring a topic which i was thinking of putting to discussion from long time. Whenever you ask anybody everybody talks about mothers love, her hardships etc. But friends the love and affection the father brings never comes to front, nor his hardships just go unnoticed. I want to touch upon from the past and put it to the thought of your intelligent brains. I am told Ramayana and saw it on TV also. There used to be a king called Dasaratha. He married Kausalya, but the couple could not be blessed with Kid. So he married Sumitra and then Kaika. But there was no luck of kids to the King. So he did putrakameshti yagam to have kids. That trial was a successful one and he was blessed with a bowl of sweet rice which is shared between the three wives of king. Kausalya was blessed with Sri Rama, Sumitra with Lakshmana and Kaika with Bharatha and Shatrughna. The kids were closed to their mothers and were looked after well by all the three. Kaika was very close to Sri Rama. The day of declaring the prince for throne has come and Dasaratha wanted Ram to be the next person as he is the eldest son. Kaika for her selfish desires wanted Bharat as King and she pressed Dasarath to fulfill her wish as she has a word from Dasaratha long time ago. Dasaratha accepted and Ram went to Jungle. It was Dasaratha who died thinking of Ram and being depressed of Ram's love and affection. It should be noted that neither kausala,sumitra nor Kaika died for the love and affection of Ram.
Next comes the thing of Ravan. The Emperor Ravana had a son by name Meghanath. After Meghanath has won the war against Indra, the king of gods, Ravana conferred the title of 'INDRA JIT' to Meghanath and was proud of his sons accomplishment. When the war was on its full swing Indrajit seeks the blessings of his father and enters war. He brings down Laxman who was saved by Hanuman by getting the herbs from Himalayas. The next day was a different and Indrajit is killed. Ravan has lost battle at that time, when he says winning this war has no use and it is only for records. The words Ravan uses for Indrajit shows that as father his love was above everything.
Next let me come to Mahabharat, devaki was married to vasudev and Kansa comes to know of the eighth kid who will kill him. When the eigth kid(krishna) was born, it was the father Vasudev who takes the boy and dares to cross yamuna and go out to save his kid.
Friends there can be n number of examples that can be given. But the truth is father is a person who loves you more as he makes your career, he creates your future and for that he puts everything at stake. What does a father expect a smile from his son/daughter bas. Today in this era of emails we are forgetting the importance of relations.
Please make sure you write( hand write) a letter once in a week to your father about any aspect. Believe me a father is very happy receiving it. Please dont use emails for it does not show the stroke of alphabet which is ur unique. Please think of it and keep writing atleast a letter to your father on weekend as it will not take more than 10 min to respect the person who has put everything at stake for your/our future. please think on this and pen your views.
May lord vishnu bless u all with a happy and peaceful life.
PSN KUMAR
Today I want to bring a topic which i was thinking of putting to discussion from long time. Whenever you ask anybody everybody talks about mothers love, her hardships etc. But friends the love and affection the father brings never comes to front, nor his hardships just go unnoticed. I want to touch upon from the past and put it to the thought of your intelligent brains. I am told Ramayana and saw it on TV also. There used to be a king called Dasaratha. He married Kausalya, but the couple could not be blessed with Kid. So he married Sumitra and then Kaika. But there was no luck of kids to the King. So he did putrakameshti yagam to have kids. That trial was a successful one and he was blessed with a bowl of sweet rice which is shared between the three wives of king. Kausalya was blessed with Sri Rama, Sumitra with Lakshmana and Kaika with Bharatha and Shatrughna. The kids were closed to their mothers and were looked after well by all the three. Kaika was very close to Sri Rama. The day of declaring the prince for throne has come and Dasaratha wanted Ram to be the next person as he is the eldest son. Kaika for her selfish desires wanted Bharat as King and she pressed Dasarath to fulfill her wish as she has a word from Dasaratha long time ago. Dasaratha accepted and Ram went to Jungle. It was Dasaratha who died thinking of Ram and being depressed of Ram's love and affection. It should be noted that neither kausala,sumitra nor Kaika died for the love and affection of Ram.
Next comes the thing of Ravan. The Emperor Ravana had a son by name Meghanath. After Meghanath has won the war against Indra, the king of gods, Ravana conferred the title of 'INDRA JIT' to Meghanath and was proud of his sons accomplishment. When the war was on its full swing Indrajit seeks the blessings of his father and enters war. He brings down Laxman who was saved by Hanuman by getting the herbs from Himalayas. The next day was a different and Indrajit is killed. Ravan has lost battle at that time, when he says winning this war has no use and it is only for records. The words Ravan uses for Indrajit shows that as father his love was above everything.
Next let me come to Mahabharat, devaki was married to vasudev and Kansa comes to know of the eighth kid who will kill him. When the eigth kid(krishna) was born, it was the father Vasudev who takes the boy and dares to cross yamuna and go out to save his kid.
Friends there can be n number of examples that can be given. But the truth is father is a person who loves you more as he makes your career, he creates your future and for that he puts everything at stake. What does a father expect a smile from his son/daughter bas. Today in this era of emails we are forgetting the importance of relations.
Please make sure you write( hand write) a letter once in a week to your father about any aspect. Believe me a father is very happy receiving it. Please dont use emails for it does not show the stroke of alphabet which is ur unique. Please think of it and keep writing atleast a letter to your father on weekend as it will not take more than 10 min to respect the person who has put everything at stake for your/our future. please think on this and pen your views.
May lord vishnu bless u all with a happy and peaceful life.
PSN KUMAR
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
Hope has a time limit.
Dear Friends,
When i first came across this statement, i could not understand. I am told in school, college and by eminent elders that you should not loose hope till end. So this was a drastically different thing for me. But I know somebody who had put this would have thought long before making such a statement. I started to dig into it and found yes the statement is true. Hope has a limit till result comes. A student who has appeared in exams will wait for the result with a hope that he will pass in flying colours. When the results come the hope could turn true or false. So the hope ceases to end after the result. It may give rise to a new hope that I will perform better for a better result but the hope of this has ended is the truth. Similarly we see love failing or marriages failing. A lover has a hope that his/her lover will fulfill/try to fulfill the promises made but when circumstances doesnot support it, their love slowly fades and the hope that it can be reborn is also lost in some circumstances. Similar is the case with marriages when they tend to fail. Hope is the ultimate tool for business. When u can create a hope of good , the business automatically flows. when such hope is lost, even big business houses fall down in seconds which we had seen in stock market recently. Friends do post your views on this.
May lord vishnu bless everybody with happiness and prosperity.
When i first came across this statement, i could not understand. I am told in school, college and by eminent elders that you should not loose hope till end. So this was a drastically different thing for me. But I know somebody who had put this would have thought long before making such a statement. I started to dig into it and found yes the statement is true. Hope has a limit till result comes. A student who has appeared in exams will wait for the result with a hope that he will pass in flying colours. When the results come the hope could turn true or false. So the hope ceases to end after the result. It may give rise to a new hope that I will perform better for a better result but the hope of this has ended is the truth. Similarly we see love failing or marriages failing. A lover has a hope that his/her lover will fulfill/try to fulfill the promises made but when circumstances doesnot support it, their love slowly fades and the hope that it can be reborn is also lost in some circumstances. Similar is the case with marriages when they tend to fail. Hope is the ultimate tool for business. When u can create a hope of good , the business automatically flows. when such hope is lost, even big business houses fall down in seconds which we had seen in stock market recently. Friends do post your views on this.
May lord vishnu bless everybody with happiness and prosperity.
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